#147 Emotions—do you ignore them or let them run the show?In this episode, we dive into why learning to process emotions with God is one of the most important areas to grow in as a single woman. Whether you tend to bottle up your feelings or let them dictate your decisions, understanding how to handle them biblically can transform not only your relationship with God but also your future marriage.

Join Kim and Jena as Leah unpacks:

• The two common ways people deal with emotions (and the pitfalls of both!)

• What the Bible teaches about emotions and how Jesus modeled them

• A simple process to help you name, feel, and surrender your emotions to God

• How unprocessed emotions can affect your spiritual, mental, and even physical health

If you want to grow in emotional maturity, deepen your intimacy with God, and prepare for a thriving marriage—this episode is for you!

Listen now and learn how to love your future husband before you even meet him by stewarding your emotions well today.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Feelings Wheel https://feelingswheel.com/
• Search for Verses Resource https://www.openbible.info/topics/value
• Praying Our Tears Article https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=DxOWWWVDGD0

Steps to Process Our Emotions:

Copyright Leah St.Germain/Catherine Leach.

Printed with Permission

1. Pray
2. Name the Emotions
3. Feel the Emotion
4. Describe the Painful Event 
5. How It Made You Feel
6. Lies You Could Be Believing (about God and Self)
7. Truth From Scripture
8. Pray and Ask for God’s Help To Believe What’s True
9. Share with a Trusted Friend

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#146 What does it mean to have faith in Christ? How does it relate to relationships and marriage? What will help your faith thrive in the seasons ahead of you?

Listen in as co-hosts Charlotte and Jena sit down with Kim as she reflects on her 40-year spiritual journey and shares candid insights on maintaining a strong faith in all of life's challenges.

Whether you're navigating the complexities of modern dating, seeking purpose in singleness, or striving to deepen your spiritual walk, Kim's experiences offer practical wisdom and encouragement for your journey.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

#86 Growing Closer to God

#68 Processing Your Hurts

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What happens when you have two single women and two married women discussing important topics for single women?

You have the Season 8 Podcast Team!

In this episode, you'll get to know our newest podcast team member, and you'll be able to listen to our discussion on the loudest, most influential voice in each of our lives.

Click ⁠here⁠ to find out more about the bookmarks mentioned on the podcast.

#145 A lasting, enjoyable marriage doesn't just happen--it starts with how you date. If you follow the same dating patterns as the culture, you'll likely end up in the same place: frustration, heartbreak, and disappointment. But what if there's a better way?

In this episode, Kim and Jena sit down with Colin and Karisa to uncover three common dating pitfalls that can derail your path to a lasting, God-honoring marriage. Get ready for real talk, practical wisdom, and the kind of advice that could change your love life forever!

Related Episodes:

#28 Setting Boundaries in Dating

#28B Bonus Boundaries Episode

#107 K-I-S-S-I-N-G

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Our instagram page is at ⁠@sixonesis⁠

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#144: For years, Anna convinced herself that love wasn't something she needed--playing it cool, staying unattached, and pretending she didn't care. But deep down, she longed for a real, God-honoring relationship.

As friends around her found love, got engaged, and started families, she found herself battling jealousy instead of joy...until one day she made a decision to love love even when it wasn't happening to her. Join us as Anna shares four ways she's been able to do that.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

For a copy of Leah'sBoyfriend Devo, please email Kim at [email protected].

Related Episodes:

#82: Happy Valentine's Day! (Part 1)

#114: Happy Valentine's Day! (Part 2)

#2: Is it Love-If, Love-Because, or Love-Regardless?

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In this bonus episode, Kim sits down with her friend Tracy Baack, who has gone from reader to romance writer! They discuss how Tracy found her way into writing, the role of her faith in her storytelling, and why she chooses to write closed-door romances.

Tracy shares what makes this genre unique, the misconceptions people might have, and why it resonates with so many readers. We also talk about faith-driven relationships, the importance of emotional boundaries when reading romance, and what shapes the love stories she tells.

Tune in for an inspiring conversation about love, faith, and the power of storytelling to encourage single Christian women in their pursuit of meaningful relationships.

Tracy's website is tracybaack.com

Here's a link specifically to Love and Other Goals and Tracy's other books:

https://a.co/d/fzVYiIX

Her Instagram is @authortracybaack

https://www.instagram.com/authortracybaack?igsh=MWR5NXV0bmkydzlyZg==

Other bookstagrammers on instagram:

@krystals.book.nook shares only closed-door romance

https://www.instagram.com/krystals.book.nook?igsh=czJzNDJ1M2pyOHdt

@annascleanreads also shares only closed-door recs

https://www.instagram.com/annascleanreads?igsh=a2MweG50N240a2Zu

@parismaereads shares a wider variety of books, but she includes content guides and pages to skip on romances that are not closed-door

https://www.instagram.com/parismaereads?igsh=MXhjYWRjdXZxbzljag==

@thereallifebookreviewer is a popular big account that shares a wide variety of books with spice ratings and chapters to skip. She reads more of the popular trending books, so this is a good account to follow if people are wanting to know what to skip in popular books

https://www.instagram.com/thereallifebookreviewer?igsh=NmhkNGswdDloczF6

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/

To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders

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#143: In this conversation, Kim, Jena, and Charlotte discuss music. Jena shares some compelling insights about how influential music can be. Because of music's powerful influence, she passes along some helpful truths and principles to guide us to detox our playlist.

 "If music is influential, then when I’m listening to music, it is influencing and affecting my life- for better or for worse. This makes me want to be thoughtful and wise about what music I consume." --Jena

Resources:

Clearplay.com

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#142: Our guests today are Cat and Jeremy Leach. If you've listened to the podcast for a while, you'll probably remember them. Cat has been on numerous times. The episode they did while engaged, "Why Waiting Was Worth It," is in the TOP TEN of ALL of our episodes.

Cat and Jeremy boast a hefty single girl and single guy resume,' so they understand singleness well. Now that they are married and have become parents, they share in this episode the habits they formed in singleness that have made their marriage thrive.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/

To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders

To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form

For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠

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Repost #111: Have you made some goals for 2025? Is one of them to get married? If so, you need to listen to this episode!

Kim has a goal-setting gene in her DNA, but Adrienne and Leah don’t. Join in on their discussion, where Kim shares her best insights about successful goal-setting to help you move toward becoming who you want to be in 2025. 

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The LifeScore Assessment ⁠https://assessments.fullfocus.co/lifescore/⁠

Plant Nanny App

⁠https://apps.apple.com/us/app/plant-nanny-cute-water-tracker/id1424178757⁠

The Bible Recap ⁠https://www.thebiblerecap.com/start⁠

Want more? Read the book!

⁠https://www.amazon.com/Loving-Your-Husband-Before-Even/dp/1944298339/ref=sr_1_1?crid=276N9TGK94SI4&keywords=loving+your+husband+before+you+even+have+one&qid=1705967769&sprefix=loving+your+%2Caps%2C145&sr=8-1⁠

Repost #40: The Christmas countdown is on, and our guest this week LOVES Christmas! She knows how to make it special whether she has a man or not. Cat joins us on this episode to share her insights and best tips for making this your best Christmas yet!

Resources mentioned:

Repost #74: The holidays can be a complicated season to navigate, especially as a single woman.  Whether it’s a conversation topic we want to bring up ... or a conversation we’d rather avoid at all costs ... we all need help getting prepped to go home for the holidays! Today our guest is Ryan O’Sullivan, and she’s going to be giving us 3 seasoned tips on how to prepare to spend time at home this holiday season.

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

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To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders

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For video clips from the podcast, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠

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