Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One

#172 A recent cultural projection suggests that by 2030, nearly half of women, ages 25-44, in the U.S. could be single and without children. For women who hope to marry someday, that's discouraging news.

But cultural projections don't determine your future--God does.

In this final episode of Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One, Kim and her husband Sean discuss four practical steps single women can take to live faithfully, pursue God wholeheartedly, and move forward with hope regardless of what the projections say.

Resources mentioned:

Episodes #54, #120, #146, & #164

"Something's Missing" by John Mayer

Alpha Program: https://alphausa.org/

The Bible Recap: https://www.thebiblerecap.com/

A Praying Life by Paul Miller

Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book

https://www.amazon.com/Loving-Your-Husband-Before-Even/dp/196280254X/ref=monarch_sidesheet_title

Website: kimvollendorf.com

Email: [email protected]

#171 In this powerful and honest conversation, Kim’s dear friend Niki shares the story behind those words. Raised in a culture that promised women they could “have it all,” Niki pursued success, independence, and a career-first life—believing everything else would fall into place later.

But life didn’t unfold the way she expected.

With vulnerability and wisdom, Niki reflects on what she wishes she had known, how her faith drifted in her early years, and the moment everything began to change. Her story is both a gentle warning and a beautiful reminder: it’s never too late for God to redeem, restore, and lead us into something better.

This episode is for every woman who wants to follow God—but feels the tension of all the voices telling her what her life should look like.

Related Episodes:

• #53 Jena on Contentment
• #71 Why Waiting Was Worth It
• #118 Discipleship and the Single Girl
• #167 Your Single Season is Doing More Than You Realize
• #170 When Singleness Feels Unsteady: The Anchor You Need

The full video episode is available on Spotify--enjoy!

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

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#170 Singleness can feel steady one day… and completely unsteady the next.

One minute you’re confident in God’s timing. The next, you’re wondering why your plans aren’t unfolding the way you hoped. You can do “everything right” and still find yourself waiting, grieving, questioning, or feeling behind.

So what actually keeps you steady?

As we begin wrapping up the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One podcast, we’re stepping back to look at the thread that has quietly run through every episode over the past five years: the character of God.

In this episode, Char shares three truths that have echoed through countless stories shared on the podcast:

    •    God is a Restorer — He doesn’t just fix what’s broken; He redeems, renews, and gives new identity.

    •    God is a Provider — In seasons of waiting, loss, or uncertainty, He supplies what we truly need.

    •    God is Sovereign — When life doesn’t follow your timeline, His purposes still stand.

This podcast was never a formula to get a husband. It was always about not putting off knowing and loving God until “real life” begins.

If singleness feels unsteady right now, this episode is about the anchor that will hold you.

Other episodes mentioned:

• Bonnie #91
• Abby #104
• Abby's new podcast--> Always Here
• Joy #136
• Hallie #31
• Greer #37
• Carrie #7
• Lance & Susan #11
• Julia #12
• Alex #29
• Kennedy #5
• RJ & Kim #50
• Brittany #97
• Vaughans #140

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

Find the current version of Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book on Amazon with this link:

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#169 What do you do when God gives you a piece of your story that doesn’t make sense?

Maybe it’s prolonged singleness. Maybe it’s a closed door, a disappointment, or a season you never would have chosen.

In this meaningful sunset-season conversation, Kim sits down with co-hosts Jena and Char to talk about what Jena calls the “red puzzle pieces” of life—the unexpected, confusing, and often painful circumstances that don’t seem to fit with the rest of the picture.

Through honest stories and biblical truth from Proverbs 3:5–6, Jena shares three powerful anchors that have helped her trust God in seasons that felt uncertain, including singleness, health challenges, and unanswered questions.

Together, they explore how to:

• Trust God’s character when life doesn’t make sense

• Stop relying on your own understanding and timelines

• Seek God even when you don’t have answers

• Find peace in knowing He is still writing your story

If you’ve ever wondered whether God sees you, cares about your situation, or knows what He’s doing with your life, this episode will remind you that He does.

The red puzzle piece may not make sense today—but one day, you’ll see how it became part of something beautiful.

Resources mentioned on this episode:

We're reading through the Bible together. Please join us! We're using The Bible Recap via the Bible app, and you can access our group with this link:

 https://bible.com/reading-plans/42399/together/77206996/invitation?token=V458AwmTNqsiT5r7-rYSWw&source=share

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

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#168 It's easy to think your single years are just something to get through--but what if they're actually shaping your future marriage right now?

In this episode, Kim is joined by Kinsey and Fisher for a candid conversation about the habits, boundaries, and spiritual decisions they made before marriage--and how those choices are paying off today. Together, they talk about discipleship, dating with clarity, growing in faith, and the ways God uses singleness to prepare us for what's next.

If you've ever wondered whether your daily choices actually matter, this conversation will remind you: they do.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Kinsey's episode #148
• Fisher's episode #99
• Processing Your Emotions #147
• Starting Over in Purity #104
• Do You Have a Spiritual Mentor? #59
• Money 101 #45
• Let's Talk Money #9

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

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#167 This episode marks the beginning of our sunset season—and what better way to begin than with the voices who helped start it all.

In this conversation, Kim is joined by the original co-hosts, Adrienne and Leah, and we reflect on what God has done through Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One over the past five years. Together, we look back with gratitude and talk honestly about what they’re especially thankful they invested in during their single years—and how that faithfulness is bearing fruit now in marriage and motherhood.

From discipleship and work ethic to physical health, waiting, finances, and counseling, this episode grounds the message of the podcast in lived wisdom. It’s a reminder that the choices you make in singleness—especially the unseen ones—are never wasted.

As we step into this final season together, Kim's hope is that these conversations help you carry what matters most forward with peace, trust, and hope for what God has ahead.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Leah's episodes: #3, #110,

Leah's episode on emotions: #147

Courtney's episode: #129

Adrienne's episodes: #28, #112,

Money episodes: #9, #9B, #9C, #45,

Sam's episode on gossip #32

Jena's episode on contentment: #53

Cat's episode on waiting: #71

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

Here's the Amazon link for the book: https://www.amazon.com/Loving-Your-Husband-Before-Even/dp/196280254X/ref=monarch_sidesheet_title

Instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠

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#166 With Valentine's Day around the corner, this felt like the perfect time to bring back one of the most foundational episodes from the early days of the podcast.

In this conversation, Kim and OG co-host Adrienne talk about the difference between love-if, love-because, and love-regardless--and why understanding true love can protect your heart from relationships built on feelings alone.

This message changed the trajectory of Kim's life as a college student, and she still believes it's one every woman needs to hear. Kim and Adrienne are joined by special guest Steve Shadrach, who shares wisdom from the Bible study that helped shape Kim's understanding of real, lasting love.

Whether you're single, dating, or just reflecting during Valentine's season, this episode is worth a listen (or re-listen).

Get your copy of the book that started this podcast at https://amzn.to/4qrBRBZ

For more information about the podcast, please visit https://www.kimvollendorf.com

#165 As 2025 comes to a close, we thought we'd revisit our favorite episode from the year.

You guys loved it when Danny was a guest this summer! In Episode #153, he sat down with us to talk about patience.

• What does it look like to wait well--not just in dating, but in every area of life?

• How do we trust God when His timing feels frustrating or unclear?

You'll hear real-life encouragement, a few honest struggles, and some Biblical wisdom that will help you stay grounded in seasons of waiting--all from a guy's point of view!

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Episode #66 Four Reasons Why He's Not Asking You Out
• The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer
• Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One Book
• kimvollendorf.com

#164 What does reading the Bible have to do with singleness, relationships, and a future marriage?

More than you might think.

In this episode, Kim is joined by co-hosts Jena and Charlotte to talk about one of the most formative rhythms of the Christian life: reading God’s Word. Together, they share their personal experiences with reading through the Bible—what they loved, what felt hard, what kept them coming back—and why this habit has shaped the way they see God, themselves, love, and marriage.

If you’ve ever felt intimidated by the Bible, fallen behind on a reading plan, or wondered whether reading the Bible “really makes a difference,” this conversation is for you. We talk honestly about common struggles (hello, Leviticus 😅), give practical tips for building consistency without guilt, and remind you that the goal isn’t perfection—it’s relationship.

We’ll also invite you to read through the Bible with us in 2026 using The Bible Recap, and we’ll show you exactly how to join us so you don’t have to do it alone.

Whether you’re single, married, brand new to the Bible, or coming back after a break, this episode will encourage you to open God’s Word with fresh confidence—and maybe even excitement.

Because loving your husband before you even have one starts with knowing the God who designed love in the first place.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

To read the Bible with us:

1. Download the Bible app--> https://www.bible.com/

2. Click on the link below to join our group:

Would you read the Bible Plan, The Bible Recap With Tara-Leigh Cobble, with me?

3.Any problems joining the group? Just email Kim at [email protected]

For more information about the Bible app and for other reading plan ideas go to https://www.bible.com/

For more information about The Bible Recap go to https://www.thebiblerecap.com/start

For more information about the podcast, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

If you are interested in getting a new copy of the book Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One, please use this link on Amazon-->https://www.amazon.com/Loving-Your-Husband-Before-Even/dp/196280254X/ref=monarch_sidesheet_title

To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/

For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠

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#163 Are you tired of the Christian “try harder” cycle—be consistent, fall off, feel guilty, reset, repeat?

You’re not alone. And Jesus never meant for your relationship with Him to feel like that.

In this episode, Charlotte and Kim talk with Baylor StuMo staffer Kenzie, who shares why so many young women misunderstand the Christian life… and how Jesus offers something far better than spiritual perfectionism. If you’ve ever wondered why your walk with God feels stuck, this conversation will set your heart free.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Episode #54 The Best News Ever
• Episode #146 Celebrating 40 Years: An Honest Chat with Kim about Faith, Relationships, and Finishing Strong

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/

For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠

Thanks for listening!