Make the Shift

"Ask yourself if what you're doing today is helping you getting you closer to where you want to be tomorrow."~Unknown 

In this episode I'm going to share with you some of the current things in my work that I am tolerating.  While they might seem like simple things, it's surprising at how much they really are taxing on your energy.  What might you be tolerating in your work or career?  It could be something as simple as the lights not working great, to the heat pummeling out of the vents, making it impossible for you to focus.  

Or maybe it's something a bit larger on the spectrum like that website copy you really need to get written or having that crucial conversation with your employer about that raise you know you deserve.   

Either way- you cannot change what you tolerate. It's time to plug those little pesky things that are draining your energy so you can show up powerfully and create a purpose-filled life!

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TOLERATIONS DETOX SHEET 

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"Being healthy is a way of life.  It's not just about what you feed your body; it's about what you feed your mind and the social environment you keep."

~Dr. Steve Maraboli

Did you know that your Environment is EVERYTHING?

You’ve probably heard it before but what does that mean?  We're not talking about your closet (although I LOVE a good closet detox too).

When I talk about environment I am talking about where you are putting your energy.

Who you are surrounding yourself with, what kind of material are you reading, what blogs do you subscribe to, what kind of facebook groups are you in, who are you following on social media, what emails are coming into your inbox everyday?

This week, we are going to do some toleration detox around what you are choosing within your environment

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“At the end of the day, let there be no excuses, no explanations, no regrets.”

I believe that you are called to be a sacred leader.  A woman who is set apart for a very specific purpose and calling.  

But maybe it's been awhile since you have tapped into that calling.  Maybe it's been covered up and hidden away for awhile.  

Getting clear on your calling, and aligning with your assignment  often times requires that you let go of some things in order to step into the   woman that you are becoming.  

So for the next few weeks I am introducing something called Toleration Detox as part of our Spring Cleaning Series. 

Tolerations are defined as: to allow to be or to be done without prohibition, hindrance, or contradiction.   To put up with.

 As women we often tolerate and allow certain behaviors.  We tend to make excuses, justifications and reasons as to why we can’t, or shouldn’t.  

Join me in this episode as I give you permission to let go of what you are tolerating in the area of health of wellness.  

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“It’s time for a spring cleaning of your thoughts, it’s time to stop to just existing it’s time to start living.”

If you want more abundance, more freedom, more joy, more contribution, more fulfillment, more happiness, more levity, play, lightness you have to let go of the things that are taking up space in your life and causing you to hold on to your old limited way of being.

Many of us hold onto our history and it’s blocking our REAL power that is within.  We make decisions based on our history instead of what our heart actually wants right now.  We carry it with us like a ball and chain.

Too much stuff can fill us up and drain our energy.  But it's not just external "stuff."  Things like overcommitment, overwhelm, and spending too much time with people and things that drain us and not enough time leaning into the activities that fuel and excite us.  

Listen in to this Spring Clean Your Life series to get you up and leaning into the unstoppable, extraordinary, powerful badass leader that you are.  The woman that is here to leave an impact in whatever way she is called... you don't have time to be drained by things that are no longer serving you.  We need you!  We need your voice!

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"If you're always racing to the next moment, what happens to the one you're in?"  ~Anonymous

Are you someone who moves through life at breakneck speed?  Are you CONSTANTLY finding that you are just too busy and consumed with everything around you?  Are you dying to just slow down a little bit?

Try filling in these blanks:

I just wish I had more time to (fill in the blank).

If I wasn't so busy I would totally do (fill in the blank).

I'm so tired of (fill in the blank).

I wish I didn't have to (blank) anymore.

To help me break down HOW we actually slow down,  Jessie Carr is joining me on today's episode.  Jessie is a certified professional coach and founder of The Linger Movement- a lifestyle brand and community that transforms the way we experience everyday moments.  Jessie teaches others to get back in the drivers seat of their own life by actually slowing down to chase awe.  We discuss in this episode how she went from the golden handcuffs of having a high profile job at Google to a woman who is now obsessed in soaking up the moments around her.  

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A day without laughter is a day wasted….Anonymous

Do you often go through life feeling pressurized?  Maybe you feel like you’re a pressure cooker waiter to explode.  Perhaps you are just one step away from losing your SH*T on anyone that asks for one more thing from you.

Whatever stress and circumstances you’re facing it’s so important to remember to add a little laughter and levity in your life

My guest today is Jacci Andersen a certified laughter leader expert and JOYOLOGIST.  Yes, you read that right, a joyologist and Jacci knows the pressure of corporate life and trying to “do it all,”  much too well.  

Jacci’s philosophy is that laughter is imperative in life.  It is a coping mechanism to relieve stress and tension-a little something we could ALL use right now.

Join Jacci and I as we why laughter is so critical and why we must find the humor and the funny in all situations.

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Each moment describes who you are, and gives you the opportunity to decide if that's who you want to be. -iPEC Principle

Does it sometimes seem like everyone else is more confident than you?  Do you often feel like people around you are a bit more sure of themselves than you are?

The truth is, more than likely they have doubts just like you do.  (AHHHHH...BIG relief-it’s not just you).

So if that is true, then what’s the big secret to being more confident?  Why is it that some people seem to have it and others don’t?

The answer is actually quite simple.

Confidence is something you create. It is something that comes from within.  True confidence is not based on anything external.  It is completely related to your attitude, energy and level of consciousness.

This pod explores:

🎧Why managing your mind is CRITICAL to your success, leadership and confidence.  Change your thoughts, change your life really is where it's at. 

🎧Being aware of WHERE  you are placing your thoughts.  

🎧Building awareness around what skills, traits and qualities you already posses that you might be overlooking and how this can be an instant confidence booster.

🎧4 simple ways to eliminate your stress-(stress is a huge confidence sucker).

For more information about Krista Resnick, visit https://kristaresnick.com/

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💋The FREE Selfish Badass Squad: HERE

💋Not sure where to start with Radical Self Care?  Download the PDF HERE

💋Sign up the NEW Morning Brew-connection, coaching and coffee HERE

💣P.S.  Are you looking to be and feel more confident, brave and powerful in your life this year?  Perhaps it’s time for you to consider 1:1 coaching.  I have a few slots available for new clients and would love to have a conversation with you about it HERE

Are you struggling with fear, anxiety, helplessness, and isolation during the COVID-19 outbreak?

You’re not alone.

And yet, I BELIEVE that we are being called to do life in a whole new way through this confusing time.  

💣I believe we are being called to reset, reflect and re-adjust.  And yet nothing about this feels easy or light.  It feels like darkness in many facets. 

💣Never has there been a time that I have seen where it is so evident in those who are managing their minds and those who are not.

But It doesn't matter if it’s the Coronavirus, saying no to the PTA or asking for what you need.  You GET to rise up and lead.

This Bonus Pod explores:

🎤Why showing up messy is way better than perfect

🎤How powerful you actually are.

🎤Why thought work matters not only during this time of confusion but everyday.

For more information about Krista Resnick, visit https://kristaresnick.com/

💋Follow her on Instagram HERE

💋The FREE Selfish Badass Squad: HERE

💋Not sure where to start with Radical Self Care?  Download the PDF HERE

💋Sign up the NEW Morning Brew-connection, coaching and coffee HERE

💣P.S.  Are you looking to be and feel more confident, brave and powerful in your life this year?  Perhaps it’s time for you to consider 1:1 coaching.  I have a few slots available for new clients and would love to have a conversation with you about it HERE

I don't want to be at the mercy of my emotions.  I want to use them, enjoy them and to dominate them.  Oscar Wilde

How many times have you heard that crying is a sign of weakness?

That expressing your feelings was being "all dramatic" or immature?

Perhaps you were taught to suppress your anger, sadness or fear in attempt to prevent friends and family from judging you.

Maybe you feel like you have to put on your suck it up buttercup face everyday in an attempt to not feel rejected by the tribe at the office.

Or you just stay busy, running from one thing to the next, so you never have to slow and actually-you know, FEEL?

Yes emotions can be uncomfortable.  So in an attempt to not be uncomfortable  we stuff, numb, run, avoid-anything but feel those feelings!

But here's the good news...Emotions simply mean that you are human.  That’s it.  Nothing more nothing less.

With all the current unknowns as COVID-19 unravels itself, many people are having a variety of feelings around the craziness.  

Spring Breaks have been cancelled.  401K's are being demolished.  Shelves in grocery stores are empty.  Restaurants are closing and panic is rising.

I created this bonus pod as a way for you to learn how to sit with every feeling that you are feeling.  Not only during  COVID-19, but really in any stressful, and anxiety provoking situation.  

In this pod I share 3 ways that you can learn to simply sit with your emotions.  

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Sitting with your emotions is one of the greatest gifts you could ever treat yourself to-and hey it costs you nothing and you'll feel incredible!

Since you're on lockdown, I can't think of a better time for you to download my Why Selfish is the New Black PDF.  It's free, it's robust and it will get you started on your self care journey.  In this book you'll learn why self care is necessary and why you deserve to be a woman who puts herself and her self care first.  You can download the PDF HERE.

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Do you sometimes feel like you are simply operating in life?  Are you engaged in activities that you just aren’t passionate about?  Do you often think about what life would be like if you could operate at your full potential?  What comes up for you when you think of self care?  Do you freak out and wonder how in the heck you would ever add self care to your ever growing to do list?

If this resonates with you-then you do not want to miss this episode!  Jessica and I cover a lot of fascinating ground in this episode talking about how she left a prestigious title and career, what self care means to her, and how a trip to Ethiopia changed everything.

Your challenge this week is to start small with self care.  Something that is easy and doable.  Begin by looking at the different areas of your life and choose something that you bring you much joy.  This could be going to be 30 minutes early, settling in with a good book, taking an extra long walk, listening to this podcast, cooking yourself a beautiful dinner, or even reciting your values out loud.  TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOU!!!

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You can find more about Jessica and her company 2 Smart Girls Here -  2 SMART GIRLS | FACEBOOK | INSTAGRAM