Make Your Damn Bed

Peace does not always represent justice or equity. Sometimes, it's good to be agitated. I think we can be hopeful AND angry. I truly believe there is room for both.

“The challenge for us... is not to grieve over social change, but to guide it.” - Robert Putnam

RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_hope_when_youre_feeling_cynical

https://www.theguardian.com/books/article/2024/aug/23/hope-for-cynics-by-jamil-zaki-review-beating-the-trust-recession

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/in-hope-for-cynics-researcher-explores-how-seeing-the-good-in-others-is-good-for-you

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"Studies reveal a recipe for disagreeing better:

1. Good disagreers ask questions instead of making statements.
2. They work to get underneath people’s opinions to their stories.
3. When they spot common ground, good disagreers name it.
4. When they are unsure about something, they say so rather than pretending to be confident.

These ingredients each decrease the chance that dissent will devolve into toxic conflict. But good disagreement is more than nice; it’s powerful. In experiments, people given the recipe you see here listened more intently and asked better questions. But the people they talked with also became more open-minded, even though they received no training. Outrage is contagious, but so are curiosity and humility.” - Jamil Zaki

RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_hope_when_youre_feeling_cynical

https://www.theguardian.com/books/article/2024/aug/23/hope-for-cynics-by-jamil-zaki-review-beating-the-trust-recession

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/in-hope-for-cynics-researcher-explores-how-seeing-the-good-in-others-is-good-for-you

THE BOOK: https://www.jamil-zaki.com/hope-for-cynics

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"Ernest Hemingway once said, "The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them." He was half right. Trust doesn't just teach us about people; it changes them. It's a gift they repay. A reciprocity mindset means understanding this. Leaps of faith are actions inspired by that knowledge: deliberate bets on other people.” - Jamil Zaki

RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_hope_when_youre_feeling_cynical

https://www.theguardian.com/books/article/2024/aug/23/hope-for-cynics-by-jamil-zaki-review-beating-the-trust-recession

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/in-hope-for-cynics-researcher-explores-how-seeing-the-good-in-others-is-good-for-you

THE BOOK: https://www.jamil-zaki.com/hope-for-cynics

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"Any of us can seek out more accurate, less cynical news. But don't forget that the stories you tell influence others, too. Gossip is our ancient media, and someone is probably tuned in to yours. Try to balance negative conversation with celebration of the kindness and honesty that you've witnessed. Be someone else's nourishing media.” - Jamil Zaki

RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_hope_when_youre_feeling_cynical

https://www.theguardian.com/books/article/2024/aug/23/hope-for-cynics-by-jamil-zaki-review-beating-the-trust-recession

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/in-hope-for-cynics-researcher-explores-how-seeing-the-good-in-others-is-good-for-you

THE BOOK: https://www.jamil-zaki.com/hope-for-cynics

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Researchers find that people regularly fail to realize how charitable, trustworthy, and compassionate others are. Helpers are all around; we just don’t see them. Some of these mistakes reflect how our minds are tuned. Negativity bias means people pay more attention to bad things than good. Again, this

makes evolutionary sense: It’s safe to ignore a sunset, but not a tsunami. As psychologist Fred Bryant says, “Troubles kick our door in and come and find us… whereas the pleasures and the joys, they don’t hunt us down and force us to enjoy them. They wait and they sometimes hide.” - Jamil Zaki

RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_hope_when_youre_feeling_cynical

https://www.theguardian.com/books/article/2024/aug/23/hope-for-cynics-by-jamil-zaki-review-beating-the-trust-recession

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/in-hope-for-cynics-researcher-explores-how-seeing-the-good-in-others-is-good-for-you

THE BOOK: https://www.jamil-zaki.com/hope-for-cynics

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"Cynics often get people wrong, but that doesn’t mean it’s smart to put faith in everyone, all the time. Skeptics update their beliefs based hundreds of children, and then checked in with them a year later. When it came to depression and friendships, cynical children ended up the worst off, but extremely trusting kids did less well than those in the middle.Why? When judging humanity, both cynics and trusters behave like lawyers in humanity’s trial. Trusters represent the defense. They disregard suspicious signs, forget betrayals, and hold on to any evidence of human goodness. Cynics work for the prosecution, explaining away kindness and cataloging every instance of human viciousness. Both attorneys are inclined to ignore half of the evidence, even if they’re opposite halves.Lawyering is a fine way to argue, but a terrible way to learn. A growing science finds that real wisdom arrives when people know what they don’t know. Likewise, social wisdom doesn’t mean believing in everyone or no one. It means believing in evidence—by thinking less like a lawyer and more like a scientist. And despite the different instruments they use, all sorts of scientists share an intellectual tool:skepticism, the questioning of old wisdom and hunger for more information. Skeptics update their beliefs based on new information, allowing them to adjust to a complex world" - Jamil Zaki

RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_hope_when_youre_feeling_cynical

https://www.theguardian.com/books/article/2024/aug/23/hope-for-cynics-by-jamil-zaki-review-beating-the-trust-recession

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/in-hope-for-cynics-researcher-explores-how-seeing-the-good-in-others-is-good-for-you

THE BOOK: https://www.jamil-zaki.com/hope-for-cynics

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"Cynicism is the theory that people are selfish, greedy, and dishonest. Like any theory, it changes how we see reality and react to it—in this case, the social world. Cynicism changes how we think, what we do, and what we don’t do." - Jamil Zaki

RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_hope_when_youre_feeling_cynical

https://www.theguardian.com/books/article/2024/aug/23/hope-for-cynics-by-jamil-zaki-review-beating-the-trust-recession

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/in-hope-for-cynics-researcher-explores-how-seeing-the-good-in-others-is-good-for-you

THE BOOK: https://www.jamil-zaki.com/hope-for-cynics

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"Cynicism is an understandable response to injustice and inequality. But in many cases, it is misplaced. Dozens of studies find that people fail to realize how kind, generous, and open-minded others really are. And cynical thinking worsens social problems: when we expect the worst in people, we often bring it out of them." - Jamil Zaki

RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_hope_when_youre_feeling_cynical

https://www.theguardian.com/books/article/2024/aug/23/hope-for-cynics-by-jamil-zaki-review-beating-the-trust-recession

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/in-hope-for-cynics-researcher-explores-how-seeing-the-good-in-others-is-good-for-you

THE BOOK: https://www.jamil-zaki.com/hope-for-cynics

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Today, we're reading the first few tips from "Eight Habits of Effective Bridge-Builders" and discussing what it means to build these habits.

RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/eight_habits_of_effective_bridge_builders

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Today, we're reading the first few tips from "Eight Habits of Effective Bridge-Builders" and discussing what it means to build these habits.

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