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- 1259 || the HEAR technique to bridge gaps
Four Steps to Help People Feel Listened To:
- H = Hedge your claims, even when you feel very certain about your beliefs. It signals a recognition that there are some cases or some people who might support your opponent’s perspective.
- E = Emphasize agreement. Find some common ground even when you disagree on a particular topic. This does not mean compromising or changing your mind, but rather recognizing that most people in the world can find some broad ideas or values to agree on.
- A = Acknowledge the opposing perspective. Rather than jumping in to your own argument, devote a few seconds to restating the other person’s position to demonstrate that you did indeed hear and understand it.
- R = Reframing to the positive. Avoid negative and contradictory words, such as “no,” “won’t” or “do not.” At the same time, increase your use of positive words to change the tone of the conversation.
RESOURCE: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/four_steps_to_help_people_feel_listened_to
AND: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-the-brain-copes-with-grief/
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10 min - 1258 || final thoughts on grief
Grief isn’t linear.
Grief doesn't happen in stages.
Grief is chaotic.
Grief convinces you that it’s all encompassing.
There’s no right or wrong way to grieve (aside from the obvious).
Be gentle with yourself.
I’m not asking you to pretend it doesn't exist, but I am asking you to endure it.
It’s going to be okay. It’s going to be different, but it will be okay.
If you want to feel more connected:
- The Shared Grief Project - https://sharedgrief.org/
- Articles, blogs, community re, resources, etc. https://whatsyourgrief.com/
- Additional resources: https://alicaforneret.co/
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12 min - 1257 || grief is emotional chaos
I recently received a request for resources on grief and loss, and I’ve collected a lot over the years because I’ve never been the most efficient at dealing with my grief; and although I don’t think grief is something that ever fully goes away, I do know from experience (and the wisdom that comes from it) - that it won’t always be unbearable. Today I share some science from Mary Frances O'Connor.
The Shared Grief Project: https://sharedgrief.org/
Mary Frances O'Connor's Site: https://maryfrancesoconnor.org/
Today's resources: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6844541/
Today's secondary resources: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-the-brain-copes-with-grief/
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12 min - 1256 || how grief affects our neural pathways
I recently received a request for resources on grief and loss, and I’ve collected a lot over the years because I’ve never been the most efficient at dealing with my grief; and although I don’t think grief is something that ever fully goes away, I do know from experience (and the wisdom that comes from it) - that it won’t always be unbearable. Today I share some science from Mary Frances O'Connor.
The Shared Grief Project: https://sharedgrief.org/
Mary Frances O'Connor's Site: https://maryfrancesoconnor.org/
Today's resources: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6844541/
Today's secondary resources: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-the-brain-copes-with-grief/
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11 min - 1255 || dealing with grief (the science)
I recently received a request for resources on grief and loss, and I’ve collected a lot over the years because I’ve never been the most efficient at dealing with my grief; and although I don’t think grief is something that ever fully goes away, I do know from experience (and the wisdom that comes from it) - that it won’t always be unbearable. Today I share some science from Mary Frances O'Connor.
The Shared Grief Project: https://sharedgrief.org/
Mary Frances O'Connor's Site: https://maryfrancesoconnor.org/
Today's resources: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6844541/
Today's secondary resources: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-the-brain-copes-with-grief/
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10 min - 1254 || dealing with decision fatigue
In 1998, Psychologist Roy Baumeister conducted a foundational study that showed decision-making depletes cognitive resources, much like physical exertion depletes muscles.
Baumeister’s studies found that decision fatigue leads to impulsive choices (gravitating toward immediate rewards or default options) or avoidance of decision-making (procrastination or refusal to choose).
For example, judges in a 2011 study were more likely to grant parole early in the day, and less likely as they became mentally fatigued, demonstrating how mental depletion affects critical decision-making.
So, preplan what you can. Limit excess decision making. Account for much needed rest + recovery. Rely on default decisions where applicable. Know + respect your limits. Practice mindfulness + compassion. Be patient. Remember you're human.
DISASTER ASSISTANCE FOR THOSE WITH DISABILITIES:
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MORE ASHEVILLE RESOURCES: https://linktr.ee/avlsurvival
THE RESOURCES FROM GW University: https:// onlinepublichealth.gwu.edu/resources/sources-for-climate-news/
MORE RESOURCES: 350.org AND https://hiphopcaucus.org/action-center/
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10 min - 1253 || regret from a life not lived
Years ago, when I was grieving the loss of a very serious break up, I was explaining to a friend that the grief was really intense not only because I was grieving a loss of this, but I was also grieving the loss of who I was going to be with that person, and I think about this a lot, the anxiety of all of the un lived lives. I’ll never get the unknown of all of the paths I didn’t and couldn’t take.
TIPS: Practice radical acceptance: Accept that you can't live every life. For every door you open, another closes.
Get present: Ground yourself in the life you're living right now. Try mindfulness exercises to bring you back to the present moment.
Embrace "good enough": Aim for a life that's good enough, not perfect.
Reframe your past: View your past choices as steps in your unique journey, rather than as failures.
Live authentically: Make decisions based on your values—not societal expectations.
DISASTER ASSISTANCE FOR THOSE WITH DISABILITIES:
https://www.disasterassistance.gov/information/people-with-disabilities
DISASTER RELIEF MUTUAL AID: https://mutualaiddisasterrelief.org/
ASHEVILLE MUTUAL AID LINKS: https://www.rjcavl.org/mutual-aid-resources/
MORE ASHEVILLE RESOURCES: https://linktr.ee/avlsurvival
THE RESOURCES FROM GW University: https:// onlinepublichealth.gwu.edu/resources/sources-for-climate-news/
MORE RESOURCES: 350.org AND https://hiphopcaucus.org/action-center/
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11 min - 1252 || escaping survival mode (revisited)
Today we revisit an episode from March 2023:
what does survival mode look like for you? how can we get out of the patterns that put us into our default mode?
we've all experienced stress, but when stress is prolonged - we can forget how to relax.
Mindfulness, patience, compassion, and practice can help us escape that constant vigilance and return to a state of calm.
DISASTER ASSISTANCE FOR THOSE WITH DISABILITIES:
https://www.disasterassistance.gov/information/people-with-disabilities
DISASTER RELIEF MUTUAL AID: https://mutualaiddisasterrelief.org/
ASHEVILLE MUTUAL AID LINKS: https://www.rjcavl.org/mutual-aid-resources/
MORE ASHEVILLE RESOURCES: https://linktr.ee/avlsurvival
THE RESOURCES FROM GW University: https:// onlinepublichealth.gwu.edu/resources/sources-for-climate-news/
MORE RESOURCES: 350.org AND https://hiphopcaucus.org/action-center/
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7 min - 1251 || we're all traumatized (revisited)
Today we revisit an episode from March 2023:
Every single one of us has experienced some level of trauma. We're only capable of acting and responding at the level we're internally ready for. Practicing mercy + empathy can really help us to be more patient with strangers.
DISASTER ASSISTANCE FOR THOSE WITH DISABILITIES:
https://www.disasterassistance.gov/information/people-with-disabilities
DISASTER RELIEF MUTUAL AID: https://mutualaiddisasterrelief.org/
ASHEVILLE MUTUAL AID LINKS: https://www.rjcavl.org/mutual-aid-resources/
MORE ASHEVILLE RESOURCES: https://linktr.ee/avlsurvival
THE RESOURCES FROM GW University: https:// onlinepublichealth.gwu.edu/resources/sources-for-climate-news/
MORE RESOURCES: 350.org AND https://hiphopcaucus.org/action-center/
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8 min - 1250 || burning out + tapping out
Life sometimes feels like a constant battle between fighting burnout and fighting tapping out.
The middle path between burnout and disassociation isn’t about perfection.
It’s about giving yourself permission to rest without checking out, and working without burning out. It’s not an easy balance, but it’s one worth striving for.
Some days will be meant for rotting, some days will be meant for grinding - but most days will be about striking a healthy balance between the two.
DISASTER ASSISTANCE FOR THOSE WITH DISABILITIES:
https://www.disasterassistance.gov/information/people-with-disabilities
DISASTER RELIEF MUTUAL AID: https://mutualaiddisasterrelief.org/
ASHEVILLE MUTUAL AID LINKS: https://www.rjcavl.org/mutual-aid-resources/
MORE ASHEVILLE RESOURCES: https://linktr.ee/avlsurvival
THE RESOURCES FROM GW University: https:// onlinepublichealth.gwu.edu/resources/sources-for-climate-news/
MORE RESOURCES: 350.org AND https://hiphopcaucus.org/action-center/
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About Make Your Damn Bed
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@MYDBpodcast is a bite sized, real talk, daily motivation podcast to play while you make your bed every morning. Build momentum - better your life.
Each episode is around 10 minutes and…
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