Making Midlife Magic

Most of us avoid thinking about death. We think it's depressing and scary. But the fact that we die is what makes life so precious. Facing the reality of death is one way to crystalize what makes our life meaningful. In this episode, I offer three questions to clarify how thinking about death can help you to create a more meaningful, more enjoyable life.

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We all want to be happy -- maybe not all the time, but we do want lightness, joy, and delight in our lives. Yet often things get in the way -- work stress, family conflict, medical diagnoses. At these times, "choosing happiness" can seem like a mean joke.

In this episode I share how we can meaningful choose happy, even when life is challenging. In this episode:

⭐ How happiness is like ice cream and why it's useful to know what flavor you like

⭐ The difference between grown-up happy and pediatric happy

⭐ The power of adding happy to other emotions

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In episode #101, I talk about the thought, "Let it be hard," which is a way of accepting that sometimes life is just hard and it doesn't mean we've done something wrong.

Sometimes, though, we make things harder than they are by judging ourselves or telling ourselves that the hard way is the right way or the better way. At these times, "let it be easy" moves us closer to the life we want. Let it be easy is a way of dropping self-judgment and reminding ourselves that often the easy way is, in fact, the best way.

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Let it be hard.

Not a great start to an inspirational talk, right? When times are tough, we want things to be easier. What kind of suggestion is Let it be hard?

But Let it be hard is exactly the thought that helped me to feel better recently, after a crying meltdown. I tell you all about it in this episode and why Let it be hard might be exactly the magic you need.

And there's more magic on the way. Next week, I'll talk about the companion thought, Let it be easy and explain how these two thoughts function as a dynamic duo.

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"Do or do not do. There is no try." Sorry, Yoda, but this is not helpful. In fact, if we want to do big things, we have to find all the options between Do [do the thing the way we most want to] and Do Not [quit]. I call these "escape hatches," and they are one of the ways I got to 100 podcast episodes -- My Big Thing.

Whether your Big Thing is starting a business, publishing a novel, being a step-parent, or learning to play the cello, this episode is for you. In it, I share three things that got me to episode 100. I learned a lot from the experience, but honestly, not what I expected to learn.

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Thank you for helping me to get to 100 episodes! I'm on a mission to help more people over 50 wake up looking forward to the day and the rest of their life. If you enjoy the podcast, can you help me by sharing it with others? Thank you!

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We so often want to feel free - light, unburdened, at ease. Yet often we feel burdened by responsibilities and constrained by the choices we've made. At these times, we often dream of a future time when things will be better -- we'll be retired, on vacation, our kids wll be grown, and so on. Focusing on that fantasy keeps us from seeing ways we can feel freer, right now. That's the topic of this week's episode.

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Do you feel confident? If you're like me, chances are the answer is -- Sometimes? It can be hard to be confident, especially when things change so much. We're not always sure what to do, how to respond. Confidence is fueled by certainty, which is why so often we find ourselves unconfident. If we can't know how something will work out, how can we be confident about it? This lack of certainty often leads us to overthink decisions, feel tentative, and second guess ourselves.

The good news is that we don't have to be sure of everything to be confident; we just have to be sure of something. Take a listen to this episode to learn how to create confidence by letting your brain find what it can be certain about.

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What does enough feel like? What would it feel like to know that you have enough, do enough, are enough? Most of us aren't very familiar with that feeling but we're very familiar with the feeling of not enough. Not enough leads us to overwork, overeat, overdrink, and generally just feel bad about ourselves.

In this episode I rethink enough, focusing on it as a decision we can make, and a feeling we can choose. I also talk about the paradoxical relationship between enough and desire. We assume that our desire comes from not enough, from wanting to fill a need. When we aren't seeking a feeling of enough, though, we can just decide what we want because we want it.

This episode is a good follow up to ep #94 about consent and #95 about safety -- because enough is a feeling of safety, while not enough makes us feel unsafe in our world.

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My podcast is now two! Celebrate with me by entering my Making Midlife Magic Birthday Giveaway at ⁠⁠⁠⁠makingmidlifemagic.com/giveaway⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Wondering what to get someone for their 2nd podcast-versary? A review or sharing the podcast with a friend will help me get into more ears, so more people can love themselves & their lives after 50. Thank you so much!

What are your non-negotiables, the things that you make time for, no matter what? Maybe it's a shower, maybe it's running, maybe it's a nightly drink on the patio. Non-negotiables are a superfuel and identifying ours gives us enormous power to shape our lives. Being intentional about our non-negotiables lets us create a life that reflects our values, priorities, and commitments. Take a listen and let me know what resonates -- email me at [email protected] or tell me about your own non-negotiables in my Spotify Q&A.

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My podcast is now two! Celebrate with me by entering my Making Midlife Magic Birthday Giveaway at ⁠⁠⁠makingmidlifemagic.com/giveaway⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Wondering what to get someone for their 2nd podcast-versary? A review or sharing the podcast with a friend will help me get into more ears, so more people can love themselves & their lives after 50. Thank you so much!

You know how you can go to therapy, read all the books, and still struggle to change? Or how you can know you really feel better when your house is picked up, but still not manage to clean off your desk?

This episode provides one missing piece to the puzzle -- safety. We often don't change because we don't yet feel safe enough to change. In this episode, I offer ways to build safety with ourselves so we can do the things we really want to do without bullying ourselves. It's a powerful companion to episode #94, on consent. Because we need to feel safe in order to say yes, even to things we want to do.

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My podcast is now two! Celebrate with me by entering my Making Midlife Magic Birthday Giveaway at ⁠⁠makingmidlifemagic.com/giveaway⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Wondering what to get someone for their 2nd podcast-versary? A review or sharing the podcast with a friend will help me get into more ears, so more people can love themselves & their lives after 50. Thank you so much!