Making Midlife Magic

Most of the people I know are frequently overwhelmed. We're overwhelmed with things to do, with decisions, with responsibilites & obligations.

On this episode, I talk about overwhelm's less-known sibling, underwhelm. They're connected more than we realize, since overwhelm is most likely when we have too many "have to"s on our list and not enough "want to"s.

We don't think about underwhelm because it's much quieter than overwhelm, but paying attention to underwhelm as a feeling actually provides a path away from overwhelm.

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It's easy to forget about joy, isn't it? Especially at times of pain and sadness, it can feel wrong to think about joy. But it's at these times especially that we must hold onto our human capacity for joy -- not instead of sadness, but in addition to it.

What if I refuse to let anything steal my joy? Asking myself this question, I saw clearly how I let other people, the 24 hour news cycle, and even my own busyness steal my joy. I'm taking it back.

If this speaks to you, this is the episode for you.

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This week's podcast helps to answer a useful question: What feeds me? It is such a important question of self care, but often, we don't know how to answer.

It's an especially helpful question to ask during challenging times. This week has been very hard for me and for so many people I love. I hope this podcast reminds you, whenever you need reminding, that we can feed our body, mind, heart, and spirit even when life is painful, even when our efforts feel not enough.

In this episode:

❤️ The power of choosing what emotion you want to grow

❤️ "Being fed" as a form of connection

❤️ Why we have to ask "What feeds me now?" regularly

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This episode is about the power of radical, relentless curiosity. Often we're not curious about ourselves because we think we know our skills, preferences, and capacities. We think we know who we are.

But what if we're wrong?

Radical curiosity lets us consider our life as an experiment to find out. Maybe there are things we liked in the past but don't like now. Maybe we've thought, "I could never . . . " but find that indeed we can. Maybe we've been chasing after something we no longer even want. Each one of these paths starts with radical curiosity about ourselves.

Rather than starting with something big, as we often do ("I'm going to change myself completely!") we can start by being curious about some of the smallest things about ourselves, including even how we take our coffee. And from there, radical curiosity can open up a world of possibility.

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What can death teach us about life? In this episode, I bring together two parts of my life: My thirty years as a teacher of the Holocaust and my more recent work as a life coach. Maybe you're a doctor, hospice chaplain, or have a different career that involves the end of life, or maybe you've lost someone close to you. These painful experiences can change us and how we think about life and time in ways that can help us to embrace our full, messy, imperfect lives. Most of us don't want to think about death -- our own or that of the people we love -- but death is part of our human life. Just ask Barbie (no spoilers, I promise!).

In this episode:

🌟 Why your life matters, even if you’re no Einstein --- and how knowing

🌟 How knowing that "life is too short" can help us get over fear -- and why we shouldn't use it to

🌟 How the idea of having a life purpose can trip us up and how to choose a more empowering thought

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How do you know if you’re successful? Usually we think we’re a success when we reach our goal -- we get

It's a fine system when things go well and feels terrible when they don’t. This is when the concept of infinite

Mentioned in this episode: The Gap and the Gain by Dan Sullivan and Dr. Benjamin Hardy

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Do you feel like an adult? If you're like me, the answer is probably: Not always. Sometimes that's a good thing -- we may feel childlike when we play -- but sometimes we use "I'm not an adult" against ourselves. We have so many internalized rules about what it means to be an adult. Adults know how to cook. Adults keep a budget. Adults don't have debt. Adults stay married. Adults know how to drive. Adults can take care of themselves. When we don't line up in these ways, we feel less adult. It feels awful.

In this episode, I show the power of expanding our thoughts about what it means to be an adult. In this episode:

🌟 The difference between biological age and the age we feel

🌟 How your thoughts about adulthood can keep you in a fixed mindset

🌟 More empowering ways to think about adult human life

"Letting the days go by . . . " Remember that song by the Talking Heads, Once in a Lifetime? It describes how we find ourselves doing things, living our lives, but wondering "How did I get here?"

That's auto-pilot. And in this episode, I offer one antidote to this kind of sleepwalking. It's a simple mindset shift that changes how we think about ourselves, which changes how we do everything.

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There's something surprising that keeps us stuck. It keeps our brain spinning and trying to figure out the right answer, instead of moving us closer to the life we want. That thing is paradoxes, and self-growth is filled with them.

In this episode I share three contradictory truisms of self-growth and explain we can get ourselves unstuck from the web of contradiction. In this episode:

⭐ How paradoxes affect us, even if we never think about them

⭐ The 3 most common paradoxes that keep us stuck

⭐ How to get unstuck from paradoxes by using our brain and our body

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Most of us lie to ourselves regularly -- not always knowingly, but we do. We tell ourselves we're fine when we're not; we tell ourselves we can't change when we can; we tell ourselves we're too old/too slow/too stuck to have what we want.

Having the life we want starts with telling ourselves the truth. In this episode:

🎯 Why we lie to ourselves

🎯 How to know something is a lie when it feels so true

🎯 The danger of "I am" statements and how to use them for yourself

🎯 Why a willingness to learn is the antidote to a negative self-concept

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