Marriage Kids and Money: Personal Finance for Families

Managing Disagreements About Money in Marriage | Dr. Laura Dabney (BEST OF MKM)


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Disagreements around money in marriage can trigger anxiety, conflict, and even long-term damage if left unspoken. So how can couples move from financial tension to emotional connection?

In this “Best of MKM” episode from 2019, psychiatrist Dr. Laura Dabney shares her insights on why money arguments go deeper than dollars—and how to address the feelings behind the finances. Dr. Dabney explains why our childhood experiences shape our money mindset, how to express emotions without blame, and what to do when your spouse isn’t on the same page.

Whether it’s a surprise boat purchase or hidden debt, she offers tools to help couples move beyond the surface and truly communicate. This conversation is full of “a-ha” moments and practical advice for parents and partners trying to build trust and teamwork.

If disagreements around money in marriage are stressing you out, this episode with Dr. Laura Dabney is a must-listen.


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                    • CHAPTERS

                      00:00 – How emotions—not dollars—spark financial fights

                      01:40 – Introduction to Dr. Laura Dabney
                      03:00 – Childhood roots of money conflict
                      04:30 – Learning to identify and express feelings
                      06:30 – How to talk about big purchases
                      09:00 – Communication strategy: “I feel X when you do Y”
                      11:30 – Making time for emotional check-ins as parents
                      13:45 – How tech affects emotional connection
                      15:30 – Red flags to watch in serious relationships
                      17:30 – Boundaries and when to seek therapy
                      20:00 – Counseling alone when your spouse won’t come
                      22:30 – Why money classes may miss the root issue
                      24:00 – Dr. Dabney’s book recommendations and resources



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