Marriage Fit

If Chris and Annie want to be known for one thing it is that they have mastered Date Night!

It all began in February of 2006 as we were newly engaged and joined an 8 week marriage course. It was us (not even married yet) with 8 other couples, the longest marriage was over 50 years! The pastor leading the course kicked off the 8 weeks challenges all the couples to commit to a Weekly Date and we have never missed since then.

In all honesty, we believe this is one of the major factors that has made our marriage not only survive but THRIVE! The first 10 minutes we are warming up the topic and then we dive into the details below!

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(17:00) How to keep your Wedding Day Feelings last a lifetime in your Marriage. You could actually love your spouse MORE

(19:54) Objectives and Rules of Date Night

(22:45) Stages of Date Night

(26:18) Don't be Dude'y be Date'y.

(28:00) A trick for Guys on when they need to pick a place for Date Night.

HOMEWORK

Pick one day and one time to go on an 'Official Date'

The definition of Selfish (according to dictionary.com)

adjective

1. (of a person, action, or motive) lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one's own personal profit or pleasure. "I joined them for selfish reasons"

In the context of health, FITness and relationships we challenge the use and mentality of this term and change it to Self FIRST!

Our definition, of Self FIRST = Taking care of yourself FIRST. You will have more energy, more capacity, more willingness and ability to take care of others. To the degree you take care of yourself is to the degree you can take care of others.

Join us in this enlightening conversion and allow us to help shift your perspective to change your life.

(3:19) The real life example of why we chose this topic to talk about today. (22:30) the ultimate truth about tasks and disruptions in your day (24:00) Creativity follows COMMITMENT

HOMEWORK

*What are the 3 non Negotiables you need in your day? *What are the 3 things that are STOPPING you in your day?

You can never really get where you want if you never truly who you really are. 

Is being okay really okay with you? Who do really want to be? What is stopping you?

We give our take and our tips on how to become YOURself more. 

Documentary referenced; FAKE Famous 

This Friday, Oct 15, 2021 we are wrapping up our Fall Back into Fitness Challenge (episode 22) one of our favorite topics always and naturally arise… "Life After the Challenge". Those that complete these types of Nutrition challenges see some incredible results, not only physically but mentally and emotionally. The common fear is that we will fall back into our old ways now! The structure, accountability, and the group will not be there when the challenge ends.....Or will it???

The BIG concerns we hear are, "How do I stay on a roll?" or "I'm afraid I will fall back into my old ways."What can I do?!?! Here are 5 steps, when followed, will help you not only survive and stay on track, but THRIVE!

In this episode we discussed...

(2:00) The definition of CPMFITness and the back story (3:45) Effective Nutriton vs. the standards thoughts on dieting (8:30) Do you always need a ‘GOAL’? (9:30) STEP 1: Be a Role Model (13:00) STEP 2; Education (17:15) STEP 3; Associations (26:15) STEP 4 & 5; Bring it Back to What You Know… and… Success Principles 

(31:11) The LATEST SECRET to Staying on a Roll 

Current Blog Post = https://cpmfitness.com/blog/four-steps-to-continue-thriving-after-a-fitness-or-nutrition-challenge/

Original Blog Post = https://cpmfitness.blogspot.com/2012/05/how-to-stay-on-roll.html

-Almost 50% Divorce Rate in America in 2020 -$397 Million on unused Gym Memberships -55% Americans anticipate looking for a new job

Starting a workout program can be intimidating, nerve racking, and feel overwhelming at first.

Succeeding with that same workout program and turning it into a lifestyle can be even harder.

During our years as a coaches we've noticed that most people quit working out because they failed to understand and address the non-physical issues with being successful in making exercise a life long habit. It's usually not the exercising itself that makes them decide to quit it's the issues they don't address before they start.

But isn’t that true with all other priorities in our lives. Our marriage, our jobs/careers or other important commitments we set out to accomplish in our lives. 

In this episode we discuss… 

-Our definition of Failure vs. Quitting -Losses are just simply Lessons -How we breakdown making change from the inside to the outside -It’s a lot harder to GET in shape then it is 

If you are ALL or Nothing find out if you are an Abstainer or Moderator. Accept who you are and OWN it! Find out what, how and why in this episode. 

(3:00) Story of the All or Nothing Topic

(9:02) How to change how you think and your perspective on priorities. #mentalThermostat

(16:35) Abstainers vs. Moderators 

(24:05) Is All or Nothing a bad thing?

You know what fall brings at CPM — another nutrition challenge!

Each year, our nutrition challenge is a member favorite that helps everyone get back in track after a busy summer of travel and — let’s face it — probably a lot of hot dogs and ice cream. 😉

We've titled this challenge, FALL back INTO FITNESS. Think of this challenge that can help two types of people;

1. Those that try to out exercise poor dietary habits 2. Or those that aren't on a consistent exercise routine. 

What is the The BIG 5? 

Participants will aim to hit five different daily goals for five weeks. You’ll earn one point for each goal you hit, with a possible maximum of five points daily.

Protein, 45-minute Outdoor Walk, No Alcohol, Gallon of Water, CPM Compliant Meal. 

To join us and/or learn more about our challenge go to =  https://cpmfitness.com/blog/fall-into-fitness-nutrition-challenge-begins-september-10/

It is not daily increase but daily decrease. Hack away the unessential."

Bruce Lee said that, and it's brilliant.

(4:02) Annie’s definition of Stress Mgmt 

(8:05) Chris’s take on Stress Mgmt 

(13:20) The Tools to Combat Stress 

(18:01) Train your Brain and your Body

(22:22) How exercise ACTUALLY makes you happy

Bad = Do you have any regrets in your life?

Better = What would you do different (knowing what you know now)?

(2:55) The horrible question that bothers Chris. 

(5:30) Annie and Chris answer the question 

(8:20) Why the question works so well. 

(11:30) Where the show topic idea came from

(16:00) Flipping the Question into the pretend future self 

We all have the solutions to our own problems inside of us. With this question you can begin to shift your perspective and thoughts around the  problem to start to uncover the answer(s). 

Your Wants, Things Change, You Sacrifice, Both of you Win!

(0:00) Comeback Talk and getting the listeners updated with our 2 year hiatus.

(5:32) Backstory with the topic of this episode. 

(11:35) When Compromise Works Well  

(20:39) When Compromise Doesn’t Work 

(23:30) How Do you Compromise 

(28:26) Wrapping Up the Topic

How to Find Compromise

1. PLAN; If you are serious about something you have a Plan for it.  
2. PIVOT; Be Flexible with your Time, Goal, Wants) being willing and able to change in the moment 
3. COMMIT; 100% is 50/50. 50% doing it no matter what. 50% being flexible, shifting and pivot so you can keep moving forward no matter what.
4. WORK TOGETHER; The power is with your team. Use both persons strength and you have no weakness. 
5. SACRIFICE; It’s really not a bad thing. It is really more of an investment in you and each other so BOTH can win.