Before I was a marriage coach, I was a teacher. This episode is for all the kids I've taught over the years but especially for the class of 2022 as I taught them in Kindergarten and then looped with them and taught them in 1st grade too. They graduated high school a couple weeks ago so here's a dozen pieces of advice for them. If you're 30 or 40 and listening, this advice applies to you too! 

1. The friends you make in college will most likely be friends you'll have forever. Choose wisely as they will be who push you up and help you create success or drag you down. 

2. Travel! Nothing opens your eyes and changes you for the better than seeing other cultures, geographic region and experiencing life outside your comfort zone. 

3. Don't worry if you have to change your major. Figure out what you're passionate about and how to monetize that so you aren't changing it 11 times like me. Go into college and major in what fits the definition of success for YOU, not because you're living into other people's definitions of success. 

4. If money, age and time weren't an issue, who would you be? What does your best self look like? Define success, independence, love, passion, career, and rich for yourself. What do those look like specifically? 

5. Knowledge and Connections will monetize repeatedly. Money spends once.

6. When you get lost or feel like your life is spinning out of control, go back to the basics. Go back to your roots and your hometown. It will keep you grounded, humble and help center you.

7. Wait to get married! Your spouse will determine 90% of your happiness in your life. Write out what you want in a spouse, get help from people you love and look up to for this. Base your choices for dates on that list and date with intention! 

8. Save money. If you don't do it when you're broke, you wont' do it when you have a salary. 

9. Have confidence in who you are and who you're striving to be. You don't have to do anything that will challenge your values or don't want to do (even if your friends are doing it). 

10. Boundaries. No is a full sentence and doesn't need an explaination. Respect it if you hear it. Use it if you need to.

11. Trust your intuition. If your gut says something isn't right, it probably isn't.

12. My personal message for you GEHS class of 2022 and anyone I've taught that will always be "my kids". 

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Email me at coaching@recognizingpotential for more information on coaching. 

Episode 38 focuses heavily on Dr. John Gottman's research in answering the bids for connection with your partner. Your partner can bid for connection with you over 100 times in a single meal! Are you answering those calls, turning away or rejecting them altogether? In this short but powerful episode, I'm talking to you and giving examples of how you can be on the lookout for your partner's request for connection each day, how you can make those connections and how you can grow together in your marriage.

It would absolutely make my day if you would rate and review this podcast! Also, if you have any specific topics you'd like me to cover, please don't hesitate to email me at [email protected]

Today's guest is a wealth of knowledge and such an incredible gift to this world! Holly Smith is a licensed marriage and family therapist in the Kansas City Metro area. On this episode, we take a deep dive into attachments- anxious, avoidant, anxious/avoidant and secure. We discuss the enneagram and how that plays into attachment theories, how your upbringing and parenting styles shaped you and are shaping your children's attachment styles as well! If you are wanting to better your marriage, there are so many fantastic tips and nuggets of information in this one podcast episode! If you are struggling in your marriage, please reach out! Therapy, counseling and coaching doesn't have to be a last resort. It is absolutely effective for maintenance on your relationships, to better one part of your marriage or parenting relationships, or even as an individual, to better yourself and your situation. Here are some of the references we made on today's episode:

The Zimzum of Love: A New Way of Understanding Marriage by Rob & Kristen Bell, available on Amazon

Holly's information:

Website: www.pca4u.com

Kameran's information:

This week’s podcast episode features Alicia Krasko, a pilot wife, mom, stepmom, flight attendant and stepmom coach! This episode is truly conversational and you hear all the nitty gritty of divorce, dating after divorce, being a stepmom and so much more. Part of the conversation we do talk about me dating after divorce and that was a continuation of the conversation we had before the show. So no, you didn’t miss anything earlier in the podcast- it was just from earlier in the day.

We talk about parenting, setting expectations, how to parent with boundaries and respect. We discuss behavioral problems and how to address them in a way that reduces conflict.

Alicia and I dive into so many situations step parents may experience and talk about things we learned, things we wish we would’ve done differently and ways that our parenting styles helped us and our children thrive in those moments.

If you are a step-parent, you will definitely get a great deal of information out of hearing Alicia. If you’re a parent, divorced or not, you may also get some golden nuggets out of this episode!

Also, this was another interview I did the same week as last week’s. I promise I won’t use my airpods again to interview anyone. Thanks for your patience on this learning experience.

Another thing I’m learning and trying to do better with is being more inclusive. I understand that not all parents are “bio-parents”. Parenting looks like so many different scenarios! My apologies for saying “bio-parent”. I am learning and should in the future simply say “THE parent”. I will try to do better with that as well!

Here are the links to contact Alicia:

www.aliciakrasko.com

www.Thestepmomside.com

Email: [email protected]

First of all, I apologize for the audio on this one. I was truly heartbroken when I heard the playback. I used airpods to record because for whatever reason, my microphone wasn't working that day. This won't be a mistake I make again.

We dig into so many topics of relationships, specifically- jealousy. What is it? Where does it come from? How does it show up in the relationship and how do you get rid of it? 

Dr. Hamilton and I dive into communication styles and what to do if yours are different than your partner's, how to create a relationship that is more than average, it's elite level! She talks all about her book Project Relationship as well as her own podcast. We have a conversation around so many aspects of relationships and marriage! This episode is sure to improve your relationships with yourself and your spouse. 

**We do talk about sex. Non-Monogamous relationships are mentioned and a few other topics that little ears aren't developmentally ready to hear.**

I'm planning an aviation summit mainly for pilot wives but really will help anyone in the aviation industry. We have over 10 speakers speaking over a two day period, giveaways and so many resources. If you're in the aviation industry and want to join that- go to www.facebook.com/groups/aviationsummit22

Happy New Year!! 

I'm not gonna lie, this might be my best episode in a long time! It is NOT, however, in the best interest to listen with little ears as we do talk about sex on a deeper emotional level.

As always, if you had a revelation during this episode that you need help with anything I've talked about, please reach out to me at [email protected] for any course openings or 1:1 coaching options. 

WOW! The last episode before 2022! Can you believe it? In the beginning of this episode, I talk about what I have open for coaching possibilities and you can find or sign up for those at www.recognizingpotential.com/courses  The rest of the episode is on how to set goals that you'll actually accomplish for the New Year! I talk about all the things to think about for reflective purposes and learning, how to see patterns in your life and what to do to fix those patterns. I talk all about what I'm doing and give you real examples of goals and how to set those. There is a lot of little nuggets in getting to know me in this episode as well so I hope you enjoy that too. 

If you have any topics you want to hear in the new year, please email those to me at [email protected]. Also, if you haven't already, please go leave a review for the show! It helps get the show into more people's ears and also helps influencers that I'm wanting to interview say YES to being interviewed for the show! Did you know that's how they choose what they will and won't be interviewed for? 

This week's episode is with Dr. Tiffany Nguyen- a spiritual life coach and full-time pharmacist. Her story involves moving here from a different country and needing to find happiness. She found that and so much more! Dr. Nguyen helps people rediscover themselves after a break up or before a new relationship so they can get rid of old patterns and habits to build the best version of themselves. This allows that person to enter a relationship as a healthy, whole individual to create a healthy, whole, happy relationship/marriage. 

On this episode, we talk a lot about self-awareness, what happiness is and how to achieve it, how relationships are formed from a healthy place, how to break unhealthy patterns in relationships and how obtaining inner peace is the key to having outer peace and fulfillment. 

Note: the viewpoints of Dr. Nguyen do not reflect the viewpoints of Recognizing Potential Coaching or Kameran Thompson Al-Areqi. They are solely based on Dr. Nguyen's viewpoints, experiences and beliefs. 

Dr. Nguyen's website is https://spunkyspiritualist.com/

If you have any other relationship/marriage topics you'd like to hear on the podcast, please email me at [email protected]

This is the first ever episode where I have jumped into the topic of sex on this podcast. I asked you to give me your questions regarding sex and boy did you deliver! Sex coach Shannon Burton is an erotic poet and certified sex coach that answers all of your questions and dives into the importance of communication, making sure she comes before he does, what to do if you aren't "as good" in bed as your partner, E.D., how to make scheduled sex fun and so much more! This conversation lead into so many different topics! If you are struggling in the bedroom, a few pieces of advice that Coach Shannon offers is: 

1. Don't wait to ask for help! Reach out! You can find her on Twitter @sexcoachshannon,  on FB: Sex Coach Shannon, LinkedIn: Shannon Burton, SXI and on her website www.sexcoachshannon.com. 

2. Communicate! If you struggle to communicate about sex because it's uncomfortable or you aren't sure where to start in getting a better sex life, again- reach out! Myself or Coach Shannon would be happy to dive into that with you to help you have a more fulfilling sex life.

3. Get to know yourself. Get to know your partner. It's the only way you're going to gain the fulfillment you are needing in the bedroom.

If you have any other questions that you'd like to ask, Coach Shannon has a blog where she answers your questions anonymously or directly. 

There is a large stigma around getting help with your relationship and especially with your sex life but it doesn't have to be that way. Normalize getting help and accepting that everyone has things they need to be successful- maybe a coach is what you need, and that's ok!