Married to Addiction

You've probably heard the phrase 'One day at a time' as it relates to an alcoholic's recovery.

But what does it mean for us?

In this episode we'll talk about how that concept is different for the wife of an alcoholic, but just as important.

If you frequently find yourself in the midst of fear, anxiety, and overwhelm then you need to give this one a listen.

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If you're anything like I was when my husband was deep in addiction you may find yourself listening to this podcast and shaking your head a lot.

To be honest, I'm not even sure I would have liked this podcast back then, because I thought that a lot of the 'advice' I heard for wives of alcoholics was ridiculous.

But I didn't know then what I know now.

So if you have found yourself thinking things like 'That won't work for me', 'That's not applicable in my situation', or 'That won't help', then this episode is for YOU.

I know how it feels to be fairly closed off to many of the suggestions you may have heard here. 

But I ask that you give this episode a listen, and then give that some more thought.

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PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded, so not all offers mentioned/listed will be currently available.

👉🏻For a current list of everything that Married to Addiction has to offer please⁠⁠⁠ ⁠click here to visit the MTA 'Everything Page'⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my Boundaries Mini Course ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

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💗To get my 30 day online on-demand program ⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠.

"I've GOT to make this stop!"

This is one of our first reactions when our husband's drinking starts to spiral out of control.

We would do anything and everything to get him to stop, and to get our lives back to normal.

So that's exactly what we do. We try to control anything and everything around his drinking.

Problem is that it is all an illusion. It is not going to fix it. In fact in most cases it only makes it ten times worse.

In this episode we will talk about why trying to control things can be so destructive in this situation, and what we should be doing instead. 

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PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded, so not all offers mentioned/listed will be currently available.

👉🏻For a current list of everything that Married to Addiction has to offer please⁠⁠⁠ ⁠click here to visit the MTA 'Everything Page'⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my Boundaries Mini Course ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

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💗To get my 30 day online on-demand program ⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠.

My husband and I just celebrated our 13th anniversary. And sometimes I can still hardly believe that we are here.

Things haven't just been bad for us in the past, they have been absolutely nightmarish.

In this episode I will share some of the most difficult parts of our journey through addiction, and also give you the dose of encouragement and hope that I so desperately needed back then.

Thanks for listening. Love you.

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PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded, so not all offers mentioned/listed will be currently available.

👉🏻For a current list of everything that Married to Addiction has to offer please⁠⁠⁠ ⁠click here to visit the MTA 'Everything Page'⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my Boundaries Mini Course ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To join the Secret Sisters Circle (my group for Christian wives of alcoholics) ⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my 30 day online on-demand program ⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠.

Are you codependent? 

Do you even feel like you know what that means?

I wasn't sure I did for the longest time, and then once I started grasping the concept I thought 'That's not me. I'm just trying to help.'

I know now how wrong that statement was. 

In this episode we will talk about what codependency is, how it hurts your husband and his recovery, and how it hurts YOU.

Please give this one a listen. This is one of the most important things for us to recognize and change when walking this path as the wife of an alcoholic.

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PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded, so not all offers mentioned/listed will be currently available.

👉🏻For a current list of everything that Married to Addiction has to offer please⁠⁠⁠ ⁠click here to visit the MTA 'Everything Page'⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my Boundaries Mini Course ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To join the Secret Sisters Circle (my group for Christian wives of alcoholics) ⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my 30 day online on-demand program ⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠.

This might be THE biggest question that wives of alcoholics have: Should I stay, or should I go?

Everyone's situation is different, and I will never tell anyone what they should or shouldn't do.

But in this episode I wanted to give you some things that I think should at least be considered in a situation like this. 

I hope it helps shed some light.  

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PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded, so not all offers mentioned/listed will be currently available.

👉🏻For a current list of everything that Married to Addiction has to offer please⁠⁠⁠ ⁠click here to visit the MTA 'Everything Page'⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my Boundaries Mini Course ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To join the Secret Sisters Circle (my group for Christian wives of alcoholics) ⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my 30 day online on-demand program ⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠.

I will never forget the first time I heard 'renewal of the mind' actually explained. 

I had heard about the concept before, but I didn't really understand what it was, much less how to do it. 

Once I was enlightened I remember thinking 'Wait! We can actually DO that??'

Then I started practicing it and it changed my life. 

Not kidding. That's why it's the very first thing I have you work on when you enter my Secret Sisters Circle membership.

If renewal of mind is a new concept to you (or even if you've heard of it before but don't regularly practice it) I encourage you to listen in on my conversation with Alicia Michelle of Vibrant Christian Living.

Alicia Michelle is a certified NeuroCoach, and in this episode she walks us through the what, why, and how of renewing our mind.

I promise that if you put these things into practice you will experience some life changes too. Please be sure to give this one a listen.

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About my guest: Alicia Michelle is an author, Bible teacher, podcaster and certified NeuroCoach. Known as the Mindset Makeover Coach, she equips Christian women with practical brain-and-biblically-based tools so they know HOW to renew their minds in order to overcome negative thinking and cultivate godly confidence. Listen to her every week on the Vibrant Christian Living Podcast and learn more about her Bible studies and mindset courses such as the Christian Mindset Makeover™ at VibrantChristianLiving.com.

PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded, so not all offers mentioned/listed will be currently available.

👉🏻For a current list of everything that Married to Addiction has to offer please⁠⁠⁠ ⁠click here to visit the MTA 'Everything Page'⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my Boundaries Mini Course ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To join the Secret Sisters Circle (my group for Christian wives of alcoholics) ⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my 30 day online on-demand program ⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠.

You wish things could go back to the way they were. 

This was not the relationship you wanted. 

This was not the relationship you thought you were getting.

At it's most fundamental level it's loss, and it's okay to grieve that loss.

But in this episode we'll also talk about the second part of that. The 'what to do next' part.

Because it's okay to grieve your relationship....but you can't stay there.

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PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded, so not all offers mentioned/listed will be currently available.

👉🏻For a current list of everything that Married to Addiction has to offer please⁠⁠⁠ ⁠click here to visit the MTA 'Everything Page'⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my Boundaries Mini Course ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To join the Secret Sisters Circle (my group for Christian wives of alcoholics) ⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my 30 day online on-demand program ⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠.

Have you experienced this?

You say you want to go to an Alanon meeting, or join the Secret Sisters Circle, or get counseling, or whatever else to help you deal with your husband's alcoholism and he gets mad.

He tells you that it won't help you, or that they're just going to 'fill your head with lies', or that he feels like you're going behind his back, etc etc.

It basically just causes another fight....and the last thing you want is another fight.

So you just drop the subject and give up on getting any help or support for yourself.

That is exactly where the addiction wants you, and that is exactly where the enemy wants you.

In this episode we'll talk about how to navigate this and how you can move forward. Because you need to move forward.

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PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded, so not all offers mentioned/listed will be currently available.

👉🏻For a current list of everything that Married to Addiction has to offer please⁠⁠⁠ ⁠click here to visit the MTA 'Everything Page'⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my Boundaries Mini Course ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To join the Secret Sisters Circle (my group for Christian wives of alcoholics) ⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my 30 day online on-demand program ⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠.

Sometimes I think it's even harder to be the wife of an alcoholic when you're a Christian.

Why? Because we're not 'supposed to' have problems like this, right? 

At least that's the perception, both outside and even inside the church.

This just adds to our already overwhelming shame, guilt, confusion, and isolation.

In this episode we will talk about the stigma around Christian families dealing with addiction.

We'll also talk about what you should do if your life is being affected by this. 

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PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded, so not all offers mentioned/listed will be currently available.

👉🏻For a current list of everything that Married to Addiction has to offer please⁠⁠⁠ ⁠click here to visit the MTA 'Everything Page'⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my Boundaries Mini Course ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To join the Secret Sisters Circle (my group for Christian wives of alcoholics) ⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my 30 day online on-demand program ⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠.