Married to Addiction

We don't even know it's happening. We're just trying to survive the day-to-day.

We move through the weeks....months....years....and don't realize how much we're changing because of what we've been through. 

Wives of alcoholics experience trauma. That trauma creates a near-constant state of apprehension, and keeps us in high alert mode.

It is really difficult to live like that and creates 'blind spots' in the background. 

We aren't seeing things as the really are. We don't recognize that the patterns we have fallen into are destructive to us. 

In this episode we'll talk about that, as well as what you can do to clear those blind spots. 

_______________________________________________________________________

PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded, so not all offers mentioned/listed will be currently available.

👉🏻For a current list of everything that Married to Addiction has to offer please⁠⁠⁠ ⁠click here to visit the MTA 'Everything Page'⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my Boundaries Mini Course ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To join the Secret Sisters Circle (my group for Christian wives of alcoholics) ⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my 30 day online on-demand program ⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠.

I am super excited to share this conversation with you all, because it is SO IMPORTANT.

In this episode I am talking to Dawn Ward of The Faith to Flourish and Christian Moms of Addicted Children.

Dawn and I are of like mind when it comes to treating addiction: One size does not fit all.

That's because there are actually three different layers to addiction, but for some reason this is rarely talked about.

We both believe that you not only have to address every layer when formulating a recovery plan, but ALSO have to take into consideration the individual's needs, which can vary greatly person to person.

Today Dawn and I will discuss what those layers are, and how they affected our own loved ones' recovery journey.

_______________________________________________________________________

You can find Dawn Ward at thefaithtoflourish.com and also on Facebook as 'The Faith to Flourish'.

PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded, so not all offers mentioned/listed will be currently available.

👉🏻For a current list of everything that Married to Addiction has to offer please⁠⁠⁠ ⁠click here to visit the MTA 'Everything Page'⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my Boundaries Mini Course ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To join the Secret Sisters Circle (my group for Christian wives of alcoholics) ⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my 30 day online on-demand program ⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠.

Looking back on my journey with my husband through his years of active addiction I can see SO many things that I did do that I shouldn't have, and SO many things that I didn't do that I should have.

Today I will share with you the five things that I most wish I would have done differently.

Sometimes we just can't see things objectively when we are in the middle of them. 

I had a friend who had walked a similar path with her husband. She tried to tell me the things that I should be changing, but I didn't really want to listen. Now I know that if I had it would have made my journey (and my husband's journey) so much easier.

Today I want to be that friend to you. Please approach this episode with an open heart.

Love you, sister.

_______________________________________________________________________

PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded, so not all offers mentioned/listed will be currently available.

👉🏻For a current list of everything that Married to Addiction has to offer please⁠⁠⁠ ⁠click here to visit the MTA 'Everything Page'⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my Boundaries Mini Course ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To join the Secret Sisters Circle (my group for Christian wives of alcoholics) ⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my 30 day online on-demand program ⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠.

When my husband was struggling with alcohol addiction it used to frustrate me SO MUCH to hear 'There's really nothing you can do.'.

I used to wonder how in the world I was going to survive such a difficult situation for an undetermined amount of time.

So today I want to give you hope.

I want to show you that there actually are some things you can do to help your husband, yourself, and anyone else in your household who is being affected.

This situation doesn't have to be just constant misery, anxiety, and hopelessness.

Please give this episode a listen.

________________________________________________________________________

PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded, so not all offers mentioned/listed will be currently available.

👉🏻For a current list of everything that Married to Addiction has to offer please⁠⁠⁠ ⁠click here to visit the MTA 'Everything Page'⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my Boundaries Mini Course ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To join the Secret Sisters Circle (my group for Christian wives of alcoholics) ⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my 30 day online on-demand program ⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠.

Well, this was the first time I've ever cried on the podcast....but it probably won't be the last.

In this episode we will talk about the stages of recovery. 

I'll let this episode speak for itself, but suffice it to say that if you only listen to ONE of my podcast episodes this should be the one.

(Just in case you didn't have a chance to jot down my email address during the episode: [email protected])

____________________________________________________________________________________________

PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded, so not all offers mentioned/listed will be currently available.

👉🏻For a current list of everything that Married to Addiction has to offer please⁠⁠⁠ ⁠click here to visit the MTA 'Everything Page'⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my Boundaries Mini Course ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To join the Secret Sisters Circle (my group for Christian wives of alcoholics) ⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my 30 day online on-demand program ⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠.

I used to think that detachment sounded cold and uncaring. 

How could I possibly detach from my husband right now?? And why would I want to at a time when he needs me the most?

I didn't realize that detachment wasn't about that at all.

In fact, it was one of the best things I could do....for both of us.

In this episode we'll talk about what detachment really means, how to do it in a healthy way, and why it's so important. 

____________________________________________________________________________________________

PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded, so not all offers mentioned/listed will be currently available.

👉🏻For a current list of everything that Married to Addiction has to offer please⁠⁠⁠ ⁠click here to visit the MTA 'Everything Page'⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my Boundaries Mini Course ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To join the Secret Sisters Circle (my group for Christian wives of alcoholics) ⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my 30 day online on-demand program ⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠.

All of us have heard of 'self-care', but self care looks very different for the wife of an alcoholic.

Manicures, bubble baths, and all the rest do little to nothing for us, because we are just trying to SURVIVE.

In this episode we will talk about what self care should look like if we have an alcoholic husband.

I'll outline the three things that I consider to be THE most important things to concentrate on when it comes to caring for yourself right now.

I know you don't have a lot of (or even any) reserves, so start right here...

____________________________________________________________________________________________

PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded, so not all offers mentioned/listed will be currently available.

👉🏻For a current list of everything that Married to Addiction has to offer please⁠⁠⁠ ⁠click here to visit the MTA 'Everything Page'⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my Boundaries Mini Course ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To join the Secret Sisters Circle (my group for Christian wives of alcoholics) ⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my 30 day online on-demand program ⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠.

Sounds like an oxymoron, doesn't it? How can you grow when you feel like you're constantly being pulled under by a tidal wave??

I was there for SO long. Just angry and resentful and trying to get through the days. 

Growing in my faith or in any other kind of way was the furthest thing from my mind.

But now that I'm on the other side of it I can see so clearly how much it ended up changing me for the better. It definitely took a while, but I finally got there.

Opening your heart to the things we'll talk about in this episode can make this journey so much easier....even while you're still in it. 

____________________________________________________________________________________________

PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded, so not all offers mentioned/listed will be currently available.

👉🏻For a current list of everything that Married to Addiction has to offer please⁠⁠⁠ ⁠click here to visit the MTA 'Everything Page'⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my Boundaries Mini Course ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To join the Secret Sisters Circle (my group for Christian wives of alcoholics) ⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my 30 day online on-demand program ⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠.

'My husband keeps choosing alcohol over me.'

That is what I thought for a long time and it drastically affected my marriage, my approach to my husband's addiction, and my psyche.

This is a common thought for wives of alcoholics, but today I want to share with you why I now 100% believe that choice as it relates to alcoholism is a myth.

In this episode I'll talk about how I arrived at this decision through research, being involved with my husband's treatment program, and the catastrophic events in our personal lives that let me know beyond a shadow of a doubt that all 'choice' had been completely removed.

So if you are someone who is struggling with the fact that your husband keeps 'choosing' alcohol over you then I strongly encourage you to give this episode a listen.

____________________________________________________________________________________________

The article from drugrehab.com that I referenced in this episode can be found right here.

Thank you so much for listening!

PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded, so not all offers mentioned/listed will be currently available.

👉🏻For a current list of everything that Married to Addiction has to offer please⁠⁠⁠ ⁠click here to visit the MTA 'Everything Page'⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my Boundaries Mini Course ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To join the Secret Sisters Circle (my group for Christian wives of alcoholics) ⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my 30 day online on-demand program ⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠.

I didn't want to hear it!!!

The notion that *I* needed 'help' or recovery was downright ridiculous to me when my husband was deep in addiction.

But then things got harder and harder for me. I started having trouble at work, physical issues, and full-blown mental breakdowns.

I finally realized that I was sick too.

In this episode we will talk about three signs that you need recovery too, and also why it's SO critical that you get it.

This is an important episode. Please listen. 

___________________________________________________________________________________________________

Thank you so much for listening!

PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded, so not all offers mentioned/listed will be currently available.

👉🏻For a current list of everything that Married to Addiction has to offer please⁠⁠⁠ ⁠click here to visit the MTA 'Everything Page'⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my Boundaries Mini Course ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To join the Secret Sisters Circle (my group for Christian wives of alcoholics) ⁠⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠⁠.

💗To get my 30 day online on-demand program ⁠⁠⁠click right here⁠⁠⁠.