Masks Off: Inner Freedom For People-Pleasers and Perfectionists

In this episode, Ashley Bendiksen, an expert in helping victims of sexual abuse, domestic violence, and unhealthy relationships, shares her insights on how to identify and deal with abusive relationships particularly for parents dealing with their teenage or young adult children. She provides signs to look out for, different phases common in abusive relationships, and the importance of noticing 'internal red flags'. Furthermore, Ashley provides tips on how parents can approach the topic with their children as well as descriptors of what constitutes a healthy relationship. The host, Kim Gross, emphasizes the importance of taking off the 'masks' of people pleasing and perfectionism so individuals can live their true potential.

About Ashley: 

Ashley Bendiksen is a national speaker, Top Youth Speaker®, award-winning activist, and subject matter expert on the topics of domestic violence, sexual assault, teen dating violence, youth mental health, and resilience. Year-round, she speaks to students, educators, and youth-serving adults, in addition to conducting training for law enforcement, first responders, counseling professionals, workplaces, corporate audiences, and the military. She is also the founder of the Blue Hearts Project, a global storytelling platform for survivors of abuse, as well as the co-founder of Island Youth Coaching which specializes in life coaching for teens and young adults.

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www.ashleybendiksen.com

https://topyouthspeakers.com/speakers-topics/ashley-bendiksen

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In this episode of 'Masks Off for People Pleasers and Perfectionists', host Kim Gross engaged with guest Michelle Johnston, a life and empowerment coach, who shared her personal journey of moving from being a people pleaser and perfectionist to rediscovering her authentic self. Michelle recounts how she was raised in a strict religious environment where she was trained to fulfill the roles of a perfect mom and wife. She described the emotional turmoil she felt despite seemingly leading a perfect life and how she reached a breaking point when she realized she had been neglecting her own needs. This self-discovery led her to take control of her health and gradually learn to love herself, a move which not only significantly improved her life but also positively influenced her children's lives. She describes her coaching approach which is focused on breaking negative narratives and helping others find their path towards a happier, more authentic life.

About Michele: 

My guest on today’s episode is Michele Johnston, the powerhouse behind Fiercely Authentic Coaching! Raised with strict ideals, she married young and became a devoted mother of four. For years, she masked her struggles to fit society's perfect mold. But when her kids grew, she prioritized self-care. Pushing a truck full of kettlebells was her "aha" moment, revealing her incredible strength—physically and mentally. Michele dove into fitness and embarked on a journey of self-discovery, self-love, adventure, and grace. Now, as a life and empowerment coach, she empowers fierce women to rediscover their authentic selves, fall in love with their quirks, and live life unapologetically!

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www.instagram.com/fiercelyauthenticcoaching  

 [email protected]

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In this enriching episode of 'Masks Off for People Pleasers and Perfectionists', host Kim Gross invites guest Sabrina Del Duca to share her personal journey battling perfectionistic tendencies and people-pleasing behaviors. Sabrina candidly discusses how these tendencies led to feelings of burnout and dissatisfaction in her life. Gleaning from her experiences, she underscores the importance of unmasking ourselves, overcoming self-doubt, focusing on self-care, trusting our decisions, and setting boundaries. She also emphasizes the role of mindset in transforming our lives. This episode serves as a helpful guide for those seeking ways to overcome perfectionism and people-pleasing, and ultimately, to live a more authentic and satisfying life.

00:00 Introduction and Overview

00:24 Understanding People Pleasing and Perfectionism

01:48 The Role of Mindset in Overcoming People Pleasing

05:02 Sabrina's Personal Journey with Perfectionism and People Pleasing

07:21 The Impact of People Pleasing on Career Choices

08:56 Recognizing and Addressing Burnout

12:00 The Power of Change and Mindset Shift

12:36 The Role of Trust in Overcoming People Pleasing

13:27 Overcoming People Pleasing in Personal Relationships

16:28 The Process of Healing and Growth

33:23 The Importance of Saying 'No' and Prioritizing Self

36:28 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

About Sabrina: 

Sabrina Del Duca is a Mindset & Movement Coach and a Dance Educator.  

With over 20 years of experience as a dance teacher and 10 years as a Client Relationship Director in the advertising industry, working with some of the biggest accounts in North America & Europe, Sabrina has mastered the art of human communication and designing strategies for getting results. 

However in 2019 she took a huge risk. Following a burnout, Sabrina needed to make a major change to her lifestyle. Fueled by her fascination for personal development and passion for helping and serving others, Sabrina left her corporate career to carve a new path within the wellness space. 

This began a complex healing journey that led Sabrina to start her own coaching company, where she can empower others to get into the driver’s seat and create a life that inspires them, just like she did. 

Sabrina also launched her Podcast "Get Into Flow" in 2022, using her voice and love for public speaking to provide practical tools to help shift your mindset and take inspired action. 

With certifications in Pn1 Coaching & HeartRise Meditation, Sabrina combines her years of experience teaching dance, leading projects & designing strategies to empower you to unlock your potential, set meaningful goals, and navigate life's challenges with resilience and courage. Together, we can “Rewrite Your Life” and start this new & exciting chapter with confidence. 

Connect with Sabrina:

www.sabrinadelduca.com

[email protected] 

@SabrinaDelDuca & @GetIntoFlowPodcast 

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Kim Gross hosts Elizabeth Kipp on this episode of 'Masks Off for People Pleasers and Perfectionists' where they discuss the 'mother wound' and its connection to people-pleasing and perfectionism. Elizabeth, a stress management and historical trauma specialist, best selling author, and Ancestral Clearing Practitioner, shares the importance of recognizing and embracing a mother wound. She explains that this wound often manifests in issues around self-esteem, attachment, boundaries and people-pleasing. In order to heal, Elizabeth suggests utilizing supportive communities, trauma-informed practices like yoga and meditation, self-regulation, safe relationships, and professional help such as therapists and trauma coaches.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Presentation

01:28 Understanding the Mother Wound

01:54 The Impact of the Mother Wound on Relationships

03:13 Personal Experiences with the Mother Wound

05:38 The Role of Trauma in the Mother Wound

14:29 The Importance of Voice in Healing

20:25 Healing Strategies for the Mother Wound

23:37 Connecting with Elizabeth for Further Support

25:07 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

About Elizabeth: 

Elizabeth Kipp is a Stress Management and Historical Trauma Specialist who uses Trauma-Trained and Yoga-Informed Addiction Recovery Coaching, Ancestral Clearing®, Compassionate Inquiry, and Yoga to help people with their healing.

Elizabeth healed from over 40 years of chronic pain, including anxiety, panic attacks, and addiction. She now guides others to unleash their healing power, find freedom from suffering, and live a thriving life.

She is the best-selling author of “The Way Through Chronic Pain: Tools to Reclaim Your Healing Power.”

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In this episode of 'Masks Off for People Pleasers and Perfectionists', host Kim Gross talks to guest Dala Hemeyer about the importance of defining values and aligning actions to support these values. They explore how aligning values can combat perfectionism and people pleasing tendencies, and discuss the concept of essential core values. Hemeyer shares personal experiences of feeling disconnected from her values, shedding light on the potential consequences this disconnection can have on overall mental health. The episode provides resources for identifying personal values and important ways to stay connected with them.

About Dala: 

I’m a Midwest Mom and Professional Psychotherapist turned mindset mentor who’s learned to lean into her most authentic life even when it’s messy and connected with the contentment I’ve been striving for my entire life.

Connect with Dala: 

DHMentorship.com ; https://www.instagram.com/dala_hemeyer/ ; [email protected]

Core Values based on your personality: dhmentorship.com/guideposts

Compass of Life journal: dhmentorship.com/compass

Get CLARITY on your IDEAL LIFE and learn practical tips to ACTUALLY LIVE IT.https://www.facebook.com/groups/dhmrefresh/

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In this episode of Masks Off For People-Pleasers & Perfectionists, host Kim Gross is joined by leadership communication expert, Kim Laughlin. They discuss the struggles faced by many people in the workforce, particularly those who find it difficult to assert themselves or share their thoughts and ideas due to fear of ridicule or reprimand. The talk revolves around the importance of confidence in the working environment, how to develop it, and the role of empathy and understanding in leadership. Kim Laughlin draws on her experiences as a leadership communication developer, a trainer, and a former head of HR to share insights on these aspects. They also address the problems caused by a culture of perfectionism and how to mitigate them.

About Kim Laughlin:

Meet Kim, a transformational coach dedicated to making Mondays a day everyone looks forward to! With her expertise, Kim has assisted numerous businesses in establishing a thriving culture of success. Her winning approach revolves around coaching leaders to embrace proactive and productive dialogue resulting in heightened productivity and employee engagement.

Kim captivates audiences of all sizes, emphasizing workplace relationships' crucial role in shaping an organization's triumphs. The ripple effect of her work extends to personal lives, helping individuals achieve a harmonious balance between home and work. 

Connect with Kim Laughlin: 

www.culturalapexcoach.com,

 https://www.linkedin.com/in/culturalapexcoach/, [email protected], 508-965-4954  Calendly link to schedule time with me: https://calendly.com/culturalapexcoach/learnmore

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In this engaging dialogue, Cai Graham, a mental health mentor working with teens and young adults, and host Kim Gross delve into concepts around parental influence, children asserting their independence, and the necessity of open communication. They illuminate the pitfalls of 'helicopter parenting', highlighting that while children need guidance, they also need the freedom to explore their interests. Cai shares the story of her son, Jack, who refused to continue in activities that did not serve him, resulting in a wake-up call to alleviate undue pressure. They call upon parents to listen more to their children and maintain a healthy balance between involvement and freedom, thus honoring the individuality of their children.

About Cai:

Cai Graham is a Mental Health Mentor for Teens & Young Adults, Speaker, Podcaster & Amazon #1 bestselling author.

Cai specializes in supporting teens & young adults in overcoming anxiety, so that they can live a struggle free life. 

Cai uses her 4 step "Changing Pictures" Approach to help eradicate specific anxiety issues in just 2 sessions.

This technique is :

✔️ Fun

✔️ Fast 

✔️ Safe

offering swift & effective outcomes every time.

Cai’s mission is to empower people by providing them with the tools and techniques they need to cope with the challenges of modern day life. She supports them by breaking through their fears and phobias, equipping them with some great coping strategies to allow them to live their lives to the fullest.

As a mother and feminine entrepreneur Cai's wealth of motherhood experience, spanning three decades, paired with her expertise in private practice, positions her uniquely to offer families valuable support and guidance in navigating challenges linked to anxiety.

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In this enlightening episode of the 'Masks Off for People Pleasers and Perfectionists' podcast, host Kim Gross explores the topic of reclaiming one’s light and authenticity. Special guest Tigrilla Gardenia, a nature-inspired mentor and personal evolution coach, discusses her journey of dimming her own light in childhood and eventually reconnecting with her authentic self. She shares her experiences about being a 'multi potentialite,' having a multitude of interests and skills, and how society's pressure to limit oneself to a specific path often leads to suppressing true potentials. Focusing on bridging this gap, Tigrilla emphasizes the importance of recognizing our deep patterns or inherent modes of self-expression to illuminate our unique path. She advises listeners to consider their roles and responsibilities in various life experiences to find their innate patterns, instead of conforming to societal molds. This episode aims to empower listeners to redefine perfection, embrace their inherent talents, and pursue their unique paths in life.

About Tigrilla: 

Tigrilla Gardenia, Nature-Inspired Mentor, ICF PCC Personal Evolution Coach, Speaker, Teacher, and World Ambassador for Plant Intelligence. Her polyethnic and polymathic journey has driven her to be a music engineer, tech release manager, intentional dance producer, circus co-owner, Kabbalah teacher, and even go on tour with Cirque du Soleil. 

Tigrilla has the honor of being a citizen and instructor of Damanhur in Italy—one of the largest spiritual eco-communities in the world, where a chance meeting with a musical plant led to her full-fledged Plant ReAwakening. 

This propelled her into all things plant collaboration, including becoming a Biomimicry facilitator and earning a masters in Futuro Vegetale (Vegetal Future): plants, social innovation, design at the University of Florence. Her study focuses on Plant Neurobiology, the Effects of Plant Music on Human Health, Social Innovation, and (Eco)System Thinking for personal and professional growth. Tigrilla is also a board member of the BAM Foundation and advisor to the BAM Institute for Civic BioDesign.

She is the founder of the Naturally Conscious Community—an online ecosystem that nourishes plant reawakening and community support for enhanced evolution—and the seminal course, ReConnect with the Plant Kingdom. 

Her roots firmly planted in the arts, communication, and the avant-garde, Tigrilla uses her expertise to empower multipotentialites, creatives, and naturepreneurs to confidently lead the flourishing lives they seek in collaboration with the plant kin-home.

Connect with Tigrilla: 

https://tigrillagardenia.com

@tigrillagardenia on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, Youtube

https://tigrillagardenia.com/ncc

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In this episode Kim shares her lifelong struggle with compulsive overeating, body image issues, and self-esteem, revealing how these problems began during her childhood, intensified during adolescence, and persisted into adulthood. She discusses the harmful cycle of binge eating, restriction, and weight fluctuations she experienced and the self-loathing that resulted from it. Kim also reflects on the societal and familial pressures that exacerbated her issues. After years of struggling, she sought help from  registered dietician Sarah Kim and embarked on a journey of self-discovery and healing. As a result, significant breakthroughs in her mindset occurred, leading her to find freedom from her eating disorder and foster a healthier relationship with her body. Kim emphasizes the importance of perseverance, self-compassion, and ongoing inner work to overcome personal issues and nourish self-esteem.

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Kim Gross, the host of 'Masks Off' Podcast, shares more about herself beyond her professional persona. Her love for rap music, liking for classic rock, Motown, 90s hip-hop becomes a point of discussion. Kim highlights her experiences of attending concerts of artists like Migos, Lil Baby, and 50 Cent, revealing her vibrant personal side. She explains her journey of education, her decision to become a stay-at-home mom, and her fascination with self-growth work. Kim talks about the 'Masks Off' podcast's origin and its mission to unmask patterns of people-pleasing and perfectionism. Apart from her professional life, Kim likes boxing, playing tennis, watching sports, and traveling. She shares about her deep, intuitive, and introspective personality and encourages the audience to know her more through her newsletter and website.

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