Masks Off: Inner Freedom For People-Pleasers and Perfectionists

In this episode Kim talks with guest, Jamie Thurber, about why we start wearing masks. It is so normal to develop different masks as a way of protecting ourselves when we were young. The problem is that as we become adults the masks do not always serve us. They prevent us from growing. It can also be very frightening to take off these masks. The other issue is that we try to get rid of or ignore these parts of ourselves because there is too much pain. The key to living a whole and fully authentic life is to integrate all the parts of ourselves and not be hard on ourselves. To hear more tips on how to be more gentle with yourself listen in.  “Be the change that you want to create in the world”  

About Jamie Thurber:  I'm an Intentional Living and Business expert that helps individuals and business owners to use strategic, aligned action to start living life on their terms. We work to create shifts in their world so they can not only be successful, but also happy, healthy, and available to enjoy whatever "joy" looks like to them.  

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Have you struggled to set boundaries with yourself? There is actually a positive aspect to boundary setting. Not only do we learn to identify what we don’t like and what hurts us, but we can learn to identify what feels good. We can learn to ask ourselves What do we like? What feels good for me? What brings us pleasure? Or, what makes us feel good in the morning? For so long, we have deprived ourselves and there is no need to do that anymore. If something feels good and it is self-loving and not self-defeating, then do it.  “Having boundaries doesn’t complicate my life; boundaries simplify life.” ~ Melody Beattie

Kim is going to take a short pause on releasing Masks Off podcasts as she is preparing for a new launch. Kim is working on pivoting and creating a new business and she is aligning this business with Masks Off. She is taking some time to prepare so that her podcast and message is cohesive and coherent. When she relaunches she will have amazing guests. She is super grateful and appreciative to have your support. 

In this episode Kim and Tia announce their decision to pivot. Tia has decided to focus on her coaching business as well as potentially move into some new endeavors of her own. Kim is working on launching a new business and more details about that will follow. For now, Kim is continuing the Masks Off Podcast on her own. Episodes will still be released weekly. This was an amicable decision and like the quote says, “everything on this earth is in a continuous state of evolving and improving….” If we are not changing then we are not growing. Kim and Tia are evolving into what works for them individually.

“Look around you. Everything changes. everything on this earth is in a continuous state of evolving, refining, improving, adapting, enhancing, and changing. You were not put on this earth to remain stagnant.” ~ Dr. Steve Mataboli

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If you are a new mom or even if you had your kids a while ago, do you or do you remember suffering with anxiety? Have you ever heard of postpartum anxiety? While we may know what postpartum depression is, many are unaware of what postpartum anxiety is and how it manifests for new moms. In this episode you will hear from Allison Lieberman, who has first hand experience with this as well as being an licensed family and marriage therapist. She also talks about how moms struggle with immense guilt and feel that they have to do everything and do it perfectly. To hear more about this topic listen in.

“ Anxiety happens when you think you have to figure out everything all at once. Breathe. You’re strong. You got this. Take it day by day.” ~ Karen Salmansohn

Three takeaways:

About Allison

Allison Lieberman is a licensed marriage and family therapist, postpartum anxiety expert, mom of 2, and 2x postpartum anxiety survivor. She is the co-founder of Rooted in Harmony Counseling, a California-based group therapy practice dedicated to helping moms with anxiety, relationships, and parenting. She is the host of The New Mama Mentor® Podcast and creator of The New Mama Mentor® Signature Program. She is passionate about helping new moms overcome anxiety by developing confidence, shedding the mom guilt, and building a community.

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In this episode Kim and Tia share different life experiences where they have felt bittersweet. Having that bittersweet feeling can show up in a multitude of ways including watching your kids grow up, having your child move out or go off to college, losing a loved one, returning from a vacation or leaving a job. This feeling or emotion of bittersweet is such a good representation of what life is really like because it is nondual. It is not an either/or emotion. It is actually both bitter and sweet which is how life really is. To hear more about Kim and Tia’s experiences tune in.

“The bittersweet side of appreciating life’s most precious moments is the unbearable awareness that those moments are passing.” ~ Marc Parent

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Tia Fagan

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Do you struggle to speak up and speak your truth with others or maybe even certain people in your life? Do you remember as a child being told that you were wrong or “bad” for thinking, believing or speaking what felt true for you, and thus, did not speak your truth? Are you afraid that if you speak up and “rock the boat” with others that you might be rejected or feel another’s disappointment or disapproval? All of this is normal and has happened to many of us. The truth is that if we don’t “rock the boat” from a place of integrity we are betraying our authentic self and thus we stunt your growth. To hear more about this listen as Tia and Kim talk about how they step outside of their comfort zone and learn to “rock the boat.”

“Forget perfect. Forget flawless. And start speaking your truth. Start speaking what you want and how you want it. And start asking and listening, really listening, to what the people around you say. Maybe, then, we will stop abandoning and hurting each other. Maybe, then, there's hope for us.” ~ Vironika Tugaleva

To join us on our Free 2022 Summer “Connect & Grow” live calls the 1st Tuesday of each month at 12 pm Eastern time through August 2nd – please click this link https://bit.ly/3xLVnRK to register for the Zoom link.

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

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Do you have a felt sense or belief that you are “broken”? Do you have an inner dialogue that tells you there is something wrong with you or inherently bad about you? We have been conditioned and shamed by our caregivers that we are “broken.” In order to embrace our wholeness we must learn to embrace all parts of ourselves and integrate both the light and the dark. This path is about growing and healing and that is how we return to wholeness. As part of the July challenge which is “say yes to yourself we are offering that you include saying yes to your wholeness as well. In fact, when we learn to say yes to ourselves we actually are embracing our wholeness. Don’t forget the July Challenge of “Saying Yes to Yourself”!

“Switch your mentality from “I’m broken and helpless” to “I’m growing and healing” and watch how fast your life changes for the better.” ~ Reyna Biddy

To join us on our Free 2022 Summer “Connect & Grow” live calls the 1st Tuesday of each month at 12 pm Eastern time through August 2nd – please click this link https://bit.ly/3xLVnRK to register for the Zoom link.

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

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Do you find it hard to say yes to yourself? Do you notice that you say no when you really want to say yes? This is a very common pattern for those that tend to wear the people pleaser mask and for those that are conditioned to put other peoples’ needs ahead of their own. This conditioning can run very deep and all the way back to childhood. Kim and Tia share how this has shown up for them in their lives and the discomfort that they felt whenever they said yes to themselves. There is so much possibility for what can happen whenever we take the risk and say yes to ourselves. For the month of July, Kim and Tia propose a new challenge which is “Saying Yes to Yourself”. To hear more about this challenge listen to this episode.

“The Beauty of uncertainty is infinite possibility.” ~ Tunde Oyeneyin

To join us on our Free 2022 Summer “Connect & Grow” live calls the 1st Tuesday of each month at 12 pm Eastern time through August 2nd – please click this link https://bit.ly/3xLVnRK to register for the Zoom link.

Go to our Teachable Online School and check out our courses including our signature FREE “Balancing Your Backpack” and “I AM WHOLE” Courses https://masksoff.teachable.com/courses

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

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In today’s episode Kim and Tia step outside their comfort zone by doing a little promotion for their signature I AM WHOLE course as well as their Connect and Grow Summer Series. If you are interested in hearing more about these two FREE opportunities take a listen. We would love for you to join us in the Summer Series and receive support and guidance as we connect and grow. The links for I AM WHOLE and Summer Series are below. Don’t forget to continue with the monthly challenge of stepping outside of your comfort zone. You can join our Masks Off Facebook community and share with us what you have chosen to do for the challenge as well as how it went for you.

“The moon is a reminder that no matter what phase I’m in, I’m still whole.” ~ Unknown

To join us on our Free 2022 Summer “Connect & Grow” live calls the 1st Tuesday of each month at 12 pm Eastern time through August 2nd – please click this link https://bit.ly/3xLVnRK to register for the Zoom link.

Go to our Teachable Online School and check out our courses including our signature FREE “Balancing Your Backpack” and “I AM WHOLE” Courses https://masksoff.teachable.com/courses

To Contact Us:

Instagram: @masksoffcommunity

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Masks Off Email: [email protected]

Masks Off YouTube Channel: https://youtube.com/channel/UCaWJfO7ZFd4aYBX3e-clj9Q

Tia Fagan

Website: tiafagan.com

Kim Gross

Website: unlock-yourmind.com

Email: [email protected]