Masks Off: Inner Freedom For People-Pleasers and Perfectionists

This is such a profound quote by Rumi and one that can be so helpful for those that wear the perfectionist mask. In this episode Kim shares her challenges with a food program that she is on and how she realizes that she is wearing layers of the perfection mask. She shares her all or nothing thinking and when she is not succeeding one hundred percent then she can tend to fall into a pattern of just quitting or giving up because she is not perfect. The antidote to this way of being is to have self-compassion and to be mindful of finding a middle ground. To hear more listen in.

“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I'll meet you there. When the soul lies down in that grass the world is too full to talk about.” ~ Rumi

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

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Episode 95

This amazing young woman, Eden Gold, opens up and is very vulnerable as she shares her story and now helps teens and young adults. She is determined to reach and help 1 billion teens and young adults. She has used her pain and her experiences that she experienced so far in her life to help others transform their pain and become more empowered to live a healthier life. We had a great conversation about how parents can show up differently with their teens and young adults in order to help their children to shine light on their pain as well as how to have healthier relationships with them. Eden helps others empower themselves by being a role model and displaying that we can step into our pain and begin the process of healing. To hear more about this amazing young adult woman, please take a listen.

Three takeaways:

1. Eden’s amazing story ~ 5 minutes

2. How does Eden encourage teens and young adults to start the process of healing ~ 13 minutes

3. How can parents connect with their GenZ children? ~ 20 minutes

More information about Eden:

Eden Gold is a 22-year-old speaker, mental health advocate, and certified health coach. She has dedicated her life to impacting the lives of 1 billion young adults by educating them on how to overcome shame around mental health, speak up, and ultimately take control of their lives and happiness right now.

Text GOLDEN for a free gift! (844)218-2979

Connect with Eden:

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Website: https://www.iamedengold.com/

Email: [email protected]

Text SPEAK if you are looking for a speaker for teens/young adults (844)218-2979

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Tia Fagan

Website: tiafagan.com

Kim Gross

Website: unlock-yourmind.com

Email: [email protected]

Episode 94

It is often said that pain in life is inevitable, but suffering is optional.  Do you even notice when you are suffering? Do you find yourself complaining or feeling like a victim? Do you tell yourself stories that keep you perpetuating the cycle of suffering? Kim and Tia talk about how we can free ourselves if we can look at our experiences and ask ourselves is this happening to me or for me? One is very different from the other. When we can have the perspective that all experiences in life are here for us then we can be in a very abundant space in our lives thus freeing ourselves from being a victim.

“Make sure your worst enemy is not living between your ears.” ~ Laird Hamilton

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

Website: unlock-yourmind.com

Email: [email protected]

Episode 93

Is pressure serving you in your life or is it hindering your day-to-day well-being? Do you feel pressure to be perfect? Do you feel pressure to meet unrealistic expectations from yourself and others? Is there an unrealistic expectation of what it means to be successful? If you answered yes to any of these questions you are not alone. Culture has put a lot of pressure on us and then we just add fuel to the fire by putting more pressure on ourselves and we often end up feeling that we are not enough. Pressure isn’t bad all the time because it does help us to take action and to grow and evolve. It is ultimately about learning the balance between the two.

“When tempted to fight fire with fire, remember that the Fire Department usually uses water.” ~ Dana Barzilay

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

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Episode 92

Do you ever feel like you have lost your voice and you just don’t feel like you are yourself? Do you ever feel like you have lost yourself and that you are not living the life that you want and desire? How often we get caught up in our roles, our patterns and living our day to day without really being authentic to who we are. Debra shares her journey and how she reclaimed her true self and how she helps women to do the same through her coaching business. To hear more about how Debra helps others to reinvent, reclaim and reimagine their lives take a listen. 

Three key takeaways: 

~What factors play into losing our authentic voice? ~ 25 minutes 

~What is one way to start reclaiming our authentic voice? ~ 28 minutes 

~What are the three R’s and how do they relate to living the life we desire? ~ 38 minutes 

“Be bold enough to use your voice, Brave enough to listen to your heart and strong enough to live the life you imagine!” ~ Anonymous 

To claim Debra’s Free Gift of a Free Discovery Call email her at [email protected]

More information about Debra: 

Debra is a Resiliency and Reinvention Mentor helping women to honor & reframe their experiences and use them as a foundation to build a life that lights them up. 

She was at the pinnacle of a successful and rewarding corporate career when a series of family crises occurred. The urgency of the moment propelled her away from her profession. She spent the next decade caring for everyone else in her life and experienced a devastating loss of identity and confidence. Several years later, the toll of putting herself last caught up with her. 

She found herself disconnected in her relationships, unproductive, & unfulfilled. Embarrassed by how far she'd fallen from her former vibrant and engaged self, she hid from the world. Engulfed in a feeling of numbness, she knew if she didn't figure this out now, it could get worse. She was determined to find her way out. Using powerful mindset practices and self-care techniques, she was able to reinvent herself. 

Now, Debra helps women over 40 embrace their truth, live lives full of meaningful relationships and renewed clarity. She’s been featured in publications such as Thrive Global and The Mindfulness Journal. Debra’s a leading speaker at board meetings and retreats, as well as women’s & business organizations. She is the creator and host of Own Your Story Video Interview Series as well as a frequent guest on podcasts addressing women & resiliency. 

Connect With Debra: 

debraleemay.com 

IG: @debraleemay 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/debra.may.980 

Clubhouse: @debraleemay 

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Tia Fagan 

Website: tiafagan.com 

Facebook: @tiafagancoach 

Instagram: @tiafagancoach 

Email: [email protected] 

Kim Gross 

Website: unlock-yourmind.com 

Facebook: @unlockyourmindhypnotherapy 

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Episode 91

How many times have you been in a rut or a difficult time in your life and felt like you would never see the light at the end of the tunnel? Do you abandon self-care during these times and therefore end up feeling even more depleted? The most important thing we can do for ourselves is to take care of ourselves even if it is sprinkled throughout the day. A few minutes of breathing or stretching or drinking some extra water will actually make a difference. It is a practice of putting water in the bucket so that when a crisis hits you are more apt to handle the situation. While this is not an easy practice the more that we do it the easier it gets because we are creating new neural pathways.  To hear more on this listen to Kim and Tia share.

“To experience peace does not mean that your life is always blissful. It means that you are capable of tapping into a blissful state of mind amidst the normal chaos of a hectic life.” -Jill Bolte Taylor

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

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Episode 90

Without even realizing it we are living out patterns or roles. These roles and patterns become our masks. We don’t consciously do this. We fall into these patterns in childhood often to protect ourselves. As this happens and we create more and more patterns we lose our true self. As we awaken and become more aware of our patterns we can step into a new dance and create a new way of living life. It does take time and it is a back and forth dance because not all people in our lives will be happy with our new dance. To hear more about this idea of creating a life and not living out our patterns listen in as Kim and Tia deconstruct this.

“You don’t live a life, you live a pattern.” ~ Dr. Shefali Tsabary

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

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Episode 89

Imagine being caught in a rip tide. What is the first thing that you are told to do if you get caught in a rip tide? Do you flow against it or ride with it? We can apply this same advice when it comes to the challenges in our lives. It is more beneficial to flow with the challenges rather than resist. When we let go of resistance and move into acceptance we have more peace. While it is difficult to move into acceptance and to let go of controlling outcomes, it is truly the only thing we have control over. Kim and Tia share their thoughts on the abundance of moving into acceptance.

“Peace. It doesn't mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble or hard work. It means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart.” ~ Unknown

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

Website: unlock-yourmind.com

Email: [email protected]

Episode 87

When you find yourself in a difficult space and having a really hard time, is it easy or difficult for you to reach out and ask for support? Do you feel afraid to be vulnerable and ask another just to listen and hold space for you? In this episode, Kim and Tia talk about how truly important it is to recognize first that healing takes time and there are many layers to healing, but also that it is so important and vital to reach out and ask for a “lifeline” when you are struggling. We come into this world wired for connection and we are not meant to travel this journey alone.

“Healing takes time, and asking for help is a courageous step.” – Mariska Hargitay

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Masks Off Email: [email protected]

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

Website: unlock-yourmind.com

Email: [email protected]

Episode 86