Masks Off: Inner Freedom For People-Pleasers and Perfectionists

So many of us have experienced trauma as young children but we never thought of it as trauma. Usually when we think of trauma we think of some huge traumatic event. Gabor Mate actually explains that trauma is a disconnection from self. So, if we frame it this way, many of you may be able to think of many times throughout your lives when you disconnected from your true self. That is the trauma and this becomes a pattern every time we feel triggered. Gabor Mate and others explain that this is a multigenerational epidemic.

“Trauma means a disconnection from self. We become disconnected from ourselves because it becomes too painful to be ourselves.” ~Gabor Mate

Go to our Teachable Online School and check out our courses including our signature FREE Balancing Your Backpack Course https://masksoff.teachable.com/courses

To Contact Us:

Instagram: @masksoffcommunity

FB Masks Off Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/masksoffcommunity

Masks Off Email: [email protected]

Masks Off YouTube Channel: https://youtube.com/channel/UCaWJfO7ZFd4aYBX3e-clj9Q

Tia Fagan

Website: tiafagan.com

Kim Gross

Website: unlock-yourmind.com

Email: [email protected]

Episode 105

Do you wear the rebel mask? Do you remember being told as a child that you were a “difficult child” or a rebellious child?  Do you know people in your life that might be considered rebellious? As the quote states,  a child is mostly rebelling as a reaction to feeling shamed for being who they really are. No one is born being truly rebellious or “bad”. People or children become rebellious because of the shaming and conditioning that one experiences in life. If you have experience with wearing the rebel mask we would love to hear your story. You may even be interested in being a guest on our show and share your experience with the Rebel Mask, let us know.

“No child is designed to be rebellious at any age. Rebellion is a reaction to feeling shamed for who they are.” ~ Carol Tuttle

Go to our Teachable Online School and check out our courses including our signature FREE Balancing Your Backpack Course https://masksoff.teachable.com/courses

To Contact Us:

Instagram: @masksoffcommunity

FB Masks Off Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/masksoffcommunity

Masks Off Email: [email protected]

Masks Off YouTube Channel: https://youtube.com/channel/UCaWJfO7ZFd4aYBX3e-clj9Q

Tia Fagan

Website: tiafagan.com

Kim Gross

Website: unlock-yourmind.com

Email: [email protected]

Episode 104

Whether you have children in school or not, you will want to hear this incredible conversation with Carrie Jeroslow and Jen Zash. They came on our podcast to talk about their new book, “ A New Paradigm of Education.” They both shared their idea of what conscious education means and looks like. While it would be a monumental endeavor to overhaul the current educational system, it is not impossible to cultivate change and that change begins with us.

"When a child feels seen, heard, and understood by his or her caretaker, be it educator or parent, the magic of the dance—otherwise known as attunement—takes flight. There is a level of connection between child and caretaker that becomes effortless, transcendent.” ~Jen Zash, from the book “A New Paradigm of Education”

To get your copy of “A New Paradigm of Education” go to: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1925919358?

More Information About Carrie:

International Award Winning, Best-Selling Author, Intuitive and Relationship Coach, Carrie Jeroslow, helps people go from heartbreak to soulmate by sharing the secrets to finding and maintaining empowering, conscious relationships. She has previously worked as a Director for Blue Man Group, a massage therapist, and an energy healer and has owned a combination vineyard and winery in Yadkin Valley, NC. The one constant in her life has been her own path of self-discovery. She has been featured in Thrive Global, Winston Salem Journal,  Forsyth Woman and Tuja Wellness and has been interviewed by Marianne Williamson, Go All In TV, The ListTV and many others to discuss the strategies in her latest book, Why Do They Always Break Up with Me?  This process has helped her many clients create profound changes in their relationships and in their lives.  She recently co-authored  her second book “A New Paradigm of Education” released October 2021.

Connect with Carrie:

www.carriejeroslow.com

www.instagram.com/carrie_jeroslow_author_coach

www.facebook.com/carriea.jeroslow.5

www.facebook.com/carriejeroslowauthorcoachintuitive

www.linkedin.com/in/carrie-jeroslow

More information about Jen:

Jen Zash, School Psychologist and Mindful Mama Parent Coach, is an Educational Reform Activist who fiercely challenges traditional models of parenting and education, and is on a lifelong mission to “let children be children”.

Creator of the Mindful Mama Mastermind Program, Jen combines her unique skill-set derived from her 20-year professional career as a K-12 School Psychologist in a Nationally Ranked School District to provide moms with a simple blueprint for shifting the parent-child relationship from DIS-connected to SOUL-connected. Trained under Dr. Oz’s Top Mindfulness Expert, Cory Muscara, Jen is also an Infant Sleep Consultant to the Rich & Famous and Mindfulness Educator, who has served as case manager to over 14,000 students - ranging from birth to adulthood. She has been credited with saving hundreds of lives from suicide and guiding others to lead lives in authentic alignment in spite of oppressive conditions.

Connect with Jen:

https://www.jenzash.com/

FB: Jennifer Stander Zash

Join my private FB group for free tips covering Parenting, Mindfulness, psychology & education. FB group: Mindful Mama Mastermind https://www.facebook.com/groups/1063258080847836/

IG/Clubhouse: @jenzash

1- 516.909.8099

[email protected]

To Contact Us:

Instagram: @masksoffcommunity

Masks Off Email: [email protected]

In this episode Kim and Tia talk about the difference between storms that caused us to become resilient as a way of surviving versus storms that helped us build strong roots. The difference between which direction you go in is whether you are going within trying to learn from the storms or whether you are seeking external validation. The latter is going to have weak roots and will easily uproot in a storm whereas the former will grow strong roots that can weather any storm. Listen in to hear more and how Tia and Kim have learned to grow strong roots.

“Storms make trees take deeper roots.” Dolly Parton

Go to our Teachable Online School and check out our courses including our signature FREE Balancing Your Backpack Course https://masksoff.teachable.com/courses

To Contact Us:

Instagram: @masksoffcommunity

FB Masks Off Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/masksoffcommunity

Masks Off Email: [email protected]

Masks Off YouTube Channel: https://youtube.com/channel/UCaWJfO7ZFd4aYBX3e-clj9Q

Tia Fagan

Website: tiafagan.com

Kim Gross

Website: unlock-yourmind.com

Email: [email protected]

Episode 102

Do you find yourself trying to please others all the time? If so, how does that make you feel when you try to please someone else instead of being true to yourself? Nature certainly does not try to please. Nature is just nature. So why do we as humans feel that we need to please? Is it for protection? Is it just because we are conditioned to please? Or, is it part of our nature to please? To hear more about this topic tune in to the discussion that Kim and Tia have on the people pleaser mask.

“Does the river try to please a tree? Does the bird try to please a stone? In nature, things are simply who and what they are. A tree trying to please the river would be ridiculous. But I wonder ... isn't that what I do? What if I put all my energy and power into being me instead of someone's version of me?"

― Paula D’Arcy

Go to our Teachable Online School and check out our courses including our signature FREE Balancing Your Backpack Course https://masksoff.teachable.com/courses

To Contact Us:

Instagram: @masksoffcommunity

FB Masks Off Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/masksoffcommunity

Masks Off Email: [email protected]

Masks Off YouTube Channel: https://youtube.com/channel/UCaWJfO7ZFd4aYBX3e-clj9Q

Tia Fagan

Website: tiafagan.com

Kim Gross

Website: unlock-yourmind.com

Email: [email protected]

Episode 101

This marks the 100th episode of Masks Off! We have utterly enjoyed recording this podcast and hope that you have enjoyed listening. We appreciate all of your support. In this episode we had an amazing conversation with Jenn Taylor. She offered so much wisdom on how we need to listen to our bodies and our intuition to live a more authentic and fulfilled life. When we don’t tune in to our bodies and the messages that it gives us, we end up feeling anxious and unfilled and may have chronic pain. Pay attention to how Jenn coached Kim in real time to help her become aware of how she was a slave to her mind rather than being free by listening to her body. 

“When receiving intuitive information through your body, the more you listen, the more you hear.” ~Karen Whitaker 

Three Key Takeaways: 

1. What are some issues that can result if we don’t tune in to our bodies? ~ @ 7 minutes 

2. Jen mentioned a book that can really explains this issue: ~ 12 minutes 

3. What does it look like to just “BE”? ~ 33 minutes 

To access Jenn’s “Do Less BE More” workshop link: https://vimeo.com/574572366 

More information about Jenn: 

Jenn is a mom of 4, homeschooling her youngest. She lives in Palm Coast, FL, and absolutely loves being outdoors in nature and at the beach. She owns a holistic coaching business. She works with entrepreneurs, overwhelmed Mommas, coaches, healers, creatives who want to take their businesses and personal lives to the next level and create the life they’re truly designed for. Jenn uses her 15 plus years experience in the holistic community as a Certified BodyMind Coach, Reiki Master, Intuitive, Meditation Coach to serve and support my clients’ journeys. She teaches clients to reconnect with their body, its messages, and inner wisdom. She helps clients reveal blockages, and old beliefs and patterns that are keeping them stuck. Her clients start to realize they are messy humans AND divine creations, and they begin to honor both. Her clients know they’re made for more! They want to make a serious impact on their communities and the world. As a result her clients are empowered to make aligned decisions in their lives and businesses. They stop over-giving. They say no to everything that drains them. They call in abundance. They experience less anxiety, stress, pain and frustration. Their confidence skyrockets and they learn to trust themselves! They experience true embodiment, and that’s the key to moving forward and making change. 

Connect With Jenn: 

Website: www.JenniferTaylor.blog 

Facebook: www.facebook.com/jennifertaylor.blog 

IG: www.instagram.com/jennifer_lin_taylor 

Email: [email protected] 

Go to our Teachable Online School and check out our courses including our signature FREE Balancing Your Backpack Course https://masksoff.teachable.com/courses 

To Contact Us: 

Instagram: @masksoffcommunity 

FB Masks Off Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/masksoffcommunity 

Masks Off Email: [email protected] 

Masks Off YouTube Channel: https://youtube.com/channel/UCaWJfO7ZFd4aYBX3e-clj9Q 

Tia Fagan 

Website: tiafagan.com 

Facebook: @tiafagancoach 

Instagram: @tiafagancoach 

Email: [email protected] 

Kim Gross 

Website: unlock-yourmind.com 

Facebook: @unlockyourmindhypnotherapy 

Email: [email protected] 

Episode 100

Do you ever find yourself having an expectation of someone or something only to be disappointed when that expectation was not met. As the below quote by Dr. Shefali Tsabary states, we suffer when our expectations differ from reality.  It is normal to have some expectations of ourselves and others and it is important to feel our feelings whatever they may be when those expectations are not met. We must not bypass our feelings and we also must be ready and willing to let go of those expectations as well and just flow with the as is of our reality. To hear more of this great conversation, tune it to Kim and Tia as they share personal experience with this topic.

“You suffer when your expectations differ from reality” ~ Dr. Shefali Tsabary

Go to our Teachable Online School and check out our courses including our signature FREE Balancing Your Backpack Course https://masksoff.teachable.com/courses

To Contact Us:

Instagram: @masksoffcommunity

FB Masks Off Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/masksoffcommunity

Masks Off Email: [email protected]

Masks Off YouTube Channel: https://youtube.com/channel/UCaWJfO7ZFd4aYBX3e-clj9Q

Tia Fagan

Website: tiafagan.com

Kim Gross

Website: unlock-yourmind.com

Email: [email protected]

Episode 99

Do you ever avoid conflict with another just to keep the peace? In this episode Kim shares how she as a child avoided conflict in order to keep others from being upset with her. In turn she rejected her true self because she silenced her inner knowing and often did what others told her to do. This is often the beginning of losing our authentic self as we conform to what others expect us to do. To hear more about how we reclaim our authentic selves and deal with conflict with others listen in.

“Avoidance is the best short-term strategy to escape conflict, and the best long-term strategy to ensure suffering.” ~ Brendon Burchard

Go to our Teachable Online School and check out our courses including our signature FREE Balancing Your Backpack Course https://masksoff.teachable.com/courses

To Contact Us:

Instagram: @masksoffcommunity

FB Masks Off Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/masksoffcommunity

Masks Off Email: [email protected]

Masks Off YouTube Channel: https://youtube.com/channel/UCaWJfO7ZFd4aYBX3e-clj9Q

Tia Fagan

Website: tiafagan.com

Kim Gross

Website: unlock-yourmind.com

Email: [email protected]

Episode 98

What does it mean to love yourself?  Are you in the habit of criticizing yourself or are you good at giving yourself compliments and self approval? Very often it is difficult for people and especially for women to have a practice of self-care. What are some ways that you can love yourself and care for yourself?  To hear and learn more about self-love and self-care listen to what Tanya shares in this podcast. As a self-care and mindset coach she has helped many women in these areas.

Three takeaways:

1. Why is it so hard to love ourselves and how do we begin to do it? ~ 5 minutes

2. What does one do if they struggle to speak up and use one’s voice? ~ 25 minutes

3. What is one small step to cultivating a positive mindset? ~ 35 minutes

“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” – Louise L. Hay

More information and connect with Tanya:

Tanya is an authoritative expert on Self-Care, Mindset, and is a Certified Fitness Coach, who has been featured on Rogers TV, Worldly Podcasts, and has been quoted in magazines.  She’s a Motivational Speaker, Co-Author, host of her own podcast shows and YouTube channel.

To schedule your Free Deep Dive call with Tanya go to https://calendly.com/tanyaottersteinliehs/wellnesschat  to schedule

https://bodybusiness.ca/

https://www.instagram.com/tanyaottersteinliehs/

https://www.facebook.com/bodybusinesskw

[email protected] OR [email protected]

226-749-3982

Go to our Teachable Online School and check out our courses including our signature FREE Balancing Your Backpack Course https://masksoff.teachable.com/courses

To Contact Us:

Instagram: @masksoffcommunity

FB Masks Off Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/masksoffcommunity

Masks Off Email: [email protected]

Masks Off YouTube Channel: https://youtube.com/channel/UCaWJfO7ZFd4aYBX3e-clj9Q

Tia Fagan

Website: tiafagan.com

Kim Gross

Website: unlock-yourmind.com

Email: [email protected]

Episode 97

Have you ever put yourself in the middle of other peoples’ conflicts when it was not your business to do so? If so, did you ever wonder why you tried to make peace when it was not your place to do so? Often we may wear the peacemaker mask because we feel anxious and our peace is in jeopardy. The truth is that we are the only ones that can bring peace to ourselves. Conflict is normal and natural. It is very possible that if you grew up in a dysfunctional home that conflict and fighting was common and possibly scary for you as a child especially if you did not witness any conflict resolution.

“Nothing Can Bring You Peace But Yourself” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Go to our Teachable Online School and check out our courses including our signature FREE Balancing Your Backpack Course https://masksoff.teachable.com/courses

To Contact Us:

Instagram: @masksoffcommunity

FB Masks Off Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/masksoffcommunity

Masks Off Email: [email protected]

Masks Off YouTube Channel: https://youtube.com/channel/UCaWJfO7ZFd4aYBX3e-clj9Q

Tia Fagan

Website: tiafagan.com

Kim Gross

Website: unlock-yourmind.com

Email: [email protected]

Episode 96