Masks Off: Inner Freedom For People-Pleasers and Perfectionists

Our latest guest, Prachi Malhotra quotes, “drop the rope or you will get rope burn.” What does this mean? According to Prachi, if we don’t learn how to accept life and if we stay in resistance we will get “burned.”  Life is constantly changing and if we resist and don’t learn how to flow with life, we will feel sorrow and or suffering.  We have heard the saying that pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. That means that we must learn to drop the resistance to what is reality unless we want to suffer. That being said it is not an easy thing to do, and we must cultivate the muscle of accepting life and everything that is in it.  

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” ― Lao Tzu 

Three takeaways: 

What is the key thing that must change in order to accept? ~ 10 minutes 

What is one tool or skill that one can use to accept? ~ 18 minutes 

How does one know when he/she is in resistance? ~24 minutes 

More information about Prachi: 

When we moved to Bahrain about 16 years ago, I already felt burnt out from six years of working as a corporate lawyer and was determined to not go back to work. But life had other plans. After a year long sabbatical during which time I devoured books, lots of rich comfort foods, a great opportunity came my way and I found myself back in the workforce. After about 4 years of working, my world changed upside down when I delivered a premature baby at six months. I quit working and became a full time mum. Looking back, I couldn’t be more grateful for the wonderful time and opportunity this allowed me to spend with my daughter during her formative years.  Along the way, there have been several rocky and turbulent patches. At some point I got greatly interested in understanding what drives human behaviour and that led me to coming to RTT. This has been the start of a fascinating journey of exploration and what began as a journey to equip myself to help heal others turned into first a journey of self healing. I have since undertaken studies to have a fair  understanding of trauma and the neuroscience of it and how to move through it using body intelligence. 

Connect with Prachi:  Email: [email protected] 

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Episode 116

Do you consider yourself to be controlling and sometimes aggressive? If a person confronts you, do you feel challenged and must dominate? Do you need things to be your way otherwise you will feel upset? If you answered yes to any or all of these questions you might wear the “bully mask.” To hear more about this mask and see if you identify with it listen in for more.

“Be an encourager. The world has plenty of critics already.” ~ Dave Willis

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

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Episode 114

Have you ever experienced a time or maybe it happens a lot where you allow another to completely unravel you? Maybe you have been in a situation where you allowed another to control you or manipulate you into doing something you didn’t want to do only to feel totally triggered after. This is something that happens a lot in our relationships. The key is to own our part in these situations and to fully own that we are co-creators of our lives. Sure, we can be triggered by another but we still need to go inward and investigate what is going on with us and what is this moment here to teach me. While this practice can be very challenging it really is the only way to freedom.

“You are a co-creator of your life and a shaper of your reality” ~ Dr. Shefali Tsabary

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Tia Fagan

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Episode 113

Are you able to be curious about the uncertainty of life? Or, are you the type of person who has to have everything planned out and be in control? When life throws you a “curveball” do you fall apart or can you get curious about this life situation and find the abundance or the gift that the situation has to offer? In this episode Sylvia shares her story and her son’s story and how they were able to get curious when her son Brandon was diagnosed with a rare form of dwarfism. It is an incredible story of strength and hope. Sylvia shares that it was not always easy but she was able to shift her mindset to be open and curious and that made all the difference.

"If life were predictable it would cease to be life, and be without flavor."

- Eleanor Roosevelt

Three takeaways:

1. What are the drivers of anxious thought? ~8 minutes

2. What is a huge life lesson for parents? ~ 21minutes

3. What new legislation was implemented in Virginia as a result of Slyvia’s son? ~ 37minutes

More information about Sylvia:

Sylvia Farbstein has spent the last 2 decades learning how life presents us with unexpected twists and turns that can shake us to our core, stop us in our tracks or provide a catalyst for exciting change. Her professional world took a leap from the predictable and defined realm of financial services to one of few answers and no blueprint when her son, 21-year-old Brandon, was diagnosed with a rare form of dwarfism. Their experiences navigating a world not built for somebody like him prompted them to seek out ways to neither be confined nor defined by limitations, perceived or otherwise. This has led to an entrepreneurial career path for both mother and son that has impacted millions of lives.

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

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Episode 112

Do you spend most of your time living in your head? How often do you pause and check in with your heart? Do you pay attention to your body? It is normal to live inside our heads. We feel more in control when we live there. The problem is when we only live inside our heads, we ignore the heart and body. Whenever we are completely out of balance we suffer. To hear more about how we can create more balance and have more awareness around whether or not we are living in our heads take a listen.

“The world is so much bigger than your brain. Stop living inside your head.” ~Anonymous

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

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Episode 111

Are you the type of person that says “yes I can” or do you repeatedly say no I can’t? If you find yourself continually telling yourself that you can’t do something or that it is too late to change something in your life, you might want to take a look at your inner dialogue. Your critical self or limiting beliefs may be holding you back. However, it is important to use discernment and really pay attention to your intuition because your gut instinct may actually be telling you that it is not in your best interest to do something.  We must also remember that when we are supporting another person in our lives and telling them that “yes you can” do this or that, it is important to let go of expectations. We only plant seeds then let it go.

“Who told you it was too late? And more importantly, why did you choose to believe them?” ~  Richelle E. Goodrich

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

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Episode 110

How do you handle stress in your life? Does it overwhelm you or do you know how to regulate yourself? How did the role models in your life handle stress? Most often we did not have role models in our lives showing us how to regulate stress and trauma because they themselves did not know how to self-regulate. To hear more about how trauma can be passed down from one generation to the next as well as how we can transform stress into our superpower listen to this great conversation with our guest, Christa Bevan. She has helped her clients by teaching them skills to deal with stress and to build resilience when it comes to stress and trauma.

“Your body is your best guide. It constantly tells you, in the form of pain or sensations, what’s working for you and what’s not.”

― Hina Hashmi

Three takeaways:

1. What is nervous system literacy? ~ 5 minutes

2. What is the meaning of trauma? ~ 15 minutes

3. What are some useful skills for dealing with stress? ~ 25 minutes

Get your free gift from Christa: The Calm Mom Strategy: create a plan for the next time you’re faced with the tough moments that motherhood throws your way. http://christabevan.com/calmmom

More information about Christa:

Christa Bevan is an expert companion to "radical mothers" who are dedicated to breaking cycles of generational trauma.  She is a certified TRE (tension and trauma releasing exercises) provider and trauma-informed yoga teacher.  Christa is also the host of The Radical Mother Village podcast.  She believes that when mothers heal the world heals.

Connect with Christa:

Website: Christabevan.com

Facebook: facebook.com/groups/theradicalmothervillage

Instagram: instagram.com/radicalmothervillage

Email: [email protected]

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

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Episode 109

So often when we are stuck in the muck of our feelings and or thoughts, we can’t see the gift in the lessons that are there. We want to avoid pain and move toward pleasure because our brains are wired that way.  So, naturally it can be difficult to see the beauty in our pain or difficult situations. When we do our work and we heal we can begin to appreciate those reminders. As the quote by Helen Keller says, “The hilltop hour would not be half as wonderful if there were no dark valleys to traverse.” Just for today can you see a painful situation as a reminder to heal and grow.

“The marvelous richness of human experience would lose something of rewarding joy if there were no limitations to overcome. The hilltop hour would not be half so wonderful if there were no dark valleys to traverse.” ~Helen Keller

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

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Episode 108

How do you respond to external pressures in your life? Do you have a negative “gloom and doom” reaction to external pressures? Do you have a positive perspective when you have an overwhelming amount of pressure in your life? There is a difference between good stress and bad stress. That chronic stress that lingers in our lives is unhealthy for us. However, having a dose of good stress is good for us. Having good stress is healthy for our brains. Using the reframe that was talked about in an episode of the “The Brain Health & Beyond” podcast is a pivotal tool in creating a healthier life for ourselves.

“When something goes wrong in your life just yell “plot twist” and move on!” ~ Molly Weisf

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

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Episode 107

What is a conscious relationship? Do you have any conscious relationships in your life? Most of us were probably raised in unconscious relationships.  Carrie Jeroslow is a conscious relationship coach and we had such an amazing conversation on what these relationships look like and how to cultivate them. Carrie believes that we have more than one soul mate and that a soul mate is not necessarily a romantic lover. She believes that we also have soul families and that it is our purpose to learn our lessons from every relationship we have. To hear more about this riveting conversation and to learn about Carrie’s free gift tune in.   

“True love does not condone selfishness but rather aims for mutual growth. With conscious relationships, growth and personal transformation are the primary focus.” ~Katya Ki  

Three takeaways: 

1. How do we help our children to go inward? ~17 minutes 

2. What is Theta healing? ~20 minutes 

3. Do we have more than one soul mate? ~39 minutes  

Claim your free gift, Guide to Developing a Self Care Practice, by going to her website: http://www.carriejeroslow.com 

More information about and to contact Carrie:  

International Award Winning, Best-Selling Author, Intuitive and Relationship Coach, Carrie Jeroslow, helps people heal from heartbreak by sharing the secrets to finding and maintaining empowering, conscious relationships. She has previously worked as a Commercial Casting Director, an Artistic Director for the International show Blue Man Group and a massage therapist, and has owned a combination vineyard and winery in Yadkin Valley, NC. The one constant in her life has been her own path of self-evolution.   

She has been featured in Thrive Global, Winston Salem Journal,  Forsyth Woman and Tuja Wellness and has been interviewed by Marianne Williamson, Go All In TV, The ListTV and many others to discuss the strategies in her first book, Why Do They Always Break Up with Me?  This process has helped her many clients create profound changes in their relationships and in their lives.  

She gets an abundance of joy from working with clients through her intuitive readings, healings and coaching.  It is a passion of hers to assist people on their path of spiritual awakening.   In her spare time, she enjoys yoga, hiking and music. She lives with her supportive husband and 2 children in the foothills of North Carolina, USA.  

Website: http://www.carriejeroslow.com 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CarrieJeroslowAuthorCoachIntuitive 

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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/carrie-jeroslow/ 

Email: [email protected] 

Phone: 702.808.8179   

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Kim Gross 

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Episode 106