Masks Off: Inner Freedom For People-Pleasers and Perfectionists

So often in life we are attached to outcomes that we want and expect and when those outcomes don’t come to fruition, we can be left feeling angry, upset or stressed. When we just take action in life and do what feels right in the moment, we can live with more freedom and peace. When we live from a place of aligning with our authenticity, we have the opportunity to leave a positive impact on others and the world. If you are wanting to live with more peace and presence, try to let go of outcomes.

“Even if I knew that tomorrow the world would go to pieces, I would still plant my apple tree.” Martin Luther

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

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Episode 55

In the previous episode, Kim and Tia discussed that when we believe the thoughts and stories we tell ourselves, we create suffering for ourselves. Essentially when there is an event that takes place we all attach a meaning to that event. We label the event as good or bad, rather than just saying that it just is. We attach a meaning to these events and then that meaning creates an emotion and that emotion creates a feeling in our bodies, which then causes a particular behavior. This is how we develop habits and addictions as well as our limiting belief systems. Kim and Tia talk about what we can do to slow down the free fall off the side of the mountain so that we don’t completely send ourselves into a tailspin.

“When we believe in our thoughts, when we tell ourselves a story, we suffer. 'My husband doesn't respect me.' 'I should be thinner.' Those are stories. When there's no story, there's no suffering.” ~Byron Katie

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

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Email: [email protected]

Episode 54

Are you allowing the thoughts and stories that you tell yourself to make you feel like you are being pummeled by an avalanche?  Are your fears, worries, anxieties and beliefs creating a tornado of feelings and behaviors within you? Is your well-being being affected by this tornado of thoughts, feelings and beliefs? If so, you are not alone. Many of us can get caught in judging EVERYTHING as good or bad and when we judge these neutral events in life, we create more suffering for ourselves. If any of this sounds familiar to you take a listen and learn more.

“The stories we tell ourselves shape our lives. They shape who we believe we are, and this belief translates into who we become.” ~John Assaraf

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

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Email: [email protected]

Episode 53

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In this episode Kim and Tia continue the conversation from the previous episode and discuss practical tools that one can use when you are aware that you are numbing your feelings. If you are unaware of what you even feel that is perfectly fine because you can begin to notice in your body where you feel the emotion. Just begin to be aware and then sit with the feelings even for ninety seconds because often that is the amount of time that it takes for a feeling to move through. The issue is that we often don’t sit with our emotions and we go right to the numbing. As we begin to pause and put space between our thoughts/feelings and who we are, the more we feel empowered to handle our emotions.

If problems arise today, I will try to acknowledge them and then put a little space between my problems and myself.  ~ In All Our Affairs

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

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Episode 52

Episode 50!! Life does not have to be as difficult as we make it sometimes. Most times we are making our reality much more difficult than it needs to be because of the judgement and story that we attach to whatever is happening. We can literally take any event in our lives and look at it through the lens of abundance or lack. We can ask ourselves: “what can I learn from this situation and how or what is this situation trying to teach me?” When we approach life from this angle then we can really learn how to dance in the rain. Whenever the most difficult crisis arises we can still learn to have peace by knowing that everything happens for us. If we carry the idea that the Universe is always supporting us, then we can be filled with abundance, peace and joy.

“Whatever happens, happens to you by you, through you; you are the creator, enjoyer and destroyer of all you perceive.” ~ Nisargadatta Maharaj

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

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Email: [email protected]

Episode 50

Do you notice that your thoughts are going back and forth in your mind all day long like a ping pong match? Do you constantly judge everything as good or bad or right and wrong? When we do this all day long we can literally drive ourselves crazy. Things are not good or bad, life just is. When we can learn to live in the moment and accept it as it is without a commentary about the person, place or thing, this is where the peace is. This is learning to live in the moment. Life is not either/or life is both sides of the coin. This can be a difficult concept to implement and when we can just begin to take baby steps towards this way of living and we drop storylines that we attach to whatever is happening we can live in a more peaceful and alive place.

“Ten thousand flowers in spring, the moon in autumn, a cool breeze in summer, snow in winter. If your mind isn’t clouded by unnecessary things, this is the best season of your life. “ ~Wu-Men Hui-K’ai, Chinese Zen Master

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

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Episode 49

How often do you find yourself trying to get rid of or ignoring your fears and anxieties? How often do you notice that you are trying to control people, places and things because you can not be certain of the outcome? In this episode Kim and Tia talk about some tools and tips that you can use when you are having big feelings, and how you can embrace them and work with them instead of staying stuck in the fear, anxiety and control. When we can learn to feel our feelings and embrace the uncertainty, then we are in a better position to have more joy and peace in our lives.

“We do not fear the unknown. We fear what we think we know about the unknown.” ~ Teal Swan

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

Website: unlock-yourmind.com

Email: [email protected]

Episode 48

When we get stuck in the “what ifs” in life, we often get stuck in a spiral of fear. Then we get caught on the thought train and worry that if this happens or that happens, or if I do this or I don’t do that and this worry just creates anxiety. When we can’t predict or control the future, our immediate response to this uncertainty is fear. When we are stuck in this place we often go into fixing and controlling. This constant state of fear and anxiety robs us of our joy. The struggle is to stay in the moment and not get caught in the fear. Often the present moment is not as bad as our fears. There is a saying that 94% of our fears never come to fruition.

“Fear is often our immediate response to uncertainty. There's nothing wrong with experiencing fear. The key is not to get stuck in it”. ~Gabrielle Bernstein

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

Website: unlock-yourmind.com

Email: [email protected]

Episode 47

In the last episode Kim and Tia talked about giving ourselves permission to slow down and rest. In this episode they continue the conversation and talk about how important it is to listen to our bodies. Our bodies will tell us when to rest, when to move, what to eat and how much to eat etc.. if we just listen. The problem is that often we don’t listen to the body and we do everything from our minds and in particular from our old outdated belief systems and from the masks that we wear. This causes us to become run down, overwhelmed, stressed and burned out. Kim and Tia give some tools that work for them when faced with these situations. Take a listen to hear more.

“Real rest feels like every cell is thanking you for taking care of you. It’s calm, not full of checklists and chores. It’s simple: not multitasking; not fixing broken things.” — Jennifer Williamson

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Masks Off Email: [email protected]

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

Website: unlock-yourmind.com

Email: [email protected]

Episode 46