Masks Off: Inner Freedom For People-Pleasers and Perfectionists

During these busy and hectic times do you feel a constant flow of overwhelm? Are you constantly under the gun? Do you put your oxygen mask on before assisting others? Do you feel burned out all the time? How often do you feel completely ok with just taking some time (even if it is just a little while) to just unplug and unwind? We often feel so guilty when we are doing “nothing,” yet athletes know that having a recovery day is crucial to their performance. However, most of us just can’t give ourselves permission slips to just check out and rest.

“Give Yourself Permission to Unplug and Regroup, without Feeling Guilty. You can’t be there for others if you don’t take care of yourself first.” ~ Anonymous

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

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Email: [email protected]

Episode 45

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When you find yourself drowning because life feels so overwhelming and you feel like you are just trying to do everything and do it perfectly and you are trying to manage and control every part of your life and maybe others too, there are many life preservers that can keep you afloat. In this episode Kim and Tia talk about some of the many ways that you can keep yourself above water and even keep you swimming in this thing called life. A few things that you can do for yourself is to have self compassion for yourself when you feel like you are not doing a good enough job, slow down, be in the moment and live from your heart and not your mind. To hear more about this listen in.

“We are not meant to be perfect, we are meant to be whole.” ~Jane Fonda

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

Website: unlock-yourmind.com

Email: [email protected]

Episode 44

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Do you feel overwhelmed and exhausted from your list of things to do? Is it difficult for you to relax and kick back and unwind? Do you feel guilty when you are relaxing and doing nothing? Are you a human doing rather than a human being? This is difficult for many of us, yet it is so incredibly important and even necessary to nourish and reset ourselves. We have to be intentional about creating time to stop and pause and reboot. We must be aware of our inner dialogue that tells us that we are lazy or too busy or whatever your inner dialogue is about resting and pausing. So, like the quote says below that life is all about balance and sometimes it is perfectly ok and necessary to shut down and do nothing!!!

“Life is all about balance. You don’t always need to be getting stuff done. Sometimes it’s perfectly OK and absolutely necessary, to shut down, kick back, and do nothing.” ~Lori Deschene

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

Website: unlock-yourmind.com

Email: [email protected]

Episode 43

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In this episode Kim and Tia share a little more of their journey on how they each got on to the path of awakening. They share where they started and on they got on this path. Then they share how they met each other and how they came together to do Masks Off podcast. 

Tia is a Certified Conscious Parent Coach and she runs circle groups as well. If you would like to book a session with Tia, you can email her at [email protected].

Kim is a Rapid Transformational Therapy Practitioner and she gives powerful healing sessions using hypnosis. If you struggle with overeating, depression, anxiety or confidence issues you can email Kim at [email protected].

“Awakening is about liberating yourself from the prison that is the world of the mind and daring to be here as all that you are.” – Leonard Jacobson

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

Website: unlock-yourmind.com

Email: [email protected]

Episode 42

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Are you aware of your inner dialogue? Do you constantly beat yourself up and put yourself down? Do you constantly feel that you have to please, perform and be perfect? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you will want to listen to this episode. In fact, you might want to read “The Gift of Imperfection” by Brene Brown. Kim and Tia talk about some of the key lessons in this book as Brene Brown celebrates the tenth anniversary of this book. Brene explains the difference between healthy striving versus perfectionist talk. People who struggle with perfectionism often struggle with depression, overeating and anxiety. One of the key antidotes to perfectionism is self-acceptance and self-compassion.

“The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.” Anna Quindlen

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

Website: unlock-yourmind.com

Email: [email protected]

Episode 41

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It is so typical for humans to feel and think that there is not enough to go around for everyone whether that be jobs, money, shelter, raises, opportunities or whatever. We are so conditioned and wired from caveman times that it is all about “survival of the fittest.” So, as a culture we still compete and compare rather than cultivating a mindset that there is an abundance in the Universe. When we are in a place of scarcity and lack we can really impede our personal growth. A sure way of knowing if we are in scarcity is when we compare ourselves to others and we are not feeling good enough or worthy enough. When we are able to gradually move into the mindset that there is enough for everyone and also to look at life from an abundant mindset. What that means is that we learn to look at everything in life as an opportunity to grow. When we can look at even the most difficult situations in life as an opportunity to learn. That is an abundant mindset and from this place we can feel lighter and freer because we are learning to flow with life.

“People in a scarcity mindset tend to see everything in terms of win/lose. There is only so much; and if someone else has it, that means there will be less for me.” ~ Stephen Covey

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

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Email: [email protected]

Episode 40

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In addition to announcing Balancing Your Backpack, Kim and Tia talk about values and being in alignment with your values. As the quote indicates, are you true to yourself? Do you have the courage to stay in alignment with your values or do the masks you wear keep you from doing the things in life that are really important to you? What gets in the way of staying true to yourself besides the masks that we wear? Oftentimes it is our inner dialogue and our belief systems. Some may not feel that they are worthy of staying in alignment with their core values and some may be so consumed with doing and achieving and living on the “hamster wheel of life” that they are not even aware of what their values are let alone stay in alignment with them.  The price that we pay when we are not true to ourselves is that we feel disconnected from our authentic selves. Once we make choices that are in alignment with our core values, we feel more empowerment and more authentic.

“There are some values that you should never compromise on to stay true to yourself; you should be brave to stand up for what you truly believe in even if you stand alone.”― Roy T. Bennett

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

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Email: [email protected]

Episode 39

Are you striving to have perfect balance in your life? Or, do you have no balance at all? Are you completely out of alignment and therefore, out of balance? It is difficult for over achievers, people pleasers, martys or caretakers because they are doing too much of one thing. There is little balance in their lives. It is the “shoulds” in our lives that continue to push us and we do more than be. We can easily be human doings and not human beings. It can also show up where some are not motivated and can become depressed. There are so many areas in our lives that we try to find balance. While we are not looking for perfect balance we are aiming to come back to balance when we become aware that we have lost balance.

"I'm not suggesting you deny or suppress your emotions, but just discover for yourself what it takes for you to handle your emotions and stay balanced." ~Wendy Hearn

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Tia Fagan

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Kim Gross

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Email: [email protected]

Episode 38

How often have you found yourself caught in a mental tailspin because of a situation that you thought was overwhelming? Have you ever noticed yourself spiral out of control because you lacked control in a particular situation? Did you notice a heavy feeling as a result of your reaction to whatever that particular situation was? Kim and Tia discuss the importance of staying in the moment or at least returning to the moment when you feel yourself going into control mode or anxiety land. It is also key to learn the art of going inward and becoming aware of what your thoughts and feelings are all about. Is there a limiting belief or an old pattern that is showing up and allowing you to stay on the thought train of anxiety? Once we recognize that our thoughts are just thoughts and we do not have to attach to these thoughts. As we begin to realize how thoughts affect our behaviors and can have a negative impact on others, we can begin to allow those thoughts to just pass without reacting to them. 

“Ships don’t sink because of the water around them; ships sink because of the water that gets in them. Don’t let what’s happening around you get inside you and weigh you down.” ~ Anonymous  

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Kim Gross

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Episode 37

In this episode Kim and Tia continue the conversation on worthiness. They discuss how difficult it can be to know our worth and value. It can be difficult to know our value and in particular if you have a business or service and you need to charge for your time, skill, effort and energy.  We can get caught in a story line of “not good enough” or “not worthy enough” and not be compensated for what we are worth. Unfortunately, in this world money is tied to worth. You can also see throughout your day whether or not you value yourself just by how often you pause to take care of yourself. We just get so caught in daily tasks and taking care of others or performing and achieving that we don’t take care of ourselves and realize that we are worth more. So, let’s be human beings and not human doings. The key is to find balance between being and doing.

“Maturity is learning to walk away from people and situations that threaten your peace of mind, self-respect, values, morals or self-worth.” ~ Anonymous

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Kim Gross

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Episode 36