We're back with a Meg-John and Justin episode

We chatted about:

Why we haven’t talked about kink as different to any other erotic / sexual / sensual activity.

How common kink is.

How kink is still positioned as ‘not normal’ despite it being incredibly common.

The weight of should stories of what is kink and how kink should be practised (and how this might be an over correction to the messages about kink being not okay).

The challenge into tuning into what we want. How do we create our kink subjectivities?

Communication and consent.

What familiarity with all the terms and knowledge might open up or close down

Different meaning and motivations for taking part in kink

Different kinds of activities and the different things we might get out of it (and how this can be really different depending on context).

The importance of being slow and avoiding pushing people / being aware of being pushed.

Solo / partnered. Erotic / nurturing/ power.

In the rest of the conversation (on the Patreon feed) we cover:

Trauma and how we need to be aware of our own responses as well as others.

The possibilities for kink as a way of understanding our traumas (and what needs to be in place for this).

Abuse in kink communities and how we navigate risk.

Intentionality / co-created.

You can support Meg-John’s work directly at https://www.patreon.com/MegJohnBarker

Their website is https://www.rewriting-the-rules.com/

You can see their free books (including their book about trauma) https://www.rewriting-the-rules.com/all-free-books/

I also wrote about kink at my website for young people a few weeks ago https://www.bishuk.com/sex/kink/ and also about Rough Sex (after my conversation with Rachel Thompson last week) https://www.bishuk.com/sex/rough-sex/