Mess Is More

We've often said that marriage is a business, but according to the book, Spousonomics, by Paula Szuchman & Jenny Anderson, it's really a lot more like the economy...complicated.Get the book here.This amazing book is so chock full of great marriage advice we read it twice and had to split it into 2 parts!If you grew up believing you should never go to bed angry, that's just "Loss Aversion".Found yourself talking about how you should have more sex, but can't seem to get around to it? That's...

We've often said that marriage is a business, but according to the book, Spousonomics, by Paula Szuchman & Jenny Anderson, it's really a lot more like the economy...complicated.Get the book here.This amazing book is so chock full of great marriage advice we read it twice and had to split it into 2 parts!If you grew up believing you should never go to bed angry, that's just "Loss Aversion".Found yourself talking about how you should have more sex, but can't seem to get around to it? That's...

Can we be done with COVID yet? After a week, where our concert was cancelled just as family arrived in town to see it, all of our friends got sick, Nola turned 1 year old, and Emily's work closed for 10 days, we admittedly felt a little 2020 PTSD. We decided to check in with each other, and dig into how we're feeling...hint...it's not great.We discuss dealing with past trauma, grieving the loss of our former selves in a way that we're still trying to wrap our head around after a pandemic/baby...

In our 11 years of marriage we have learned a lot about what make a marriage tick, but in so many unforeseen ways we are mere novices.With that in mind, we are thrilled to have our first guests on Mess Is More.This week, we sit down with our dear friends, Christy Brandt and John Gary Brown. They have been married for over 40 years, and together for 50. They share some wonderful stories about what it takes to get messy over the long haul. We could have talked with them for hours, because their...

Happy 4th of July???After the overturning or Roe vs. Wade a couple weeks ago, it's even more critical that family care is addressed by our country. Being a new parent is a huge endeavor, and the USA is one of the only wealthy nations that doesn't have national paid leave.We have been fortunate to have 3 great companies step up to provide family support in amazing ways. We want to shout out and hear about the organizations that are helping fill the void, that so far our country has refus...

This week, we dive into The D Word; one of the scariest words you can utter in a marriage.We break down 8 common signs of divorce and reflect on how we recognized these red flags later than we would have liked.But after standing on the edge of marital oblivion, we found that living in fear of divorce was not nearly as helpful as having a healthy respect for it. That healthy respect is part of what keeps a marriage in the moment, looking out for trouble on the horizon, and a relationship built...

Great News! We're performing a benefit concert for one night only called Mess Is More: The Musical. All your favorite hot marriage content...but with songs.All the proceeds will benefit the amazing Creede Repertory Theatre, our creative home away from home. Get your tickets for July 19, 2022 @ 7 PM at https://creederep.org/show/special-events-2022/If you can't come, please consider a donation to Creede Rep, to support live theatre and their incredible education programs at https://creederep.o...

We did it! We made it through 40 plus weeks of pregnancy, the trials of labor, and the indescribable feeling of seeing the little person we made together.Then the fun starts. We always heard "everything would change", that "life will never be the same", but we didn't really know what it would all mean.In this weeks episode we break it down:How are things different now?What does our life look like?Why are we simultaneously so happy and so sad?Why are the baby blues such a stupid name for somet...

We're back y'all! And we have a new name: Mess Is More! We left last season with a real cliffhanger ...did we or did we not have that baby??? Spoiler: We did. Today's episode is dedicated to the birth story of the amazing tiny human we made! And it's a good one, folks. If you've ever had a baby or your partner has ever had one you will relate to a lot of this story. If you haven't been privy to this sort of thing, you'll get a glimpse into what it takes to birth a human and the...

If you're like us, you love taking silly Facebook quizzes that tell you which Hogwarts House you belong to. (We're proof that a Gryffindor and Slytherin can make it work!) But this week we take it to a whole other level with the Myers Briggs test from 16Personalities.comWe dive into what makes us tic, how annoying it is to have a computer call you out for your worst traits, and how it affects our relationship. Does the test have our number or is it way off, and even more importantly, what can...