Mess Is More

We've often said that marriage is a business, but according to the book, Spousonomics, by Paula Szuchman & Jenny Anderson, it's really a lot more like the economy...complicated.

Get the book here.

This amazing book is so chock full of great marriage advice we read it twice and had to split it into 2 parts!

If you grew up believing you should never go to bed angry, that's just "Loss Aversion".
Found yourself talking about how you should have more sex, but can't seem to get around to it? That's just a good old fashioned case of "Supply and Demand".

Turns out that a laissez faire attitude is great for capitalism, but not so much for a relationship.

In Part2, we dive into the last 4 economic principles that can make your marriage bubble burst:

Trade-Offs
Asymmetric Information
Intertemporal Choice
Bubbles

Then we reveal some of the strategies that can help bring you back from full on market meltdown.

At the end of the day, when 1/2 of marriages fail, having a little insurance on one of life's biggest investment is smart move!

Find us on Facebook (@MessyMarriagePodcast), Instagram (@AMessyMarriagePodcast)
Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at [email protected]

We've often said that marriage is a business, but according to the book, Spousonomics, by Paula Szuchman & Jenny Anderson, it's really a lot more like the economy...complicated.

Get the book here.

This amazing book is so chock full of great marriage advice we read it twice and had to split it into 2 parts!

If you grew up believing you should never go to bed angry, that's just "Loss Aversion".
Found yourself talking about how you should have more sex, but can't seem to get around to it? That's just a good old fashioned case of "Supply and Demand".

Turns out that a laissez faire attitude is great for capitalism, but not so much for a relationship.

We dive into the first 5 economic principles that can make your marriage bubble burst:

Division of Labor
Loss Aversion
Supply and Demand
Moral Hazard
Incentives

Then we reveal some of the strategies that can help bring you back from full on market meltdown.

At the end of the day, when 1/2 of marriages fail, having a little insurance on one of life's biggest investment is smart move!

Great News! Our benefit concert, Mess Is More: The Musical has been rescheduled! All your favorite hot marriage content...but with songs!

All the proceeds will benefit the amazing Creede Repertory Theatre, our creative home away from home.

Get your tickets for August 12,  2022 @ 7 PM at https://creederep.org/show/special-events-2022/
If you can't come, please consider a donation to Creede Rep, to support live theatre and their incredible education programs at https://creederep.org/giving/ways-to-give/

We hope to see you in Creede, CO for Mess Is More: The Musical.
You definitely don't want to Miss This Mess!

Find us on Facebook (@MessyMarriagePodcast), Instagram (@AMessyMarriagePodcast)
Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at [email protected]

Can we be done with COVID yet? After a week, where our concert was cancelled just as family arrived in town to see it, all of our friends got sick, Nola turned 1 year old, and Emily's work closed for 10 days, we admittedly felt a little 2020 PTSD.

We decided to check in with each other, and dig into how we're feeling...hint...it's not great.

We discuss dealing with past trauma, grieving the loss of our former selves in a way that we're still trying to wrap our head around after a pandemic/baby one two punch.

Nate discusses how feeling defeated, led him to defy airport employees because life has been so out of control lately.

At the end of the day, we are two tired people, who were feeling particularly downtrodden, and just hit record to show up as authentically messy as we could for 80 minutes.

So while BA.5 tears across the country, and you find yourself having Deja Vu of March 2020 all over again, join us in solidarity.

Great News! Our benefit concert, Mess Is More: The Musical has been rescheduled! All your favorite hot marriage content...but with songs!

All the proceeds will benefit the amazing Creede Repertory Theatre, our creative home away from home.

Get your tickets for August 12,  2022 @ 7 PM at https://creederep.org/show/special-events-2022/
If you can't come, please consider a donation to Creede Rep, to support live theatre and their incredible education programs at https://creederep.org/giving/ways-to-give/

We hope to see you in Creede, CO for Mess Is More: The Musical.
You definitely don't want to Miss This Mess!

Find us on Facebook (@MessyMarriagePodcast), Instagram (@AMessyMarriagePodcast)
Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at [email protected]

In our 11 years of marriage we have learned a lot about what make a marriage tick, but in so many unforeseen ways we are mere novices.

With that in mind, we are thrilled to have our first guests on Mess Is More.

This week, we sit down with our dear friends, Christy Brandt and John Gary Brown. They have been married for over 40 years, and together for 50. They share some wonderful stories about what it takes to get messy over the long haul. We could have talked with them for hours, because their insight is poignant, touching, and a goddamn delight.

As longtime company members at Creede Repertory Theatre, they have some amazing insight into what it take to not only stick it out for the long haul, but how to make a fulfilling life in the arts, where both are able to find their joy in their artistic endeavors.

Listen now, to learn about marrying your best friend, and what it means to break the script about what a traditional marriage should look like.

This episode is not to be missed.

Great News! We're performing a benefit concert for one night only called Mess Is More: The Musical. All your favorite hot marriage content...but with songs.

All the proceeds will benefit the amazing Creede Repertory Theatre, our creative home away from home.

Get your tickets for July 19, 2022 @ 7 PM at https://creederep.org/show/special-events-2022/
If you can't come, please consider a donation to Creede Rep, to support live theatre and their incredible education programs at https://creederep.org/giving/ways-to-give/

We hope to see you in Creede, CO for Mess Is More: The Musical.
You definitely don't want to Miss This Mess!

Find us on Facebook (@MessyMarriagePodcast), Instagram (@AMessyMarriagePodcast)
Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at [email protected]

Happy 4th of July???

After the overturning or Roe vs. Wade a couple weeks ago, it's even more critical that family care is addressed by our country. Being a new parent is a huge endeavor, and the USA is one of the only wealthy nations that doesn't have national paid leave.

We have been fortunate to have 3 great companies step up to provide family support in amazing ways.  We want to shout out and hear about the organizations that are helping fill the void, that so far our country has refused to fill.

Check out these 3 Great companies on instagram
Creede Repertory Theatre - @creederep
Curriculum Associates - @curriculum_associates
Indianapolis Symphony Orchestra - @indy_symphony

Check out the articles from the episode here:
https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/06/us-paid-parental-leave-child-welfare-tax-credit/661276/

https://www.nytimes.com/2021/10/25/upshot/paid-leave-democrats.html

Great News! We're performing a benefit concert for one night only called Mess Is More: The Musical. All your favorite hot marriage content...but with songs.

All the proceeds will benefit the amazing Creede Repertory Theatre, our creative home away from home.

Get your tickets for July 19, 2022 @ 7 PM at https://creederep.org/show/special-events-2022/
If you can't come, please consider a donation to Creede Rep, to support live theatre and their incredible education programs at https://creederep.org/giving/ways-to-give/

We hope to see you in Creede, CO for Mess Is More: The Musical.
You definitely don't want to Miss This Mess!

Find us on Facebook (@MessyMarriagePodcast), Instagram (@AMessyMarriagePodcast)
Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at [email protected]

This week, we dive into The D Word; one of the scariest words you can utter in a marriage.

We break down 8 common signs of divorce and reflect on how we recognized these red flags later than we would have liked.

But after standing on the edge of marital oblivion, we found that living in fear of divorce was not nearly as helpful as having a healthy respect for it.

That healthy respect is part of what keeps a marriage in the moment, looking out for trouble on the horizon, and a relationship built on open communication.

Read the article here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/better-divorce/202108/8-signs-partner-may-want-divorce

Great News! We're performing a benefit concert for one night only called Mess Is More: The Musical. All your favorite hot marriage content...but with songs.

All the proceeds will benefit the amazing Creede Repertory Theatre, our creative home away from home.

Get your tickets for July 19, 2022 @ 7 PM at https://creederep.org/show/special-events-2022/
If you can't come, please consider a donation to Creede Rep, to support live theatre and their incredible education programs at https://creederep.org/giving/ways-to-give/

We hope to see you in Creede, CO for Mess Is More: The Musical.
You definitely don't want to Miss This Mess!

Find us on Facebook (@MessyMarriagePodcast), Instagram (@AMessyMarriagePodcast)
Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at [email protected]

• Goal setting
• Trust issues
• Power dynamics
• Communication
• Supporting each other
• Going from a win/lose mentality to a we win approach
• Sharing a phone charger

We did it! We made it through 40 plus weeks of pregnancy, the trials of labor, and the indescribable feeling of seeing the little person we made together.

Then the fun starts. We always heard "everything would change", that "life will never be the same", but we didn't really know what it would all mean.

In this weeks episode we break it down:

• How are things different now?
• What does our life look like?
• Why are we simultaneously so happy and so sad?
• Why are the baby blues such a stupid name for something so damn hard?
• Why aren't more people talking about it?

Join us in the conversation as we explore how joy is different now.

Find us on Facebook (@MessyMarriagePodcast), Instagram (@AMessyMarriagePodcast), and Youtube
Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at [email protected]

We're back y'all! And we have a new name: Mess Is More! 

We left last season with a real cliffhanger ...did we or did we not have that baby??? 

Spoiler: We did. 

Today's episode is dedicated to the birth story of the amazing tiny human we made! And it's a good one, folks. If you've ever had a baby or your partner has ever had one you will relate to a lot of this story. If you haven't been privy to this sort of thing, you'll get a glimpse into what it takes to birth a human and the incredible bonding opportunity an experience like this is for a couple. 

We have so much to catch you up on, and this is JUST the beginning. Please join us for Season Two of the new and improved Mess is More podcast. All the messy marriage fun, with a shorter title so you have an easier time telling your friends about us!

If you're like us, you love taking silly Facebook quizzes that tell you which Hogwarts House you belong to. (We're proof that a Gryffindor and Slytherin can make it work!) But this week we take it to a whole other level with the Myers Briggs test from 16Personalities.com

We dive into what makes us tic, how annoying it is to have a computer call you out for your worst traits, and how it affects our relationship. Does the test have our number or is it way off, and even more importantly, what can we do when we're not happy with our results? How much can you change your personality, when parts of it can be detrimental to your personal growth, your relationship, and your parenting style?

Take the test and let us know what you learn about your personality.

If you like us, do us a favor and share us with your friends and family!

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Have a question or an idea for an episode? Email us at [email protected]