Mess Is More

In this week's episode, Emily asks Nate all about what it's like to be the other guy. Ya know, the anchor, the support person, the often overlooked partner in the pregnancy duo.

What's it like finding out you're going to be a parent?  Is sympathy pregnancy a real thing? And how does it feel knowing your partner is going through a total body transformation and and a potentially dangerous and (at it's easiest) a pretty traumatic and inevitable labor experience and there's not a damn thing you can do about it?

We know all the attention is typically on Mom, so this week Nate is here to give us the down and dirty on what it feels like to become a Dad!

Check out this awesome article, The Science of How Fatherhood Transforms You from todaysparent.com

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Well we did it y'all. 10 trips around the sun with each other. 5,256,000 Minutes (That's Ten Rent's of marriage!

Nate & Emily sit down on their anniversary and revisit what the last 10 years has taught them, how is has surprised and challenged them.

They open up about how it was nothing like they anticipated, yet richer than they could have ever anticipated. As they close out this chapter of their marriage and prepare to enter the next as parents, they reflect on what the last year has taught them.

They also celebrate a year of "Twice as Less Not Perfect". As a tribute to that first episode,  where they read their vows and thought about what had changed, they up the ante and rewrite their vows for the next ten years.

A big thanks to all the listeners who joined us for the journey. 

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This week Emily & Nate recount the adventure of their BabyMoon.  What is a BabyMoon? How does one do it? Well we’ve got answers apparently, because a registered OB in Key West chased us down the street to ask us all about it.

The final trip as a duo is a great chance to reflect on where you’ve been as a couple and look forward to how the new addition to your family is going to change everything.

All of that was great, but like  most things in marriage, it wasn’t without its messes.

From coming out of quarantine, 3rd trimester symptoms, and finding themselves in the open waters of the Atlantic, their trip to the Florida Keys  was something they’ll never forget.

Also, hear an update on our most recent ultrasound and find out how to drive your parents crazy by telling everyone in another state the gender of your baby, but not them.

70 Days to go!

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The world is opening again and if you’re like us you’re feeling equal parts excitement and “did I really like being around people that much before?”

Emily and Nate found themselves thrown back into  old patterns when Nate had to start flying for work again.

From little things like forgetting how to pack, to larger issues like checking in promptly when your pregnant wife texts you, it was a week filled with nervousness, excitement, relief, angst and at least one of us crying while on a plane to Omaha.

This week we talk about Going the Distance...the Long Distance in a relationship, that is.

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We all vow that we'll never become our parents, but if there's one thing that will bring it out of you, it's becoming parents yourself. This week, Emily & Nate dive into how their own upbringing has given them insight into how they would like to parent.

Prompted by a great discussion of other parent's to be they talk about the wonderful things they want to pass on to their child from their families. On the flip side, they discuss the parental patterns they want to break. They also turn the lens on themselves and ask "What do I want to continue to do, and what do I want to take the opportunity to stop before an impressionable little one joins our clan?"

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You've heard of the bump and grind, but this week Emily and Nate are here to talk ALL about the bump....and the GRUMP. Who is the grump? Is it one of them? Possibly. Likely even.

What they can tell you is that they are experiencing (in real time) how pregnancy changes the very nature of a relationship. Turns out the cliche we always hear about mom's hormone changes are just one part of the story. Did you know Dad's hormones change too? When Dad had a meltdown about installing a light in the closet, Emily and Nate made that fun discovery.

Here all about it and more in this Baby Update!

Check out this article from Parents.com, Love and Pregnancy: 5 Ways Pregnancy Will Change Your Relationship

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Many of us say it right in the vows, and hardly take a moment to think about what it really means. Whether it’s facing your own mortality or the mortality of your partner, kicking the bucket is an uncomfortable topic.

Nate & Emily talk about how they have prepared for end of life decisions...and by that they mean they haven’t prepared at all.

From the little things like what songs you want played at your funeral to the big complicated stuff like wills and life insurance it’s definitely a good thing to talk about long before you shuffle off that mortal coil.

Don’t fear the reaper! Stare into his empty eye sockets and you may find it brings you even closer together.

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It’s not easy being green with envy. It’s even harder when the person inviting the wrath of your green-eyed monster is your partner.

Turns out it’s a slippery slope from admiration, emulation, and pride to malicious behavior.

Most people don’t like to admit it, but it’s easy to harbor resentment  with your spouse over careers, popularity, attractiveness, wealth, prestige and a host of other things that should make us nothing but proud...except they make us feel so damn worthless.

If comparison is the thief of joy, then envy is the little green goblin of grudgingness.

Check out this article, To Love and To Envy  by Dana Shavin in Psychology Today! Also, here are 4 Ways to Deal With Significant Other Envy

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If you’re looking for advice, we have none. This week we provide an update on all of our baby craziness and how it’s impacting our marriage in surprising ways.

From ultrasounds to genetic testing;  registries and gender reveals, we’re capturing some of what’s happening in real time.

Listen in to find out how fluctuating birth plans, last name debates, and nesting make things all the messier.

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No, it'a not an episode about broadband. These 3 G's are all about sex. As in Gettin it on, Gettin busy, Giggity giggity...you get the idea. (giggity)

This week, Emily and Nate discuss why it's so dang hard to keep the fire stoked after over a decade of shagging. Have they always succeeded? Of course not! Do they keep trying new things? Most definitely! Learn about (some of) those things and learn some ideas about how you can spark the flames and rekindle your fire.

Emily and Nate got a little help from their favorite resource The All or Nothing Marriage, and love guru Esther Perel.

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