Midlife AF Podcast

In this episode of Midlife AF, I explore the concept of alchemy - the process of transforming something ordinary into something extraordinary.

I discuss how we all have the power within ourselves to be our own alchemists, to take our struggles and wounds and transmute them into self-love and self-compassion. I delve into the roots of emotional hyper-arousal, busy brains, and compulsive behaviors, tracing them back to childhood experiences where our sensitive, big emotions were often dismissed or suppressed.

I talk about the importance of "re-parenting" ourselves, of showing up for the wounded inner child and validating their experience. Through this process of self-acceptance and self-nurturing, we can find the peace and freedom we've been searching for, without the need for external crutches like alcohol.

It's an empowering message about tapping into our own inner alchemy to create the extraordinary lives we desire.

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My Upcoming Coached Events & Programs

Work with me privately: I have two options for my private 1:1 coaching you can either do a 30 day break with me as your pocket PT with my Em G in Your Pocket package.

Or you can do a longer more in-depth 3 month program with me which includes weekly zoom sessions and support in between.

I recommend doing this is you are worried you can’t do a 30 break from booze or you haven’t done one for a while.

Preparation is everything and we get you so damn ready to stop it’s a relief when day 1 arrives!

If you are not sure what the best options for you might be you can book an initial 1:1 counselling/ coaching session at $245 for a 90 minute initial consult - you will leave with a plan for your next steps with alcohol and having transformed at least on belief that is keeping you stuck drinking more than you want.

If you choose to work with me in a 1:1 30 day or 3 month program - the cost of the initial consult will be refunded: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=20808150&appointmentType=43677625 

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In this episode of Midlife AF, I have an insightful conversation about the importance of self-love and compassion when addressing alcohol use.

I explain how our inner critic and tendency to self-flagellate often stems from childhood experiences where our emotions were not fully validated. I talk about how our drinking behaviours are not character flaws, but rather coping mechanisms our subconscious has developed to deal with distress.

The key is to approach change with love and understanding for these protective parts of ourselves, rather than harsh judgment. I also discuss the challenges of doing inner work while still drinking, and why taking a break from alcohol can facilitate deeper personal growth. 

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My Upcoming Coached Events & Programs

Work with me privately: I have two options for my private 1:1 coaching you can either do a 30 day break with me as your pocket PT with my Em G in Your Pocket package.

Or you can do a longer more in-depth 3 month program with me which includes weekly zoom sessions and support in between.

I recommend doing this is you are worried you can’t do a 30 break from booze or you haven’t done one for a while.

Preparation is everything and we get get you so damn ready to stop it’s a relief when day 1 arrives!

If you are not sure what the best options for you might be you can book an initial 1:1 counselling/ coaching session at $245 for a 90 minute initial consult - you will leave with a plan for your next steps with alcohol and having transformed at least on belief that is keeping you stuck drinking more than you want.

If you choose to work with me in a 1:1 30 day or 3 month program - the cost of the initial consult will be refunded: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=20808150&appointmentType=43677625 

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In this episode of Midlife AF, I discuss the stigma and misconceptions around giving up alcohol. I share my personal journey of stopping drinking at age 46 and the profound awakening and self-discovery that followed. I challenge the notion that only "problem drinkers" or "alcoholics" should stop drinking and argue that alcohol is harmful for everyone.

Giving up alcohol is not a punishment, but an opportunity for growth, authenticity, and reclaiming our true selves.

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In this episode, I discuss the concept of "rebirthing" and how we go through many different "skins" or versions of ourselves throughout our lives. I talk about the shame and stigma often associated with struggling with alcohol, and how my approach to helping people change their relationship with alcohol is focused on understanding the reasons behind our drinking, rather than just trying to abstain through willpower alone.

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In this episode of Midlife AF, I discuss the crucial importance of emotional safety and how it relates to the alcohol-free journey. I share my personal experiences and insights on how suppressing difficult emotions through alcohol use can be a form of spiritual bypassing, and how societal expectations around happiness and resilience can further compound this issue.

I also chat about the need to create inner safety and validation for ourselves, rather than relying on external coping mechanisms like alcohol. 

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This week we are exploring the concept of the "just world theory" and how it relates to our tendency to blame victims, especially when it comes to issues around alcohol and adversity. I share personal experiences of being bullied and isolated, and how that impacted my sense of self and emotional processing.

I also chat about the importance of validating our feelings, even the difficult ones, and how practices like Somatic Experiencing, breathwork, and internal family systems work have helped me learn to sit with and process my emotions.

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This week I dive deep into the complex relationship between alcohol and excitement. As women in midlife, many of us have come to associate drinking with feelings of anticipation and thrill. But is this excitement real, or are we chasing a false sense of vitality? Join me as I unpack the psychology behind our drinking habits, explore how our identities are tied to alcohol, and discover ways to reclaim our natural vibrancy without relying on external substances.

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This episode is a must-listen for any woman in midlife questioning her relationship with alcohol and seeking to rediscover her innate vitality and joy.

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In this episode, I sit down with Amanda Lockyer, an expert on supporting families and spouses of those struggling with addiction. Amanda shares her personal journey and insights on navigating the complexities of relationships affected by addiction. We discuss the challenges of enabling, setting boundaries, and prioritising self-care while supporting a loved one.

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I'm discussing the links between disappointment, people-pleasing behaviours, and alcohol use in midlife women. We'll explore concepts like unmet expectations, examining our beliefs and needs, and letting go of seeking external validation. I also share insights on cultural conditioning, trauma, and finding your authentic identity beyond societal pressures.

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Disappointment stems from unmet and unexpressed expectations

People pleasing behaviours are often trauma responses from childhood

Examining one's expectations is important for avoiding resentment

Radical acceptance and living in the present can help manage disappointment

Women often turn to alcohol as a substitute for validation and praise

Cultural conditioning impacts our constructed personalities

Traumatic experiences are common but often go unacknowledged

Working through trauma is necessary to find one's true self

Self-care and asking for help are important parts of well-being

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In this episode, I discuss how trauma is held in the body and why somatic experiencing is so important for healing. I explore the relationship between trauma, the nervous system, and addiction. Listeners learn practical tools like breathwork and yoga to connect with their felt sense and regulate emotions.

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How trauma gets stored in the nervous system and impacts our "fight or flight" response

The link between highly sensitive people and addiction

Why resilience is more complex than society often portrays

Validating emotions through interoceptive awareness exercises

Releasing past hurts through somatic experiencing techniques like breathwork and yoga

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