Josh is back on the podcast again, and we bring on our friend, Dave Smith, who is a well traveled and well read historian, and all around renaissance man. These two decided it would be fun to go against the state department's travel advisory and go into an active war zone. For Josh, this isn't new, except this time he had to pay for it vs being paid. For Dave, this also wasn't his first rodeo.

We get into what they both saw firsthand prior to the recent cease fire deal, and what is different than the news outlets report vs what they experienced. What they thought of the culture, and the nuance upon nuance of a very complicated history, and the things that surprised them and left them in awe. Dave and josh also give their two cents on what could be done going forward to help peace last. We also get into the existential psychology of the human condition and other fascinating topics. Enjoy!

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In this conversation, my guest, Mike Ljubsa, shares his transformative journey from Canada to Jamaica, where he now runs Mycomeditations, a psilocybin-assisted therapy retreat. He discusses the profound impact of psychedelics on mental health, emphasizing the importance of integration and the therapeutic use of psilocybin. Mike also highlights the significance of men's work in creating safe spaces for vulnerability and healing. The conversation delves into the science behind psychedelics, their potential for neuroplasticity, and the future of psychedelic therapy as a means of fostering personal growth and balance.

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00:00 Introduction to Mike Ljubsa and His Journey

02:56 The Impact of Upbringing on Mental Health

05:43 Discovering Psychedelics: A Personal Journey

08:56 The Duality of Psychedelic Experiences

11:44 Understanding Trauma and Healing

15:01 The Role of Psychedelics in Therapy

17:50 Navigating OCD and Personal Struggles

20:57 Exploring Therapeutic Psychedelic Sessions

28:53 Conversational MDMA Therapy

32:38 Revisiting Grief and Loss

35:28 The Power of Feeling to Heal

39:18 Exploring Different Psychedelics

43:38 Comparing Psychedelic Experiences

49:26 Inner Child Work and Healing

54:16 Neuroscience of Psychedelics and Healing

56:46 The Power of Psychedelics in Performance

58:53 Psychedelics and Problem Solving

01:00:50 Healing Trauma and Personal Growth

01:05:47 Psychedelic Therapy Retreats: A New Approach

01:11:50 Integration and Therapeutic Practices

01:17:45 Safety and Screening in Psychedelic Use

01:19:54 Men's Work and Vulnerability

In this conversation, Traver Boehm discusses the importance of creating dedicated spaces for men to engage in open conversations about their experiences and challenges. He shares insights from his own journey through darkness retreats with a discussion on what occurs in this type of retreat, emphasizing the profound personal growth that can occur when one confronts their ego and past traumas. The discussion highlights the significance of community support, the integration of experiences, and the role of humor in coping with grief and pain. Ultimately, Traver encourages men to embrace vulnerability as a strength and to find meaning in their struggles. In this conversation, Traver and Miles explore the profound themes of caregiving, presence, self-betrayal, and the heroic effort required to live authentically. They discuss the importance of being present with those who are suffering, the necessity of breaking the cycle of self-betrayal, and the courage it takes to surrender to life's challenges. The dialogue emphasizes the significance of building a relationship with oneself and the power of conscious self-dialogue in fostering personal growth and emotional intelligence.

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00:00 Introduction and Context of the Conversation

02:58 The Importance of Men's Spaces

05:41 Darkness Retreats: The Journey Begins

08:55 The Challenges of Extended Darkness Retreats

11:41 Experiences and Insights from the Darkness

14:58 The Role of Ego and Surrender

17:44 Integration and Post-Retreat Reflections

37:28 Transforming Pain into Purpose

39:09 Exploring the Depths of the Soul

41:51 The Struggles of Men and the Path to Healing

45:30 Finding Meaning in Rock Bottom

47:58 The Absurdity of Life's Challenges

50:32 Grief, Humor, and the Human Experience

52:40 Lessons from Hospice Care

55:48 The Heroic Effort of Self-Discovery

01:05:43 The Price of Entry for Transformation

01:09:14 Finding Authenticity in the Dark

01:11:44 The Courage to Surrender

01:13:51 Dialoguing with Darkness

01:17:09 Returning to Self

01:20:23 Building a Relationship with Yourself

01:23:52 Creating a Supportive Environment

Miles, Josh, and Frank discuss the complexities of military life, focusing on the challenges of burnout, mental health, and the transition to civilian life. They explore the importance of community and support systems for veterans, the impact of deployment lengths, and the need for effective transition programs. The discussion also highlights the role of chaplains and the significance of open conversations about mental health within the military culture. In this conversation, veterans share their experiences transitioning to civilian life, the importance of community, and the healing power of storytelling. They discuss the challenges of navigating relationships and mental health after service, emphasizing the need for safe spaces where veterans can share their stories without judgment. The discussion also highlights the role of humor and camaraderie in coping with the struggles of post-military life, as well as the connections formed through shared experiences in jiu-jitsu and other activities.

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00:00 Introduction to Military Experiences

02:51 Burnout and Deployment Challenges

06:00 Transitioning from Military to Civilian Life

08:52 Training and Tactical Instruction

11:54 Current Career and Technology Sales

14:50 Deployment Schedules and Historical Lessons

24:24 The Impact of Deployment on Families

31:31 Mental Health Challenges in the Military

38:38 The Importance of Community and Support

45:12 Transitioning from Military to Civilian Life

54:45 Creating Safe Spaces for Veterans

57:31 The Importance of Sharing Stories

01:00:42 Navigating Relationships Post-Military

01:04:4 1The Alien Experience of Veterans

01:09:46 Finding Community in Jiu-Jitsu

01:20:17 The Balance of Peace and Violence

01:20:51 The Duality of Violence and Peace

01:23:15 Evolution of Military Training and Selection

01:27:49 The Journey of Becoming a Pararescue Jumper

01:30:48 Reflections on Military Service and Personal Growth

01:36:17 The Importance of Sharing Stories

01:40:07 Building Community and Connection Among Veterans

In this conversation, Miles and Karden explore the intricate relationship between the body, nervous system, and emotional health, awareness and agency in managing one's autonomic nervous system, the impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior, and the necessity of emotional tools for navigating discomfort. The dialogue emphasizes the allostatic load and its effects on health, the significance of inner child work, and the intersection of psychology and body awareness in achieving holistic wellness. In this conversation, Karden and Miles explore the themes of masculinity, inner child work, and the importance of men's initiation. They discuss the significance of vulnerability and the healing power of brotherhood, emphasizing the need for men to connect with their inner selves and seek mentorship. The dialogue also touches on the midlife transition, the challenges of self-discovery, and the role of trust in relationships. Through personal anecdotes and insights, they highlight the journey of embracing one's true self and the value of community in this process.

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Body Awareness and Nervous System

02:54 The Importance of Balance in Autonomic Regulation

06:10 Agency Over the Autonomic Nervous System

08:42 Understanding Male Responses to Threat

11:36 Childhood Wounds and Adult Reactions

14:37 The Allostatic Load and Nervous System Paradox

17:21 Training the Nervous System for Peace

20:05 Reintegration Challenges for Veterans

28:57 Reclaiming Personal Power

29:56 The Journey of Self-Discovery

31:55 The Challenge of Healing

33:43 Understanding Emotional Responses

36:39 Navigating Depression and Overwhelm

39:36 The Dorsal Vagal Response

41:03 The Role of Perception in Healing

42:38 Inner Child Work and Emotional Healing

45:12 The Power of Community and Brotherhood

48:20 Experiencing the Men's Initiation

54:41 The Importance of Trust and Rest

56:24 The Value of Trust Over Control

57:48 The Transformative Power of Jiu-Jitsu

59:55 Embracing the Beginner's Mind

01:02:37 The Importance of Humility in Learning

01:05:42 Navigating Midlife Transitions

01:09:30 The Role of Mentorship in Men's Work

01:17:38 Finding Authenticity Beyond Ego

In this conversation, Miles and Zac Miller delve into the transformative experience of Ibogaine treatment, exploring its potential benefits for mental health, particularly for veterans and first responders. Zac shares his personal journey of surrender, the importance of medical supervision, and the holistic approaches taken during the treatment. They discuss the neuroplasticity effects of Ibogaine, the significance of setting intentions, and the challenges of coping with life changes. The conversation emphasizes the importance of community support and the ongoing process of healing and integration, as well as Zac's insights on coaching and helping others navigate their own journeys.

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00:00 Introduction to Ibogaine Treatment

02:50 The Journey of Surrender

06:08 Medical Supervision and Holistic Approaches

08:58 The Experience of Ibogaine

12:00 Neuroplasticity and Integration

14:56 The Role of Intentions

17:39 Coping with Life Changes

20:44 The Importance of Community

23:36 Reflections on Healing and Growth

26:24 Coaching and Supporting Others

29:31 Final Thoughts and Future Directions

The legend himself joins me this episode to talk about some of the body of his works. I talk about being MIA and going through a difficult time.

In this episode, Miles and Duey Freeman explore the complexities of personal challenges, attachment theory, and the importance of male figures in healing. They discuss the impact of fragmentation in relationships, the role of addiction in emotional struggles, and the therapeutic benefits of working with horses. The conversation emphasizes the fluid nature of healing and the significance of connection and contact in fostering emotional well-being. In this conversation, Miles and Duey explore the intricate dynamics of animal interaction, particularly with horses, and how these principles can be applied to human relationships and therapy. They discuss the importance of building trust through incremental steps, the unique communication methods of horses, and the challenges men face in the therapy world. The conversation also delves into the impact of patriarchy on mental health and the growing epidemic of male loneliness, emphasizing the need for authentic connections and the integration of various therapeutic modalities.

00:00 Introduction and Personal Struggles

03:03 The Impact of Loss and Grief

05:53 Father Wounds and Male Mentorship

08:44 Attachment Theory and Its Evolution

11:48 Fragmented vs. Integrated Attachment

14:16 Addiction and the Need for Contact

16:57 The Role of Food, Touch, and Movement

20:03 Fluidity in Attachment and Relationships

35:47 The Importance of Relational Contact

38:07 Addiction and Predictability in Relationships

39:38 Contingent Eye Contact and Attachment

43:04 Connecting with Horses: A Therapeutic Approach

45:12 Understanding Horse Behavior and Communication

55:04 The Art of Therapy and Personal Growth

01:05:26 Integrating Dance and Self-Expression

01:06:44 The Concept of Wholeness and Health

01:08:08 Authenticity in Relationships

01:10:10 Masculinity and Therapy

01:13:15 Celebrating Differences in Gender

01:14:00 The Crisis of Male Therapists

01:16:26 The Nice Guy Archetype and Male Vulnerability

01:19:31 Patriarchy and Objectification

01:23:00 Isolation and Mental Health in Men

01:25:50 Healthy Masculinity and Connection

In Memoriam to Marty

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My guest today is Lindsay Dettwiler. She has an amazing back story and thousands of amazing stories of survival, perseverance, and the best dating "war stories".

Topics covered:

Origin Stories

Childhood wounding and trauma

Addiction and Recovery

Journey to becoming a Personal Trainer

Bonus content on dating and what women want

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Josh Sabraw is back and drops in to let us know what he has been up to. We get off and go like he never left. Early adopters of the podcast will especially enjoy this one.

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Music currently listened to

What Josh is creating

Making decisions and how grief and loss are involved

How shame is involved if you don't make decisions and try to do it all

How to make and trust change

"The Red Shirt Phenmena" for boys in school

Climbing out of dark holes and being self-led

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Wake Me Up

Something In The Orange

My guest today is Zac Miller. He is a former civil servant of Public Safety, having been in Law Enforcement, Dispatch, and the Fire Service, a rare feat, and is now working with the Uncivilized team. He also does coaching, breathwork, and other healing modalities for first responders, veterans, and people from all walks of life.

Topics covered:

00:00 Introduction to Zach Miller and His Journey

02:53 Exploring the Ibogaine Experience

05:44 The Impact of Public Safety Work on Mental Health

08:53 Coping Mechanisms and the Role of Alcohol

19:53 Breath Holding and Nervous System Resetting

22:21 The Connection Between Trauma and Healing

25:28 Finding Purpose Through Pain

26:21 Finding Gifts in Adversity

27:12 The Journey of Self-Discovery

30:33 Confronting Dark Thoughts

34:39 The Impact of Intrusive Thoughts

37:50 Navigating the Chaos of Public Safety

41:47 Moral Injury in Law Enforcement

50:39 Finding Community and Support

53:21 Recognizing and Addressing PTS

56:38 The Role of Breathwork in Healing

59:52 Struggle vs. Suffering: Understanding the Difference

01:01:28 The Journey into Coaching and Breathwork

01:08:32 Sharing Knowledge and Resources for Healing

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