Due to some really fun technical difficulties, we'll be releasing our new episode (audio and video) a couple of days late this week, but as we get to New Year's Resolution season, we wanted to share one of the episodes we recorded this time last year, when we covered the book "Tiny Habits" by BJ Fogg. Give it a listen, and if you'd like more info about building new habits (or replacing some not-so-good ones), check out our series that started with this episode.

0:00 Discussing Illness, Exercise, and Dance Lessons

13:03 Swimming Pool, Cruise, and Small Pleasures

27:38 Impact of Switching to Black Coffee

32:36 Creating Effective Habits and Goals

38:51 Emotions and Habit Formation

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Let's talk about "testing"! Not the boring kind from school--the exciting kind from relationships. Throughout romantic relationships, partners will "test" each other (consciously and subconsciously), usually in an effort to confirm that their partner actually is who, and what, they claim to be.

We hold the position that this is a normal, healthy part of relationships, and that a man's most effective response to being tested is to be authentic, and to continually work at being the strongest, healthiest, and happiest version of himself.

Give this episode a listen, and let us know what you think!

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Every time you have conflict with your partner, you make a choice whether to fight *against* the person you love, or fight *alongside* the person you love.

The way you win an argument with your wife or girlfriend is to get on the same side as quickly as you can, and join forces against the problem. In this episode, we'll discuss how to see the perspective of the woman in your life, how to understand what she may be feeling, and how you can both get on the same page to tackle life's challenges.

In our chat, we shed light on the perils of 'nice guy syndrome', and the implications of covert contracts. From the importance of understanding our emotions to maintaining a sense of humor in difficult conversations, we unpack the intricacies of gender dynamics, emotional communication, and anxiety in relationships. 

As we conclude, we offer fresh perspectives on how to navigate and enhance your relationships. We challenge some of the positions of the author of "Atomic Attraction" and attempt to elaborate on the importance of engaging with a partner's emotions in a way that adds value. We underpin the significance of not expecting others to take responsibility for our emotions and discuss different approaches to testing in relationships.

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Ever found yourself on a gruelling 30-mile hike, trading tales with a bell-clad hiker and wondering how to keep your sanity intact? Or maybe, you found yourself pondering the delicate dance of asking for space within relationships? That's where our adventures took us in this episode, and we can't wait to share all the juicy details with you.

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Ever pondered about the complex dance between men's expectations in romantic relationships and their bonds with their mothers? We'll take you on a journey through the labyrinth of relationships, shedding light on the unconscious patterns men may carry from their maternal relationships. Our conversation then weaves its way through the principles of hypergamy, challenging victim mindsets, and the importance of personal responsibility in love relationships.

As we dive deeper, we explore the intriguing world of love languages and their profound effect on relationships. We unravel the often-misunderstood dynamics of expressing and receiving love in different languages. You'll get a glimpse into our evolution as our primary love languages have shifted over the years. And what’s more? We delve into the delicate art of gift-giving, and the complexities that come with understanding and appreciating your partner's love language. Join us in this in-depth exploration of the nuances of relationships, self-care, travel tips, and much more!

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We saw "Barbie", and we have thoughts! If you haven't heard enough men sharing their opinions on culture, art, and feminism, have we got an episode for you!

0:01 Toy Movies:  Barbie (Yay!) vs. Transformers (Boo!)
8:06 Outrage and Political Commentary
15:12 "Patriarchy" and Political Manipulation
24:11 Societal Expectations and Codependency in Barbie--The Story of Ken
41:40 Impact of Discomfort, Coping With Trauma

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In our 101st episode, we continue to offer review and analysis on "Atomic Attraction" and attempt to clarify some of the terms and ideas the author employs when it comes to maintaining attraction in relationships.

00:01 Recent Updates and Weight Loss Progress
12:09 Check-in and Dogs in Supermarkets
16:12 Codependence, Fear, and Authenticity
21:59 Emotional Dynamics in Relationships
32:11 Navigating and Managing Emotions
42:50 The Importance of Differences
48:45 Creating Positive Emotional Tension
55:19 Finding a Healthy Balance

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Join us as we unpack a wild case study in our latest episode, using it as a launchpad to delve into the dynamics of relationships and communication. We discuss the importance of understanding your partner's needs versus their wants, and the critical role of being responsive and true in a relationship. We share insights on the art of listening, the power of actions over words, and why being trustworthy can be a major draw, even more than your performance.

But it's not all serious talk. We also share about our own week, my attempt at improving my eating habits, and exciting plans for my trip to New York. And as we navigate through the concept of discomfort for personal growth, we talk about the role of tiny habits and the value of in-person seminars. As the cherry on top, we hint at some exciting book choices for the future! Intrigued? Plug in your earphones and dive into learning, unlearning, and relearning about relationships with us.

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In this (late because video editing is hard) episode, we'll discuss the importance of space and having other interests in your life and relationship. Topics include: 

Avoid the trap of having only one interest--your partner
Treat your time together as cheap, and neither of you will value it
When your partner wants space, you'll probably have strong feelings--observe them, but don't (necessarily) believe them
The value of time vs. the value of attention
Trying to control unpleasant emotions with bad habits and vices
Resilient men can keep things light and funny
Don't overthink your conversations in an attempt to manipulate

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The next chapter in "Atmoic Attraction" talks about sex in a way that feels weird to us, so we talk about it in a way that will probably feel weird to you.

We talk about other stuff, too.

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