Mindset Unlimited: Tips, Tools, and Inspiration for Women in a Time of Change

Mindset Unlimited: Tips, Tools, and Inspiration for Women in a Time of Change

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  • Seven Steps to Mindful Time Management
    Seven steps to mindful time management sounds simple and, in some ways, it is, but it isn’t what you think. It’s not about tips for the best productivity hacks, habits to manage your time wisely, or tools to schedule yourself for optimal effectiveness. It actually starts with acknowledging that we have an unhealthy view of what we should be doing with our time in the first place. Along with that we have unreasonable expectations of how much we should be able to do with our time. Once we become aware of those dynamics in how we think about time, then we can start engaging time from a more mindful and sustainable place.

    In this episode of Unlimited, I explore what it means to mindfully manage your time and what’s stopping you from doing it.

    Some of what I talk about in this episode includes:

    • Understanding what it means to manage your time
    • Being at choice with your time
    • Embracing flexibility to maximize your time
    • The impact of mindset and societal stories on time management 
    • Ways to engage mindful time management

    Thank you for listening and joining me for Season 1 of Unlimited!
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    LINKS REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:
    My Grandmother’s Hands (book)
    What’s Killing My Motivation?
    The Social Dilemma (movie)
    Creating Your Ideal Day YOUR Way
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    44 min
  • What’s Killing My Motivation?

    What’s killing my motivation and how do I fix it are two questions many clients come to me with. They usually have something they want and can’t seem to get themselves to DO what they need to do to get it. There are lots of reasons they think are the problem – they don’t know the right thing to do, they have a mindset issue, they need to be more organized, more disciplined, manage their time better, etc. While there may be some truth to these beliefs, they are surface issues, which is why people struggle to solve them on their own. 

    In this episode of Unlimited, I explore the deeper issues that may be killing your motivation and share some solutions to re-energize taking action. 

    Some of what I talk about in this episode includes: 

    • Beliefs about motivation that sabotage you 
    • Understanding motivation 
    • What’s wrong with Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs 
    • Patterns of confidence and self-doubt in compassionate people 
    • Check ins to increase motivation 


    Thank you for listening and be sure to tune in next week for more tips on motivation and time management!

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    LINKS REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:
    Psychology Today - Motivation
    The Blackfoot Origins of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs
    More Self-Control Is Not Always The Answer
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    46 min
  • The Myths Around Productivity

    The myths around productivity are hurting both your productivity AND your mental health. Mythologies always have a purpose for being created, usually to explain something or to illustrate a cultural ideal. These myths of productivity were generated to turn abusive labor practices into an internalized cultural ideal that we then perpetuate upon ourselves. This narrative leads us to abuse ourselves to live up do this mythology’s “good person” and the belief that if we are good enough we will eventually achieve some future dream life. 

    In this episode of Unlimited, I call out the lies that have become our myths around productivity and invite you into a new narrative of holistic wellness and sustainable living.

    Some of what I talk about in this episode includes:

    • The definition of productivity and its impact
    • Stories you tell yourself that keep you stuck
    • Motivation and the story of lazy
    • Re-thinking time management
    • Creating a process that supports you


    Thank you for listening and be sure to tune in next week for more tips on motivation and time management!

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    LINKS REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:
    Making decisions I can trust
    More self-control is not always the answer
    Dealing with Burnout beyond the 9-5
    Apply for a recorded coaching session
    Submit a question anonymously


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    40 min
  • Empowering Evolution In Your Work with Myrna Daramy

    Empowering evolution in your work is first and foremost about recognizing that you CAN evolve. You are not confined to what you currently know or the way you currently are or even what you’ve done in the past. With that belief, each choice becomes an opportunity to evolve into MORE the person you want to be both in experience and impact. This mindset is key to creating content that is accessible and meets people where they’re at because it allows for curiosity over judgement. It enables you to learn new things, let go of what isn’t working, and make new choices that create new outcomes.

    In this episode of Unlimited, the podcast, I invited Myrna Daramy to join me in a conversation around empowering yourself to evolve your work in a way that supports you AND the difference you want to make in the world.

    Some of the things we talk about in this episode are:

    • Being informed not confined by binary boxes
    • The difference between evolving and scaling
    • What it means to be accessible as a digital creator
    • Showing up authentically
    • Defining what being an expert looks like for YOU


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    LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:
    Essential Web Accessibility Checklist

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    43 min
  • Do You Feel Called To Get Involved with Kristal Larson

    Many women feel called to get involved in their local government. Women and other minorities are drastically under-represented on all levels of government. Most of us agree the consequences of this are highly problematic. We want to contribute to make our communities a better place, but we typically opt for volunteer opportunities over running for office. Volunteering IS certainly important but what holds us back from running and helping reduce this representation gap ourselves? There’s a commitment involved but we give that in other places… So why not commit and contribute as an elected official? Some of what holds us back is logistical, but some of it is an overwhelm that stems from what we THINK it looks like to run for and hold office. 

     In this episode of Unlimited, the podcast, I invited Kristal Larson, Clerk of Avon Township to join me in a conversation around some of the beliefs and mindset barriers that hold women back from actually running for office when they feel called to get involved in their local government . 

    Some of what we talk about include

    • Misconceptions about running for office/being in office
    • The importance of knowing what’s important to you
    • Building confidence being visible
    • Being a business owner, advocate, AND elected official
    • Where to start if you want to get involved
    • Staying centered when doing all the things


    If you're feeling called to run for office, know that it's not as overwhelming as you think and the support is out there!

    Go to meetings, reach out to aligned officials, show your passion. Remember, we want YOU!


    Thank you for listening!

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    LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
    Represent Women – By the Numbers
    She Should Run
    Unlimited Episode 46 - Leading with Growth Mindset

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    45 min
  • Leading With Growth Mindset with Andre Vasquez

    Leading with growth mindset takes a certain amount of willingness to be vulnerable. Why? Because it means you own your mistakes. This isn’t easy in a society dominated by fixed mindset, which feeds the idea that if you make a mistake then you ARE a mistake. Fixed mindset leads to constantly trying to prove good enough because of a believe that we are born a certain way and cannot change. Thus, everything is an indication of our inherent being. Growth mindset is a belief that you can cultivate qualities. It feeds the idea that mistakes are opportunities because you can always learn to do better. Many current leadership trainings emphasize growth mindset and the term has become a bit of a buzz word but what it look like in a leader?

    In this episode of Unlimited, the podcast, I invited Andre Vasquez, Alderperson of the 40th Ward in Chicago to join me in a conversation that emphasizes what it looks like to lead with growth mindset in life and government.

    Some of what we talk about in this episode includes:

    • Owning your mistakes and making living amends
    • Authentically and imperfectly showing up
    • Normalizing self-doubt
    • Playing to your strengths
    • Owning your present moment
    • Being an activist outside and then inside the system


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    LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
    The 50th Law by 50 Cent and Robert Greene
    The Esra Klein Show: Your Success Probably Didn’t Come from Merit Alone – interview with Tressie McMillian
    40th Ward Office Spotify Playlist

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    42 min
  • Unlearning Internalized Beauty Standards
    Unlearning internalized beauty standards and redefining beauty for myself continues to be a big work for me. As a young person, one of the ways several of the kids in my class (especially the girls) bullied me was with the label “fat.” I pointed out that the boys who were my size or larger were not also labeled this way, but it didn’t matter. It wasn’t about them. It wasn’t really about me either, but I took it on. We learn many norms, like body norms of size/shape/hair/etc., through shaming because they aren’t about us. They are about control and power. They are sprayed on us to manage what is socially undesirable and we absorb them like pesticides, poisoning our ability to nourish ourselves. Instead we learn to shame ourselves, to keep ourselves in compliance, and forget we even had a choice in the matter. 

    In this episode of Unlimited, the podcast, I share a my most recent work to explore my own internalized beauty standards and empower myself through awareness and radical self-love.

    Some of what I talk about in this episode includes:

    • Societal and generational learning and unlearning
    • The expansive experience of decolonizing my library
    • Walking through shame toward radical self-love
    • Challenging society’s beauty ideals
    • Intimate relationships and what is “sexy”

    Thank you for listening!

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    BOOKS/ARTICLES REFERENECED IN THIS EPISODE:
    Caste: The Origins of Our Discontents by Isabel Wilkerson
    The Body Is Not An Apology: The Power of Radical Self Love
    Plucked: A History of Hair Removal by Dr. Rebecca Herzig
    Alok’s IG Book Report Post on Plucked
    My Grandmother’s Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies
    Stop Telling Women They Have Impostor Syndrome

    UNLIMITED EPISODES REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:
    Allowing Space to Imperfectly Love Your Body and Yourself
    Building Confidence Through Boudoir Photography
    No, You’re Not Crazy

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    43 min
  • Finding The Best Bra For You with Bare Moxie
    Finding the best bra for you can make a huge difference in how you feel about your body. Unfortunately, it’s a lot harder than it should be because most stores will size you based on what they carry. That means that the majority of women who wear bras are wearing the wrong size bra for their body! However, most of us don’t even realize it. We think that’s just the way the industry is or the way our body is. We believe it’s just one more thing we have to tolerate in life unless we want to spend lots of money on fancy custom bras. But that’s not true! You CAN have cute, supportive bras without breaking the bank no matter what size you are. 

    In this episode of the Unlimited podcast I invited JoAnn Salazar and Sonja Beallis of Bare Moxie, an intimate boutique, to join me in a conversation around finding the best bra for you. 

    Some of what we talk about in this episode includes:

    • The importance of a proper bra fitting
    • The factors that make a bra work for you
    • Why so many women wear the wrong size bra
    • Red flags in bra fittings
    • How to make a bra last
    • Releasing self-judgement based on social norms
     
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    43 min
  • Building Confidence Through Boudoir Photography with Liz Hansen
    Building Confidence through boudoir photography is about empowering how you view your body. Empowerment is about choice and tapping into your possibilities. Women are bombarded with unrealistic body ideals, which makes it hard not to internalize the idea that we are flawed. Then, our choice is limited to what products to buy to try to become more beautiful to the assumed gaze of others. Or to disconnect and deprioritize our physical self. Boudoir invites you see yourself and your body through a different lens, to expand what you recognize as possible for yourself. There’s a confidence that blooms out of that knowing. It’s why many women do boudoir shoots just for themselves, not only for an intimate partner.


    In this episode of the Unlimited podcast I invited Liz Hansen owner of Chicago Boudoir to join me in a conversation around the empowering experience of a boudoir photoshoot.

    Some of what we talk about in this episode includes:

    • What is boudoir photography
    • Sexualization vs embodiment
    • Reclaiming your relationship with your body
    • Building a sense of confidence
    • The power of owning of your mistakes
    • Female empowerment ripple effect
     
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    LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE
    Unpacking the Male Gaze: Birds of Prey vs. Suicide Squad

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    39 min
  • No, You're Not Crazy
    No, you’re not crazy. You’re living in a period of rapid change in a society full of unhealthy coping mechanisms. Almost all of my clients recently have brought up concerns around dramatically increased levels of anxiety and anger. They know navigating the pandemic is a factor but it unnerves them how often they don’t feel like themselves. Naturally, that exacerbates their stress and triggers self-doubt. My hope is that this episode can support clarity and relieve some of that stress. In the episode I offer both an understanding the social and psychological dynamics of this time and tools to support engaging it.

    In this episode of Unlimited, the podcast, I engage why you may be feeling crazy right now and what you can do to support yourself.

    Some of what I’ll cover in this episode include:

    • What a period of anomie looks like
    • Gaslighting and how it’s showing up in our lives
    • Shifting how you think about and engage stress
    • Intentionally connecting to your values and setting boundaries
    • Visioning through risk assessment

    There are important changes that need our intentional engagement. In order to do that we must step outside of the pull to reclaim norms that aren’t healthy and courageously lean into creating new norms. This is hard and made harder because the time between old societal norms dissolving and new societal norms forming is fertile ground for gaslighting, an already all too common technique in our society. I believe we can and must evolve. It's messy work but supporting you in it and through it is why I'm here.

    Thank you for listening!

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    ARTICLES REFERENECED IN THIS EPISODE:
    The Sociological Definition of Anomie
    Anomie in the Sociological Perspective of Emile Durkheim
    Stop Telling Women They Have Impostor Syndrome
    Is Someone Gaslighting You?
    Here’s How To spot If You’re Being Gaslighted
    Embracing Stress Is More Important Than Reducing Stress

    UNLIMITED EPISODES REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:
    How to Start Meditating
    Understanding Your Stress Language
    Relearning Self-Love
    Girl, Learn to Apologize
    Red Flags in Online business
    Toxic Positivity

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    52 min

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