Our first response when someone has hurt us or not shown up for us, is to block them, avoid, or end he relationship. What happens if the person genuinely cares and loves us, but doesn't know how to help us in that moment? Check out this episode and don't forget to tag me on FB or Instagram to tell me what you think.

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You see the red flags in your relationships.The concern is you think you can change them. You think all a person needs is the love, kindness, and nurturing you will give, and they will miraclously change into the person you have always needed them to be.

This instinct you have to help others will not go away on its on. Let's talk about ways you can begin to see red flags for what they are, and why you struggle in the first place. 

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Are you in the process of healing from codependency/people pleasing while dating? It can feel hard to date while we are also doing the work required to heal from our past trauma. On this episode we talk about ways we can assess the people we are dating and make sure they can meet our needs and are in alignment with the purpose God has for our lives. 

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Fear gets a bad rep. It is often viewed as something we shouldnt have. However, this episode I discuss how fear helps us know that we are on the right track when it comes to our healing journey. This episode will discuss how we can use fear to help us make the right decisions for ourselves and live! Codependency and people pleasing keeps us in the mind set of feeling like we have to chase love, support, and guidance. When we begin to heal, our goal is to move past surviving to living by operating from a place of us being "full" and taking care of ourselves. 

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It can be difficult to live while we are depressed. In this episode I give you tips I have used myself as well as encouraged my clients to use. They have been proven to be helpful. Show yourself some compassion. Do things at your own pace and don't beat yourself up when you notice you are less productive than you would like to be. By loving yourself during your depression hardships, you will learn to love yourself through all life tribulations and accept that depression is a part of life and CAN be managed. 

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Mistakes are a part of life. Often times we buy into society's standards and come to believe that mistakes are bad and making them means we are not responsible people, and we don't know or are struggling to manage life. I want to change this narrative and give you a new perspective in this podcast. As we heal from people pleasing and codependency we let go of the negative mindset and inner critic that has been making us feel like we are less than. Life is about making mistakes. We grow from mistakes. As we heal, we find mistakes bring us to another level of understanding. We learn what we need and want based on decisions we make. 

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Do you often wonder if you have hit rock bottom? If so, you are not alone. Most people who struggle with people pleasing and codependency have multiple episodes of feeling depressed and down. The concern is we often continue to keep going. Thinking we can't afford to be down because too many people need us. Even though, people needing us is often what has us down. It is a vicious cycle us as codependents go around and around in, until we have had enough.

Listen to this episode and learn how detaching from people and things that cause us pain can give us the tools we need to reclaim our life.

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Do you struggle to say no or set boundaries in your personal life? Majority of people who struggle with codependency and people pleasing admit that this is a #1 concern in their life. Not saying no and doing things we don't want to do leads us down a path of chaos, pain, and confusion. We lose our identity, and we get overly absorbed into other people's life. It's time for it to end. Listen to this episode and gain the tools and support you need to live your own life. 

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In this episode we discuss what is codependency? How did we become codependent and how can we begin to heal, and why is it so difficult to say no.