Monday Morning Mindset Shift

If you've ever read Napoleon Hill's Think and Grow Rich, you'll recall that he addresses humanity's 6 basic fears.

These are things we’re scared of that we keep in our mind that prevent us from becoming successful. "fears are nothing more than states of mind," and that "one's state of mind is subject to control and direction."

In other words, you can avoid them. But, as Hill writes, "Before we can master an enemy, we must know its name, its habits, and its place of abode.”

In this episode of the podcast, we take a deeper dive into the Fear of Poverty, Fear of Criticism, and Fear of Ill Heath. We'll define what those fears are, what they mean, and some psychological strategies to overcome them.

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I haven't been as present on my podcast as I'd like.
I have all the excuses / reasons / explanations in the world, but that doesn't mean it's ok.
I can't shirk my responsibilities or showing up just because some things aren't going as planned on the emotional side of things.

I want to help you guys show up by giving you 3 ways that have helped me during one of the most rough periods of my life to date. I am going to go over the 3 ways I use to keep me on track, and explain how they've served me.
1) Fake it til you make it
2) Tie your success to the success of others
3) Production pivot

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In times of uncertainty, we experience fear. And the irony is that our response to fear often perpetuates it. 

It’s our resistance to facing fear that magnifies the feeling.

Fear on a practical level is an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat. To me, even though they use the word emotion, they’ve rooted it in logic. You are fearful because you believe XYZ.

So what are strategies we can use to slay the dragon that IS fear? How can we uproot it from an emotional and a practical perspective.

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Today’s shift is this, you have the power to speak into existence, to convince yourself, that you can have everything you want.

Step 1) You need a written statement of definite purpose, and written goals that are very specific, phrased in the positive, and measurable. "I am going to impact the lives of 10,000 women through online personal training in the next 10 years."

Step 2) When you read your purposes and goals, and when you’re imagining them things, get emotional about it. EMOTION is integral. This is why typical affirmations almost always fail. People speak their affirmations, but they’re not ENGAGING themselves. You have to get emotionally behind it. Use your body language. You’re NOT slumped over in a chair reading your goals. You can get up in the room, and pace, and strut around. 

Step 3)  Be very visual and very sensory in your experience. If you’re imagining your goals as if they were already true, you engage all your senses along with your imagination. This means you SEE the exact amount of money you hope to acquire. But also, picture yourself competent. You have to envision yourself performing the services to the world in exchange for you receiving this money. Start to HEAR in your mind the compliments that your friends are giving you, because you’ve lost weight. If you imagine a new corner office with a window, SMELL the leather on the chairs.

Step 4) Keep on repeating it. You keep on going back to the SAME, exact, definite goal over and over and over. Over time, you’ll get to the point where you become so engaged and obsessed with this idea, you KNOW it’s going to come true. You know it. Now, it’s just a matter of a time lag until it happens, because you already know it in your mind it’s already happening.

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Today’s shift is this, in order to build self esteem, you need the 3 C’s: Credibility, confidence, competence.

Bedrod Keulian introduced the concept, and I wanted to dive deeper. People are constantly asking, wondering, and researching how to build their confidence. 

We start with the first C - credibility. You have to build credibility with yourself, and the way to do that is by keeping the promises you make to yourself. Do the things you said you were going to do. 

The next C is Confidence. When you stack wins, you inherently become more proud of yourself. You get to pat yourself on the back time after time. How amazing does that feel? Confidence comes from owning your wins. 

And finally, the third C is competence: the more wins you stack, the better you do things, the more competent you become, and the more skills you acquire. 

Pick a promise you’re going to make and KEEP to yourself every day for the next 30 days ... and watch your confidence soar!

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Anxiety occurs when your thoughts, worries, and fears are literally everywhere but where you are right now. Your thoughts are geared towards unrealized dangers instead of  savoring each moment, and make it joyful and peaceful.

Staying present is hard. Most of the time, our minds are reflecting on the past, or focusing on those unrealized dangers or threats of the future. But as HoloCaust survivor Carrie Ten Boom said, “Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its struggles, it empties today of its strength.” Don’t empty the beauty of today for the unrealized danger of tomorrow. or next year, or a decade from now. 

• Remind yourself there’s no way to know for sure what’s going to happen
• Avoid getting paralyzed by unrealized danger
• Find something in the moment to seize and savor

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Today’s shift is this, stop giving your self esteem away to people who don’t matter.

I’m obsessed with a famous quote by Thomas Cooley that goes like this. “I am not who you think I am; I am not who I think I am; I am who I think you think I am ”

Self concept is an idea of the self constructed from the beliefs one holds about oneself and the responses of others.

Self-concept is an individual's knowledge of who he or she is… But we gather that knowledge from feedback and data. According to Carl Rogers, self-concept has three components: self-image, self-esteem, and the ideal self. Self-concept is active, dynamic, and malleable. It can be influenced by social situations and even one's own motivation for seeking self-knowledge.

It’s fluid. And while typically fluidity is a good thing, it’s not when it comes to your self concept. The fastest, more sure fire way to destroy your self esteem and self worth is for there to be a chasm between your ideal self (the person you want to be) and your self image (the person you see in the mirror). Every day, we let bullies, partners, parents, and social media take our power away from us. We let them create a bigger and bigger divide between who we are and who we want to be.

If you want unshakable, unbreakable, steadfast and rock solid confidence… stop identifying yourself based on other people’s perceptions. Close the gap between your self image and ideal self. Stop worrying about others.

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Today’s shift is this, when you have fewer expectations, you have fewer disappointments.

I still have expectations of people, professionally and personally, and to be honest, both still tend to let me down. But here’s my saving grace: if the behavior is repeated into a pattern, it’s on me to pay attention. I can own my reaction. I get to choose to feel empowered versus feeling like a victim. 

When you lay blame, you give away power. When you take the blame, you take back your power. When someone lets you down once, the responsibility is on you to take the time to figure out if you’re going to let it happen again.

Instead of just sitting in your frustration or disappointment, channel it. Do something productive with it. Make sure the same thing doesn’t happen again. When people let you down, find a lesson in the pain.

Your heart is resilient. 

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Today’s shift is this, your ‘forever’ relationship has to be a mix of 3 things. 

The key to a happy marriage is that your person is a TRIFECTA of

1️⃣ Your lover. You have to be sexually attracted to them.

2️⃣ Your best friend.

3️⃣ Your wife/husband.

The physical attraction has to be there, the emotional sensitivity and understanding is a must, and you have to want to do boring ADLs (activities of daily living) with them.

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Today’s shift is this, the reason you don’t have it yet is because you don’t understand it. 

See, the reason everyone (except engineers and brilliant prodigies) fails trigonometry and algebra is because we don't see a use for it when we’re older. We don’t ‘get’ why we need it or when we’re ever going to use it again. It’s hard to process the information coming at you, because you can’t picture more than 5 minutes or days into the future. 

When it's initiated from an external force, change tends to arrive in the form of or be perceived as an obstacle, obligation, or if our mindset is right as an “opportunity.” But the difference between an obstacle and an opportunity is your mindset. Do you WANT to understand it? To break it down? To think of how you can use it in the future?

It’s no different than 12th grade trig. Different age, same concept. You have to make training and nutrition relevant to you. You have to understand WHY these things are important to you and how you’re going to use them to be healthier, leaner, happier, and more confident. Understand them, get motivated, and then make it happen.

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