Monday Morning Mindset Shift

How to increase your largest check:

1) The individuals who are the best think differently and who received the largest checks are the ones who are continually linking themselves up with other unique ability friends, coworkers, mentors, podcasts, books, etc.

2)  The best that keep getting better have found a way to escape complexity and problems. They have moved into a results-based mindset where there are always new chances and opportunities. They never getting stuck on the problem.  they WANT, and then figure out the action steps and smaller goals that will get them there. Katie has a saying that I’ve adopted with my clients; “you’re coming up with problems to all my solutions.”  Don’t be that guy 

3) You truly have to understand what it takes to make the mindset breakthrough. - from an emotional and mental perspective, they establish freedom from stigmas and stereotypes - freedom from mediocrity - freedom from scarcity (Rather too many opportunities to choose from). There is a general shift toward a more abundant mindset. And not just financial abundance, but an abundance of friendships that serve you, an abundance of job opportunities, etc.

4) They act as if you’re already worth that amount on your largest check. As if you already have the friends that are going to level you up. As if you have the mind carefree solution-oriented positive mindset.  Act as if you know that your life is a reflection of what you believe is possible for yourself.

Resource for Dan Sullivan's business coaching: https://resources.strategiccoach.com/the-multiplier-mindset-blog/how-entrepreneurs-can-increase-their-revenue-every-year

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Credit to Dan Sullivan for the concept in his book, "How the Best Get Better."

He talked about how entrepreneurs can increase their revenue every year. First, they have to take stock of how much they made in the last 12 months. The issue is, people are  told to believe they're only as good (or only worth) as much as they are paid. So they end up keeping themselves at that level.

Until someone (like this podcast!) busts through the door and tells you that things could be bigger and better for you! Not just your checks, but your relationships, romantic and friendship. There's more out there for you. If you think you're worth more, if you think your friends are holding you back, if you believe your partner isn't giving you as much energy or attention as you deserve, you have the right to ask for it!

Resource for Dan Sullivan's business coaching: https://resources.strategiccoach.com/the-multiplier-mindset-blog/how-entrepreneurs-can-increase-their-revenue-every-year

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We like to think of the world in terms of black and white; happy is good, sad is bad.
Where did this idea come from? “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so” is a quote from William Shakespeare's tragedy, Hamlet.

In a similar vein, according to entrepreneur Alex Hermozi, "What we have is a line of normal human existence, and points that occur above the line and below the line." Being SAD isn't bad; it's a point below baseline. It's part of our existence. It's necessary. Without darkness, there can't be light.

We need to start reshaping and reshifting our paradigms around labels.

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With a bit of practice the dopamine-inducing task can grow bigger, but the tasks should be small enough so they can be completed in one go. In time, the larger and harder the task is, the bigger the dopamine rush at the end.

Regardless, it's all about the effort. The more effort that precedes the win the greater the effect on both testosterone and dopamine and as a consequence, the ability to lean into further effort. So you don't "get motivated" - you get to CREATE your own motivation!!!

Remember: The major effect of testosterone and dopamine on the brain is to make effort feel good. That is why even subtle increases in testosterone can be beneficial.

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Sources: https://www.instagram.com/hubermanlab/
Link to the original video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PRFlydR-gm8

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I hear people with anxiety tell me all the time, “I just don’t have the bandwidth.” Implying they don’t have the energy, or the time. 
But where did this LACK come from? How do we already start the day ‘behind’?

If this sounds like you, pause. Breathe. Take a second. As you’re breathing, focus on the here and now. Stop focusing on the tasks of the week, and getting everything done all on one day. You have the bandwidth. Focus on the NEW day put in front of you, and the new capacity you were given by started the day fresh. 

If you operate from a “new day, new me” perspective, you’ll be able to put more intention and focus into each activity of your life. You have to appreciate that and actually SEE / feel that. And when you focus on the present moment, you’ll see that your capacity will open up, and you’ll be able to tackle everything at 100%. You have the bandwidth. By the end of the day, the week, and the month, you’ll see how much you were able to accomplish. But as long as you’re operating from a place of scarcity, it’ll be hard to see the forest for the trees. 

To summarize, the things one day at a time. Make a list. Get it out on paper. The list is just a series of things in rotation that stay there until they get done. So if it doesn’t happen today, we can do them another day. You have the bandwidth

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Phones aren’t just detracting us from the present; they have a much more profound effect on our happiness. 

When we’re on our phones and not being in the moment, or when we’re multi-tasking work and talking to a friend, we’re half-assing both things. This affects our future. How ? If you never help your kid with their homework, or never know what they're working on in school, can you be AS proud at their graduation? Can you understand the end result as empathically?

If you walk into a movie 20 late, only receiving part of the plot, can you truly APPRECIATE the outcome of the story at the end? If there are holes in our present because we’re on our phones, then the future won’t be as impactful because we will have missed integral parts. 

To summarize, not only do our phones take us away from the present, but as a function of that, they detract from our future.

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I wanted to give you guys something a little different this week.

Instead of going solo and bringing you a 3-5min mindset shift, I wanted to put up a really useful podcast I did with my friend Amber Sobrio-Ritter, who runs the Divergent Fitness podcast and instagram site.

ENJOY!

"In this episode, Jaime Filer talks about how her work in the gym translated into every area of her life and how she developed a systematic system for helping other queers do the same."

Amber's podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-divergent-fitness-podcast/id1589994005
Amber's IG: https://z-p3.www.instagram.com/divergentfitnessca/

If you're interested in more mindset and health hacks for overwhelmed women, find me on Instagram @jaimefilerfitness, or head to https://call.jaimefiler.com/form to learn more about the 16 week 3R Method 

We use social media, likes and comments, compliments from others, our parents telling us they’re proud of us… We actively go out and search for honest understanding. Acknowledgement. Feelings. That’s the how. The WHY is because it’s human nature. As we’ve spoken about 100 times, one of the most essential human needs is to feel significant, and the way we do this is through validation.

But validating your OWN thoughts and emotions will help you manage yourself more effectively. Because social media won’t always be there for you. It helps you find wisdom. It helps you become more self aware. If you accept that you are feeling… jealousy, for example, and you understand the reason behind it, then you can learn from your own experience. You can validate your own feelings, and move on - and up. Being present validates that YOU and your feelings matter. Feel the physical sensations.

4) Remember the past - You’ll often have thoughts and feelings based on events that happened in the past. Maybe you hate when your friends argue because it reminds you of when your parents did that and used to pit you against one of them. But go back to number 2, the honest reflection, and say to yourself, “I understand that I am afraid of arguments because when i was younger, my parents hurt each other during conflict.” They’re not related. Validate the feeling by remembering where it came from, and understand that it’s not the same

5)  Normalize your feelings - Of course it would make sense that I feel sad - I got turned down for a job. It’s normal to feel painful emotions. No one is happy all the time. Sadness and pain is commonly felt by other people. You’re normal.

6) Be Genuine - Don’t lie to yourself. Don’t tell yourself it’s ok when it’s not. Don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t. Changing some behaviours that are invalid and not congruent with you will alleviate some of the suffering you experience. But you have to practice. Practice practice practice al of these steps to help you self validate more naturally.

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If you're interested in more mindset and health hacks for overwhelmed women, find me on Instagram @jaimefilerfitness, or head to https://call.jaimefiler.com/form to learn more about the 16 week 3R Method 

We use social media, likes and comments, compliments from others, our parents telling us they’re proud of us… We actively go out and search for honest understanding. Acknowledgement. Feelings. That’s the how. The WHY is because it’s human nature. As we’ve spoken about 100 times, one of the most essential human needs is to feel significant, and the way we do this is through validation.

But validating your OWN thoughts and emotions will help you manage yourself more effectively. Because social media won’t always be there for you. It helps you find wisdom. It helps you become more self aware. If you accept that you are feeling… jealousy, for example, and you understand the reason behind it, then you can learn from your own experience. You can validate your own feelings, and move on - and up. Being present validates that YOU and your feelings matter. Feel the physical sensations.

1) Mindfulness - Not mindfulness as in meditation or just… yoga practice, but mindfulness as in being here and now. Being mindful of your emotions without pushing them away. Being present. Listening to yourself, even if the sadness, hurt, or fear is challenging. Avoiding emotions can result in negative consequences.

2)  Honest Reflection - Label the feelings accurately. Stick to the facts once you observe and describe your experiences. Exactly what emotion are you feeling? What triggered that thought? What action to you want to take. “I am a loser and nobody wants to spend time with me” is not a fact. That’s your take on it. “I feel angry and disappointed that sandy cancelled our lunch date. I feel tightness in my chest, and a little fear as well” are observable facts. 

3) If you’re like me, someone you don’t know what emotion you’re feeling… the best you can do is look at an emoji chart online, and point to the face. Or ask yourelf what someone else would be feeling if they were in your position. You can also guess your emotion based on the action you want to take. If sandy cancels lunch, and you want to send her a text with a lot of 4 letter words, then changes are, you’re feeling hurt and anger.

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The 4 Keys to getting everything you want

It’s bold. I know. And maybe even a little click-baity, lol. But here’s the thing, at the core of human nature, we all want to be happy. And sometimes, often, we have no frickin idea how to get there or even sometimes what it looks like. For some, happiness could be finding a partner. For some, it could be finding a rewarding career, or  a purpose or calling. For others, it could be tons of wealth in order to buy things that make them happy. No judgement.

Either way, regardless of what you want, you will need SOME combination of these 4 things to get them.

This is the natural progression. You start with getting a little energy or creatine an atomic habit, which helps create momentum. Now i hesitate to use the word motivated, because you guys know I hate it, but the truth is, you do get motivated when you start taking action. Which then leads you to go out and do MORE things, often times in a competent way, which builds confidence. And the more confidence you have, the more competence you’ve built, the more enthusiastic you’ve become. And … With that enthusiasm, you can go out and conquer the world.

So how do we tackle each of these areas in order to maximize them to get you to your end goal? 

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If you're interested in more mindset and health hacks for overwhelmed women, find me on Instagram @jaimefilerfitness, or head to https://call.jaimefiler.com/form to learn more about the 16 week 3R Method