Monday Morning Mindset Shift

This talk is based on the 6 steps to reframe your mindset in order to remove your bad habits / patterns, and keep only the good ones!

1. Identify the pattern of behavior (X) that is to be changed
   
   Identify the pattern (X) you want to change: I want to stop X, but I can’t. I want to do Y, but something holds me back.
2. Establishing communication with the responsible part
   
   Establish communication with the part responsible for the pattern. Will the part of me that leads me to do X communicate with me in my consciousness? Pay attention to everything - feelings / images, smells / sounds - what happens internally in response to this question? Establish the "yes / no" meaning of the signal. Increase clarity, volume or intensity for yes and decrease for no.
3. Separating behavior from positive intent
   
   Separate the behavior, the pattern X, from the positive intent of the part responsible for X. The unwanted behavior is just one way to achieve a certain positive function. Ask the X-part: Would you be willing to let me know what you are trying to do for me with pattern X? If you receive a yes answer, ask the part of his intention. If you get a no-answer, continue with unconscious reframing, with the presupposition of a positive intention. Is this intention acceptable to the conscious self? Would you like to have a part that performs this function? Ask the X part: if there were ways to perform your positive function as well or better than using X, would you be interested in trying it out?
4. Create new behaviors using the creative part
   
   Find access to a creative part and create new behaviors to perform the positive function. Make yourself accessible to experiences of creativity and anchor these or ask: am I aware of having a creative part? Let the part responsible for X communicate its positive function to the creative part, allow the creative part to invent further possibilities for the performance of this function, and let the part that was responsible for X choose three of them that are at least as good as X or better. Let it send a yes signal every time it selects such an alternative.
5. Taking responsibility and establish a bridge to the future
   
   Question the part: Are you ready to take responsibility for using the three new alternatives in the appropriate context? This also creates a bridge to the future (future pacing). In addition, at the subconscious level, you can ask the part to identify the sensory cues that trigger the new choices to fully experience how it feels when these sensory cues effortlessly and automatically bring about one of the new choices.
6. Ecological Check
   
   Does any of my parts have anything against the three new alternatives?
   If the reaction is “yes”, go back to step 2.

I try to help you deconstruct all your habits! 
Source material: https://www.landsiedel.com/en/nlp-library/six-step-reframing.html

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This talk is based on Kim Scott's RADICAL CANDOR book, all about how to deliver and receive feedback. I want to help explain that not all feedback is criticism, so we can't take it personally. Most people have great intentions when delivering feedback, they just don't necessarily know HOW to do it in a sensitive *yet effective* way.

I try to help you deconstruct how to give / receive feedback!

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I am guilty of it myself; comparing myself to others.

What I look like.
My follower numbers.
Where I'm at in my career.
The categories are endless.

But the questions that arise are:
1) Why do we do it in the first place?
2) What can we do about it?
3) Is there a usefulness to actually comparing ourselves to others? Does it ever HELP rather than HARM?

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Borrowed this concept from Mr. Atomic Habits, James Clear himself. He dedicates a chapter in his book to how to develop and understand the 4 hormones related to happiness: Endorphins, Dopamine, Seratonin, and Oxytocin.

This episode dives into the evolution behind each one, and how to cultivate more EDSO in your life for free!

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It's easier to whole ass something, than it is to half-ass it.
Seriously.
Both mentally and physically, going ALL IN is better in general than only doing something part of the way.

In this episode, we dive into the why of the strategy, and how to go about doing it!

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As someone who has built a business (and a marriage!) thanks to Instagram / social media, I am grateful for it, grateful to it, and know it has a place it in my life.

I also know that it has almost ruined my mental health stability by sending me on a downward spiral on more than one occasion.  Thankfully, I teach people every day who to build themselves up, so I got lucky, but that doesn't mean FOMO never affects me. I came to some pretty heavy realizations after a work event in Nashville, and I wanted to share my insights with my listeners who may be dealing with their OWN social media anxiety issues.

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Before you listen to this podcast, watch this youtube video called the "selection attention test."

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vJG698U2Mvo

The original, world-famous awareness test from Daniel Simons and Christopher Chabris.  Check out our book and website for more information (www.theinvisiblegorilla.com). It's all about picking and choosing what you focus on, and how selective attention / ego can sometimes help but often harm it. It gets in the way of focusing on what really matters, but also that we can miss some of the most OBVIOUS (and important!) things if our minds aren't in the right place. 

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― Gandhi

I truly believe that. In this episode, I try to show you how you can CHANGE your limiting beliefs by swapping them out with empowering ones. 

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Fear on a practical level is an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat. A "belief" is an acceptance that a statement is true or that something exists. 

 You are fearful because you believe XYZ. Not because fear actually exists...

So what can we do about fear:
4) Stop Beating yourself up - If you call yourself names, or put yourself down consistently, you will just avoid more. Because in doing anything, you risk doing something wrong. This behavior is sure to rob you of confidence. The problem is that sometimes you secretly believe that you are absolutely right to beat yourself up this way. You  believe that beating yourself up is an effective strategy to get you going. Wrong. It just demoralizes you.

5)  Find an encouraging voice - Develop the knowledge and skills that make your dreams come true. 

6) Tackle the monster all at once - Acknowledge the fears, and stay present. What ever has us afraid hasn’t actually happened yet. Here and now, we are safe. Past and future are in the mind only. Become aware that we are dreaming ALL the time. We are 99% always somewhere else. If you have the awareness that everything that’s happening to you is the results of what you’re believing and thinking about, then you can begin to change it.

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Fear on a practical level is an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat. A "belief" is an acceptance that a statement is true or that something exists. 

 You are fearful because you believe XYZ. Not because fear actually exists...

So what can we do about fear:
1) Tackle it one head at a time. Fear is a monster with a million heads. So what can we do? Tackle each head individual. 

2)  Starve it - Lock the monster away in the dungeon. Or in the tower.  Gain control of your emotions. Avoid fueling the emotions that come from fear. When a thought comes in about the past or future, and you start to get that anxiety, push it out. It has no right to be there.  Legitimately push it out.

3) Don't feed it - Every time we you tell ourselves we are not strong enough, not smart enough, not good enough… we feed the fear, and as a result, don’t have the confidence to go for your dream. Our own voices have a very good strategy to keep us down. It stops us from gaining the skill, the knowledge and exercising our talents to make dreams come true. So stop telling yourself what you're telling yourself.

Stay tuned for part 2 coming next week!

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