Monday Morning Mindset Shift

Today’s shift is this, start talking to yourself like you would talk to someone to love.

There are two implications to this saying. The first is about giving yourself patience, grace, and kindness. We are so harsh to ourselves. So quick to judge ourselves. So quick to call ourselves names we would never DARE call our parents or best friends. We berate ourselves for small, incidental errors, and more often then not, the way we punish ourselves (verbally and emotionally) very rarely fits the crime. We give ourselves lashings that would make our best friends’ heads spin. And If we ever spoke to them like that, they’d leave us. So why do WE tolerate speaking to ourselves like that? Not just tolerate, but we repeatedly do it!

Point number 2, if your best friend told you that she or he had a goal. A big hair audacious goal... something they really wanted... would you let them off the hook easy if they were sabotaging themselves? If your girl came to you, day in and day out, literally all she could talk about was how important her wedding day is to her and how badly she wants to look confident in her dress... wouldn’t you be the one waking her butt up at 5am for the gym? And slapping that serving of nachos out of her hand? Of course you would! Because that’s what best friends do. That’s what supportive friends do. 

So how come you don’t talk to yourself like your best friend? How come you’re not waking yourself up at 5 or slapping the nachos out of your own hands? You want your goals, right? You want the confidence, the self esteem, the body, the self worth... 

Sometimes it’s easier to support and cheer on someone else than it is to take care of yourself and make YOU the priority. But again... talk to yourself like you’d talk to her. 

Want your goals as badly for yourself as you want them for your loved ones.

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Today's mindset shift is this: RAISE YOUR STANDARDS.



What standards do you hold yourself by?
And what standards do you have to work on?

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Today’s shift is this, failure is the best thing that will ever happen to you. I read in a book a few years ago that failure frees the mind for a fresh start. Failure is the dead end of the habit path; and it forces us to choose another way. It makes you test yourself to show you another way. Failure forces you to break habits.

As adults, we don’t see failure the same way we did as children. Children find a way. But adults… find a way out.

The other thing failure can teach us, and this idea I got from Wanderlust worker, is that Without failure, we'd be less capable of compassion, empathy, and kindness. If we never ever failed, how would we make ourselves into understanding partners, friends, bosses, etc. 

We need failure to teach us new ways of thinking, and to remind us that we're human - and should be kinder and more patient with other humans.

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Today’s shift is this, just stop it.

Stop the behavior.

Stop the negative rhetoric.

Stop the self deprecating narrative that you tell yourself.

How many of us go through life being scared of… public embarrassment, not getting our dream job, never meeting our soul mate, taking chances on something or someone? But we don’t actually want to go through life like this, right? That sounds frightening… creating a BOX for yourself is as emotionally frightening as being physically buried in one. So why do we do that to ourselves?

How much more rewarding and fulfilling would life be if we got out of our own way?

How about… we just stop it?

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Today’s shift is this, pivoting your mind to let things go.

Before we understand the steps to letting go, we have to understand why we hold on:

Some people have trouble letting go of their pain or other unpleasant emotions about their past because they think those feelings are part of their identity. In some ways, you may not know who you are without your pain. This makes it impossible to let go. For example, in my own life, I defined myself by my eating disorder because I had it for 10 years - it was all I knew.

When it comes to letting go of grief, loss, pain, hurt, people, situations, etc., I have found there to be 3 key, effective steps:

1) Cry - Let the physical be congruent with the psychological. Make sure your mind and your body are feeling the feels, and take the appropriate time to let it out. Honor your loss. Trying to ignore your negative emotions will extend your suffering. Loss is difficult to experience, and it’s okay to allow yourself to hurt and be sad. Let yourself feel, and go through the grief process so that you can move forward.

2) Free Your Mind - Free yourself from being controlled by what other people think. Start to prioritize how you feel about yourself. As Mahatma Gandhi said, “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” You can’t live by your values if you’re living for the approval of others.

3)  Forgive and Forget - Resentment and unwillingness to forgive will keep you locked in the past and prevent you from moving forward with your life. Remember: When you forgive, you aren’t doing it for the other person; you’re doing it for yourself. If for no other reason than that, forgive and let go.

4) Realize You're perfect - Carl Jung said, “I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.” There’s a lesson in that for all of us: Try to let go of whatever it is that’s holding you back from experiencing yourself. You’ll probably realize that you are not what other people say you are. You are not your pain, your past, or your emotions. It’s the negative ideas about ourselves and our hurtful self-talk that get in the way of who we really want to be. 

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Chores around the house. Exercise. Eating clean. Heck, sometimes even leaving our houses to be social with friends; we are masters at talking ourselves out of anything.

But here’s the thing: Doing nothing is getting us nowhere.

How much further ahead in life would you be if every time you had talked yourself out of doing something you knew you needed to do, instead you would have just done it?
How much more success, wealth, HEALTH, and maybe even happiness would you have? 

What can we do to talk ourselves INTO things rather than out of them? 

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Change your friends, or change your friends. 

Spending time around and interacting on social media and in real life with people who share similar goals is an easy way for you to bring that potential to the surface.

If you want to grow a flower, you can plant seeds; but without sunlight and water, you’re SOL.

If you want to be the plant that thrives, you need to spend time being water and under sunlight; not all friendships / relationships will foster that growth. So you can either try to change the minds of the people you're hanging out with, OR, change the  group of people you're hanging out with. Your call.

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People always say, "I’ll be happy if… " 
"I’ll be happy when..."

Social media, glamor magazines, the self-help section of any library or book store, commercials on TV and radio, even our own friends and family push happiness on us. Happiness is sold DAILY as a commodity that is to be actively pursued. 

What we need to do to cultivate happiness is give ourselves over to something bigger than our wants / needs; be it the practice of a passionate life, meaningful relationships, and/or a gratifying career. When you stop looking for happiness, you'll find it. "Happiness cannot be pursued, it must ensue."

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Acting as if.

Have you ever just wanted to be, do, or have more?
What are you supposed to do about it?

Fake it til you make it?

That's so early 2000's. Nowadays, people are manifesting what they want through the Law of Attraction. But how can you 'pretend' to have what you desire without getting imposter syndrome?  How can you have it, without really having it?

Today's episode dives into the psychology behind why you can't / shouldn't fake it, and how to 'act as if.'

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