Self-sabotage is the act of unconsciously undermining your own goals or success. It can manifest in various ways, such as procrastination, self-doubt, or making poor decisions that negatively impact your well-being.

So why do people self-sabotage? There are several possible reasons.

One reason is fear of failure or success. Some people may have a deep-seated belief that they are not capable of achieving their goals or that they don't deserve success. As a result, they may sabotage their own efforts to avoid the potential disappointment of failing or the uncertainty of change that success can bring.

Another reason is low self-esteem or self-worth. People who have a negative view of themselves may not believe they are worthy of achieving their goals or may feel undeserving of happiness and success. This can lead them to self-sabotage as a way to protect themselves from the potential rejection or criticism of others.

Self-sabotage can also be a coping mechanism for dealing with stress or difficult emotions. When faced with challenges, some people may turn to unhealthy behaviors as a way to cope, even if those behaviors ultimately harm them.

If you find yourself self-sabotaging, it's important to try to identify the underlying reasons and work towards addressing them. This may involve seeking support from friends, family, or a mental health professional and working on building self-esteem and self-worth. Remember, you are capable and deserving of achieving your goals and leading a fulfilling life.

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Anxiety is a common and normal emotion, but when it becomes chronic and affects your daily life, it can be detrimental to your mental health. If you're looking for ways to heal your anxiety naturally, there are several strategies you can try.

First, try to identify the triggers of your anxiety. These can be external events or internal thoughts and beliefs. Once you know what triggers your anxiety, you can take steps to manage or avoid those triggers.

Next, focus on taking care of your physical health. This means getting enough sleep, eating a healthy diet, and exercising regularly. Exercise has been shown to be particularly effective at reducing anxiety and improving mood.

You can also try relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, or meditation to calm your mind and body. These techniques can help you manage stress and anxiety in the moment, and can also have long-term benefits for your overall well-being.

In addition, try to practice gratitude and positive thinking. Focusing on the things you're grateful for can help shift your perspective and reduce negative thinking patterns that contribute to anxiety.

Finally, consider seeking support from friends, family, or a mental health professional. Sometimes, it can be helpful to talk to someone about your anxiety and get guidance and support on how to manage it.

In conclusion, there are many natural ways to heal anxiety. By identifying triggers, taking care of your physical health, practicing relaxation techniques, focusing on gratitude, and seeking support, you can take steps towards managing your anxiety and improving your mental health.

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Journaling is a simple, yet powerful activity that can have a big impact on your well-being. It's a way to process your thoughts and emotions, and can help you make sense of your experiences and feelings. By putting your thoughts on paper, you're able to clarify your thinking and gain a greater understanding of yourself and your life.

One of the main benefits of journaling is that it can help reduce stress and anxiety. When we're feeling overwhelmed, it's easy to get stuck in a cycle of negative thoughts and feelings. Writing down your thoughts and feelings can help you release them and make space for more positive ones. It can also help you identify patterns in your thinking and behavior that may be contributing to your stress and anxiety, so that you can work on making changes to improve your mental health.

Journaling can also be a great tool for boosting self-awareness and self-esteem. By reflecting on your experiences and feelings, you can gain a greater understanding of your strengths and areas for growth. This can help you become more self-compassionate and build confidence in yourself.

Overall, journaling is a simple, yet effective way to improve your mental health. It can help you process your thoughts and emotions, reduce stress and anxiety, and boost self-awareness and self-esteem. So if you're looking to improve your well-being, consider giving journaling a try!

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In this episode of Monday Morning Mindset shift, I pull audio from an Instagram Live I did with Jaime Messina, Mindset & Empowerment Coach.

In part 3 , we talked about what to do if you and your partner are struggling with your mental health at the same time, why physical activity is IMPERATIVE if you're struggling with your mental health, and why you need a power pose.

In this final installment, we talk about what to do (and how to retrain the brain) of someone who is SUPER resistant (or fearful) about change. And how the brain gets in the way of our growth by protecting us.

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In this episode of Monday Morning Mindset shift, I pull audio from an Instagram Live I did with Jaime Messina, Mindset & Empowerment Coach.

In part 2 , we discuss the Keto diet, using a "coach" in lieu of a doctor or therapist, and our stance on "healing" VS. treating.

In this episode, we're talking about what to do if you and your partner are struggling with your mental health at the same time, why physical activity is IMPERATIVE if you're struggling with your mental health, and why you need a power pose.

Part  4 is coming in next week.

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In this episode of Monday Morning Mindset shift, I pull audio from an Instagram Live I did with Jaime Messina, Mindset & Empowerment Coach.

In part 1, we discussed seasonal effective disorder and THC use. 

In this episode, we discuss the Keto diet, using a "coach" in liue of a doctor or therapist, and our stance on "healing" VS. treating.

Part  3, and 4 are coming in subsequent weeks.

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In this episode of Monday Morning Mindset shift, I pull audio from an Instagram Live I did with Jaime Messina, Mindset & Empowerment Coach.

In part 1, we discuss why we feel like there's a grey cloud over the LGBTQ community right now (seasonal affective disorder), and what to do about it. We also answer someone's question about whether we're in favor of THC use or not, and under what circumstances.

Part 2, 3, and 4 are coming in subsequent weeks.

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This talk is based on the 6 steps to reframe your mindset in order to remove your bad habits / patterns, and keep only the good ones!

1. Identify the pattern of behavior (X) that is to be changed
   
   Identify the pattern (X) you want to change: I want to stop X, but I can’t. I want to do Y, but something holds me back.
2. Establishing communication with the responsible part
   
   Establish communication with the part responsible for the pattern. Will the part of me that leads me to do X communicate with me in my consciousness? Pay attention to everything - feelings / images, smells / sounds - what happens internally in response to this question? Establish the "yes / no" meaning of the signal. Increase clarity, volume or intensity for yes and decrease for no.
3. Separating behavior from positive intent
   
   Separate the behavior, the pattern X, from the positive intent of the part responsible for X. The unwanted behavior is just one way to achieve a certain positive function. Ask the X-part: Would you be willing to let me know what you are trying to do for me with pattern X? If you receive a yes answer, ask the part of his intention. If you get a no-answer, continue with unconscious reframing, with the presupposition of a positive intention. Is this intention acceptable to the conscious self? Would you like to have a part that performs this function? Ask the X part: if there were ways to perform your positive function as well or better than using X, would you be interested in trying it out?
4. Create new behaviors using the creative part
   
   Find access to a creative part and create new behaviors to perform the positive function. Make yourself accessible to experiences of creativity and anchor these or ask: am I aware of having a creative part? Let the part responsible for X communicate its positive function to the creative part, allow the creative part to invent further possibilities for the performance of this function, and let the part that was responsible for X choose three of them that are at least as good as X or better. Let it send a yes signal every time it selects such an alternative.
5. Taking responsibility and establish a bridge to the future
   
   Question the part: Are you ready to take responsibility for using the three new alternatives in the appropriate context? This also creates a bridge to the future (future pacing). In addition, at the subconscious level, you can ask the part to identify the sensory cues that trigger the new choices to fully experience how it feels when these sensory cues effortlessly and automatically bring about one of the new choices.
6. Ecological Check
   
   Does any of my parts have anything against the three new alternatives?
   If the reaction is “yes”, go back to step 2.

I try to help you deconstruct all your habits! 
Source material: https://www.landsiedel.com/en/nlp-library/six-step-reframing.html

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This talk is based on Kim Scott's RADICAL CANDOR book, all about how to deliver and receive feedback. I want to help explain that not all feedback is criticism, so we can't take it personally. Most people have great intentions when delivering feedback, they just don't necessarily know HOW to do it in a sensitive *yet effective* way.

I try to help you deconstruct how to give / receive feedback!

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I am guilty of it myself; comparing myself to others.

What I look like.
My follower numbers.
Where I'm at in my career.
The categories are endless.

But the questions that arise are:
1) Why do we do it in the first place?
2) What can we do about it?
3) Is there a usefulness to actually comparing ourselves to others? Does it ever HELP rather than HARM?

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