By Cindy Khoo
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The podcast currently has 12 episodes available.
A lifetime growing up with a covert narcissistic parent has severed your mind body connection, making it impossible to "just breathe and calm down" when interacting with them. It can be difficult to get your point across, or even take a break from the conversation.
In this episode, learn how to bring your body back online so that you can to a point where you can decide clearly how you'd like to proceed with your CNP.
Resources:
What to do if a narcissist threatens to kill themselves - https://youtu.be/SB-hzpn6nMM?si=p70eFc9HbKEbh553
Black Yogi Nico Marie channel - https://www.youtube.com/@YogaWithNico
In this episode, I discuss how you not only learned to normalize self-blame due to covert narcissistic parenting, but how it also may be showing up in how you relate to others. I go over a 2-step process of how to interrupt this pattern.
Resources mentioned:
Lisa Romano - How to Feel Your Emotions Again in a Healthy Way https://youtu.be/6TNxy-IwR7k
Today I address a listener question about triangulation and family roles within the covert narcissistic family dynamic. I discuss the Karpman Drama Triangle, what to watch for, and how to get out of it.
Tamara Hill - How to Deal with Triangulation: Practical Tips
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WLiHiHrriJk
Tamara Hill - What is Triangulation in Toxic Parenting?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O5AlmonDF1A&t=566s
In previous episodes I’ve talked about finding a support system to help cope with your CNP. Today's episode talks about how to do this effectively and why this doesn’t always work out well. In fact if you go seeking support in the wrong places, it can lead to even more feelings of invalidation.
RESOURCES MENTIONED:
When you start to shine a light on your past, you see all the things that went wrong. This results in feelings of frustration, disappointment, and hurt which are all base emotions that lead to anger. When you grieve the childhood you should’ve had, it’s natural to experience intense anger through this process. This episode covers the causes of that anger and some tips for dealing with it.
Today's episode is dedicated to a listener, Bella. Though I can’t speak to Bella’s hardships specifically, I can speak to the strength that she and all survivors of covert narcissistic trauma possess. There are some key gifts - or superpowers - as I’m calling it in this episode that you gained from your experience.
Referenced:
Dr. Ramani's Caregiving for a Narcissist - https://youtu.be/YXCZ63l47zI
Ever notice how covert narcissists seem to always be the bearers of bad news? In this episode we explore why that is and what to do about it.
Referenced:
Vital Minds Psychology - Why Covert Narcissists Love Your Misfortune (Understanding Schadenfreude)
https://youtu.be/bJjc-gaeUqs
In part 2, I discuss the other two attachment styles - dismissive avoidant and secure - in comparison with anxious attachment within the context of covert narcissism. We also explore ways to develop self-trust by starting small and working up to a series of "wins," which results in slow but sure integration of your anxiety and past into your everyday life.
Referenced:
Free Mood Tracker App
http://www.moodtrack.com/
In this part 1 of 2 series, I discuss why covert narcissistic parenting typically leads to an anxiously attached child and adult. We also explore this in comparison to the fearful attachment style within the context of covert narcissism. In part 2, we'll continue with the other two attachment styles (dismissive and secure), as well as tips for working through your own anxious attachment.Referenced:
Referenced:
The Personal Development School https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHQ4lSaKRap5HyrpitrTOhQ
In this episode, Cindy Khoo takes on a listener question: Do Covert Narcissists Hurt You on Purpose or is it Subconscious? She breaks down the important difference between harm that's inflicted on purpose vs. by accident. Also addressed are the habitual motivations of the covert narcissist and how to deal. The answer to the question is more complicated than you think and may surprise you!
Mentioned in this episode: "The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist" by Debbie Mirza
The podcast currently has 12 episodes available.