The Living Apart Together (LAT) lifestyle choice is gaining traction among both married and unmarried couples, especially older folks ready for a bond beyond the traditional. 

The LAT framework is predicated on three pillars: 1/The couple agrees that they are a committed romantic couple. 2/ Others view them as a committed romantic couple, and, 3/ they live in separate places.

This episode is a deep dive into LAT featuring two relationship experts: Vicki Larson and Melinda Blau, award-winning journalists and authors. Vicki has written on the ageist and sexist narratives women face in the context of relationships. Her most recent book, LATitude: How You Can Make a Live Apart Together Relationship Work, explores the many iterations and paradoxes surrounding the LAT lifestyle. 

Melinda Blau, with 16 books on relationships to her credit, claims, “If you’re good at relationships, you’re good at life.”  Her three-decades-long LAT relationship is a testimony to that conviction.

Show Notes

Vicki's LATitude book on Amazon.

All books written by Vicki Larson.

Vicki's website.

Melinda Blau's Amazon page with all of her books, including her latest, "The Wisdom Whisperers: Golden Guides to a Long Life of Grit, Grace, and Laughter."

Music in this episode includes Lemon Jelly by T.J. Collie and Our Only Lark by Bitters, both from Blue Dot Sessions.

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