February 05, 2026

My Virtual Mentor: Identity Part 2 with Preston Morrison

1 hour 34 minutes

Did you know that once a month we are doing a mentor episode? We will cover a different topic each month in hopes to provide helpful content for you and your local mentor.

1) listen to the episode

2) talk about it with a mentor or friend that is a season ahead of you

If you’re just getting started - don’t miss the previous episodes:

My Virtual Mentor: Why Mentorship Matters
My Virtual Mentor: Intimacy with God
My Virtual Mentor: Personalities and Temperaments
My Virtual Mentor: Stewardship & Generosity
My Virtual Mentor: Time Management & Creating Margin

Today’s episode comes to you in two parts. The first episode is with author, speaker and amazing mom Sara Hagerty. She has such a genuine heart to keep her life rooted in Jesus. We talk all about how identity is a challenging topic for us as moms. We care so much about how we do as moms - and we can get really rattled if it doesn’t go well. Our identity can quickly become rattled if we have it tethered to the wrong source.

I also wanted to release a second episode today that I believe will practically help you think through “identity.” The week that I recorded Sara on this topic, my own heart was wrestling with what God says about our identity. I stumbled across this message by pastor Preston Morrison and it rocked my world. I got his permission to re-air it for you. Do not miss the truth and clarity that Preston provides around our “identity in Christ.”

My favorite part is the humility that Sara brings to the table. She is so honest with how hard motherhood can be and she invites us to bring God into every single disappointment and hard circumstance. She urges us to lean into the very things that drive us crazy.

Enjoy!

Courtney

(02:59) Navigating Motherhood and Identity

(05:57) The Struggles of Motherhood

(08:59) Finding God in the Chaos

(12:05) The Unseen Work of Motherhood

(15:00) Embracing the Struggles

(17:56) The Impact of God’s Attributes

(18:20) Understanding God Through Adoration

(21:43) The Journey of Self-Discovery and Identity

(24:52) The Importance of Limitations in Parenting

(28:29) Navigating Identity Beyond Achievements

(32:52) Finding Beauty in Boundaries

(36:39) Embracing Loss and Suffering in Motherhood

MY VIRTUAL MENTOR GUIDE (IDENTITY)

Scripture to memorize:

Galatians 2:20

I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.

Scriptures for prayer and study:

Verses on Identity

Books for further study:

In His Image – Jen Wilkin
Made for More: An Invitation to Live in God’s Image – Hannah Anderson

Discussion questions:

Have you struggled with your identity?

In what seasons have you questioned your identity?

Who does God say that we are?

Is there a time you attached what you “do” to your identity?

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Resources from today’s show:

Connect with Sara

Unseen by Sara Hagerty

Adore by Sara Hagerty

The Gift of Limitations by Sara Hagerty

Preston Morrison podcast, The Leader’s Cut

Part 1 episode with Sara Hagerty

Resources from Titus 2 Mentoring