Narcissism & Victimization may be interchangeable in some cases, and does it matter which label you give? I mean they both spell dysfunction and toxicity for most people. How much narcissism is a good thing? Wait, what? The word narcissism does not necessarily mean it's time for a scythe and black hood.....sometimes it is an indication of both people involved in the situation, after all we do reflect one another (whether we like it or not). And if the benefit is to learn love yourself more, so you end up free from victimization, then it can be a good thing....as the bottom line is to a certain degree all human beings are narcissists.

So what's the problem?

Most of us do not like the lessons we go through in life that are different than the perfect picture in our heads, but most of us have no clue that we don't act in ways that support the 'perfect picture' in our heads. Good times, right? And many of us were brought up in less than stellar environments where our expectations of others were shaped. Many of us do not realize the depth of what our beliefs and patterns do in terms of our choices, so we end up in the 'imperfect' picture with someone who we consider a narcissist (because they won't give us what we want or have no clue to our feelings) and we're the victim. Or vice versa, or both at the same time.

Find out what I am talking about and what you can do about it in your own life.