youtube episode: https://youtu.be/YtpeBQxoROo

when you think you'll never be in a toxic relationship/friendship/job again and you walk away from one and into another ... lmao

00:00 intro

01:06 - empty space is unnatural and nature will find a way to fill it

01:42 - acknowledging that you are weak in order to become strong

03:09 - flop and slay coexist

04:09 - its not just the goal its also the management of the consequences that come with achieving it

04:41 - how assumptions create blind spots

05:42 - psychological audit

06:29 - anxiety vs self-trust

07:10 - notice when you are filing in gaps for space that only time & experience can fill

08:12 - empower yourself in your decision making

08:26 - seeking win-win relationships

08:53 - learning to sit with disappointment and move on instead of ruminating

10:58 - getting out of toxic dynamics

11:55 - non-negotiable hobbies & trying new things

13:10 - confronting & integrating pain vs running or avoiding it

13:51 - circumstantial change vs spiritual transformation

14:21 - you need a different approach if you want a different outcome

14:58 - actions speak louder than words!!!

15:15 - e.g. when an ex reaches out

16:44 - act according to the outcome that you want

16:57 - not responding is a response

17:04 - the person who cares the least, wins

18:16 - it doesn’t always feel toxic at first

18:53 - learning to self-regulate and pace connection

19:09 - being open to being proven wrong and trusting yourself to make difficult decisions

19:23 - always have something that you care about protecting that is your responsibility to maintain

19:41 - optimize to enjoy your life to the fullest

20:03 - learn to enjoy the challenge of protecting what you care about

20:21 - when you try and evade responsibility, you open yourself up to chaos

21:07 - learning to notice guilt & shame and observing rather than repressing or avoiding

23:00 - being honest with yourself when you cbf something and moving on

23:42 - when are you pursuing something from a place of ego vs real compatibility

24:28 - everyone’s needs are different

25:54 - the WILL to extend yourself