Recording of the second discussion group for part 1 of The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden ~ Baddie Book Club! We discuss reflecting on times where we've noticed we've had low self-esteem, dealing with uncertainty that comes with transition periods after break-ups and during gap years, having self-compassion for your former self, how to integrate "failure" into our definition of success and more!
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01:30 - knowing you deserve to be happy/ dealing with triggers
02:46 - integration vs healing
04:32 - distinction between mind and body, managing over-thinking
05:52 - being ok with not knowing
06:35 - whimsy and rejecting perfection
07:34 - illusion that everything has to be ‘good’
08:20 - how low-self esteem translates into how you live your life - gap year: freedom vs uncertainty
09:15 - absence of community after school
10:16 - enjoying who you are as a person
11:25 - dance & yoga
14:57 - work and self-worth
17:05 - protecting and prioritising joy
19:40 - self-esteem and love, not feeling loveable
22:13 - people with high self-esteem do not stay with partners who don’t treat them well
24:08 - self-esteem and knowing you don’t have to tolerate poor treatment
24:45 - childhood experiences that condition us to accept or normalise poor treatment
25:40 - remembering when you were able to walk away
26:49 - doing the best with the information you had at the time
27:00 - the illusion of “this time will be different”
27:27 - processing breakups
28:10 - self-compassion for your former self
29:58 - you are not alone
30:40 - looking forward to an abundant life
31:44 - accepting accountability - seeing dynamics as neutral and avoiding fixation on context
33:14 - distinguishing accountability from blame
34:20 - how time changes your perspective - one day it will mean something different
35:38 - “failure” is part of success
36:55 - how you learn and integrate “failure”
37:20 - self efficacy and self respect
38:10 - being to see your progress and improvement
39:12 - knowing when to get off the wrong train
41:08 - you never fail, you win or you learn
41:28 - unquantifiable success and growth
43:00 - relationship with time, responsibility and purpose - being present
45:14 - being on the hamster wheel
45:20 - delayed gratification, pushing yourself vs punishing yourself
49:55 - your relationship to your circumstances
51:11 - the immune system of consciousness