recording of a tiktok/youtube live on 24.02.2026 !
video version: https://youtu.be/xIduRHUSvUM
00:00 - recent obsessions
02:00 - being a woman in corporate
07:15 - dealing with insecure/intimidated women
08:03 - navigating a flop era
10:22 - current fave beauty products
11:56 - not taking things personally/detachment
14:56 - talking stages
15:45 - freelancing
17:26 - somatic exercises
17:51 - comparing yourself on social media
18:53 - draining family members
19:51 - guy not following up on dates
20:06 - being consistent with hobbies
21:35 - financial flop era
22:31 - getting new hobbies
23:01 - putting pressure on yourself
24:06 - pivoting from corporate
25:20 - visiting perth
27:50 - making friends
31:24 - asmr & vlogging
36:00 - shrek gate
46:25 - the emotional spiral, win-win relationships, navigating spaces as a minority
48:13 - women being held to higher moral standards than men
48:40 - identifying problems vs creating solutions
50:30 - misidentifying issues
52:55 - dating when you’re young
54:00 - ramadan in shanghai
56:26 - when to start dating again
57:27 - gender imbalance in china
58:30 - ego death??? re-constructing your identity
1:00:00 - gender binary and performance of gender in china
1:02:00 - reading
1:03:00 - pole schedule
1:04:00 - post-shrek gate
1:09:00 - provider men, going 50/50
1:13:00 - women benefitting from patriarchy, being hot & having fun, living life to your full potential
1:16:00 - analysis paralysis, learning from failure
1:17:00 - men and red pill
1:17:20 - the tragedy of heterosexuality by jane ward
1:19:58 - passive aggressive behaviour
1:20:16 - gay relationship dynamics
1:22:20 - smear campaigns, sh*t talking
1:24:20 - don’t confront passive agressive behaviour
1:27:18 - i support women’s rights and wrongs
1:29:00 - women defending shrek
1:35:00 - marginisation in the dominant group
1:37:15 - the illusion of binary options
1:39:26 - loser mindset with winner entitlement
1:41:45 - media literacy
1:42:30 - de-centering men, pick-mes, male-centered men
1:44:35 - beyond right and wrong
1:45:00 - live by example
1:47:07 - cognitive offloading
1:47:27 - how to make the most authentic decision for you
1:48:35 - men aren’t riding for female characters
1:49:00 - boundaries around social media