i got asked about imposter syndrome recently, there's definitely some overlap with comparing yourself to others (see previous video) but i made this video as an add on/extension. let me know your thoughts as always please!!

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02:30 - everyone is a newbie at some point

03:28 - confidence revised

04:10 - life is a project, performance art!

05:09 - confident people won’t judge you or put you down

05:36 - lock in on your purpose

07:10 - don’t always assume competition

08:04 - understanding your projections

08:21 - make friends, connect over common experience

09:09 - recognize the unpredictability of each person’s journey

09:40 - healthy competition

09:59 - embrace your uniqueness

10:16 - what your know vs who you know

10:50 - understanding nepotism

11:55 - build your own thing instead of feeling like you need to be allowed into someone else’s project

13:28 - redefine success 

14:40 - diversify your focus and interests

15:19 - legally blonde - elle woods is an icon!

18:10 - redefine purpose

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talking through the mental blocks that can occur when we get stuck on comparing ourselves to others in a way that hinders our ability to be HOT and HAVE FUN !!!

03:33 - radical acceptance

05:11 - practicing gratitude

07:07 - set intentions

07:52 - lean into irony when being serious feels like a joke

08:37 - abundance vs delusion

09:45 - your mindset affects your decision making

11:00 - awareness + intentional action

11:28 - practice connecting with your experience of life

11:41 - you will face challenges no matter what

13:10 - rejection is protection and redirection

14:14 - nobody knows what they’re doing

15:58 - other people’s success are evidence of what is possible

18:03 - be honest with yourself about the lengths you will go

18:25 - your own story unfolds through action, not comparison

19:27 - additional thoughts

20:22 - there's more than just what you think or have been told is 'success'

21:00 - understanding your validation needs

22:28 - how my idea of success as a DJ has changed over time

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that overwhelming "wtf" feeling

01:54 - context can differ, dyanmic/feelings are usually consistent

02:45 - its better to do something, rather than nothing

03:12 - don’t let perfect be the enemy of good

04:06 - learn to be a beginner

05:23 - what i learnt during the panini (external changes)

06:43 - noticing the negative thought pattern: “when x happens, then i can be happy”

06:48 - lean into how you feel - anything repressed/suppressed will start to infect your life

07:31 - getting sick of yourself

07:37 - what would your younger self/future self think

08:43 - follow your curiosity

11:06 - there is so much you can’t control/ certainty is an illusion

11:38 - 20% of the work for 80% of the outcomes

12:03 - saying yes to random opportunties

13:37 - find something to anchor you and organize your time around

14:37 - you can’t always predict how things will unfold

15:08 - internal transition phases

15:27 - trying is better than nothing

17:03 - the outcome and structure forms as you go

17:10 - it doesn’t have to be related - focus on enjoying

17:48 - do it because you want to - not because of what you think other people will think

18:14 - what other people think is a collateral benefit

18:35 - you can do something you enjoy and it still be difficult

19:00 - things will be hard regardless

20:24 - don’t wait for the world to change or give you permission

21:16 - the value of small steps over complete overhauls

21:46 - focus on being present

22:14 - you can’t think your way into the present moment

22:30 - cutting down on social media

25:14 - you never know what’s going to happen!!!

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a short video with a gentle reminder that your mental/spiritual/emotional growth doesn't have to look a certain way in order to be valid. maybe your physical and mental glow up happens at the same time and it will be more effective when you are intentional about integrating the range of skills and experiences required - many of which i discuss in previous video and podcast content.

please share your thoughts and experiences in the comments!!!

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pairing an excerpt from my voice memo podcast series with this footage of me eating dim sum between a soundcheck and standby while i was on a job earlier this year in wuhan hehe ~ i mention fengshui changes, what one of my friend's recent dating situations prompted in reflecting on a woman's ego in dating and what stops me from entertaining low effort romantic opportunities #realizingthingsmy voice memo podcast series are more casual and personal, i give life updates, spill tea, answer listener questions, share recent thoughts/test topics that may eventually become stand alone videos or episodes. come join the partyyy *:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧ thank you to anyone that has been supporting already! ily ♡ let me know your thoughts and if you like this format !!! i can pair vlog-ish content with voice over chitchat so you have the option to watch or just have on in the background and listen!voice memo 53 - full episode on spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0NK2MYu1dcPToSL9H5g3Ee?si=2443923415644589voice memo 53 - full episode on patreon: https://www.patreon.com/posts/voice-memo-53-in-131721472?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link
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don't let the haters stop you from doing ur thang

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when being the bigger person is overrated

if you wish me bad, i wish you _____ !!!!

01:53 - 04:25 - 1. define love, acknowledge your efforts

04:25 - 05:21 - 2. what fantasy or potential did you become attached to

05:22 - 05:52 - 3. withdraw your effort

05:53 - 09:07 - 4. redirect, transmute & alchemize your energy

09:08 - 11:30 - 5. neutrality over positivity (for now)

11:31 - 14:36 - 6. be prepared & train for awkward moments

14:37 - 15:57 - 7. don’t assume you know how someone is coping, focus on yourself

15:58 - 16:35 - 8. everyone’s karma is their personality 

16:36 - 17:25 - 9. have a constructive & generative mindset not a destructive one

17:26 - 18:58 - 10. being protective during initial healing

18:59 -20:54 - 11. wish them nothing

20:56 - 22:40 - 12. everything is changing all the time, transformation takes consistent effort over time

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watch this if you're looking to start or still skeptical about journalling !!!

4:36 the artist’s way, being consistent

5:45 free printables & habit trackers

5:54 the six pillars of self esteem

6:42 create a judgement free space for your thoughts

7:38 you don’t have to revisit or re-read

8:34 normalize crashing out in private

10:02 allow for new thoughts

11:25 positive scripting

12:05 re-affirm whats important to you

12:50 prepare for things to change

13:47 prepare for new challenges

14:59 being intentional with time & energy

16:22 tools required

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meditation re-wired my brain fr fr

01:31 -  sit with your thoughts

02:02 - its good for u

03:16 - why i started meditating (DEPRESSION)

05:17 - consistency is key

05:59 - finding stillness in chaos

07:07 - how my perspective shifted

08:45 - centering yourself vs being self-centered

09:25 - what you can’t outrun

10:18 - separating your thoughts from the thinker

10:43 - responding to triggers

12:36 - meditation as mental training

13:35 - don’t compare to others

13:53 - observing other people’s patterns

15:31 - my current meditation practice

16:41 - assessing mental space - the floorplan of your psyche

19:12 - control freak tendencies

20:09 - there is no ‘good’ or ‘bad’ meditation

21:18 - do the difficult thing first

21:52 - commit!!!!!

22:15 - compounding effects

23:22 - letting go of spirals and negative thought patterns

24:08 - MAKE THE TIME

24:52 - separate ego & persona from the self

25:17 - living with intention

25:47 - observing, not eliminating your thoughts - the gateway to your subconscious

26:21 - building the habit, your baseline shifts

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