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She did everything right. Her body still couldn't keep her baby inside. Sound familiar?

In this episode I'm sitting down with Jodi Klaristenfeld, founder of Flourish and a preemie and NICU parent coach. Jodi's daughter Jenna was born at 28 weeks after preeclampsia and HELLP syndrome nearly took both of their lives. Jodi met her daughter three days after the birth, and Jenna spent 77 days in the NICU before coming home.

Jodi's baby lived. And she still grieves the birth she dreamed of, the first days she didn't get, the moment she was too scared to hold her own daughter. If you've ever thought "but at least she got to bring her baby home," this conversation might surprise you. The guilt, the self-blame, the way we rationalize our own symptoms, the birthday that is also an anniversary of trauma... so much of it is the same road.

In this conversation, you'll hear:

• Why Jodi kept telling herself the bloody nose, the swelling, the orange urine were "just pregnancy," and what that has to do with how we're raised not to bother anyone
• The moment her OB told her mom, "If I don't take the baby now, I'm going to lose them both"
• What it was like to not want to walk through the NICU doors, and why there was nothing wrong with her for feeling that way
• The guilt she still feels, seven years later, about being too scared to hold her daughter that first day
• How her husband pushed her to see her baby and to pump when she wasn't ready, and why she's grateful now (I had the same experience with mine)
• Why "your body is rejecting the pregnancy" is such a heavy thing to be told, and the truth about what did and didn't cause it
• What people don't understand about a baby's birthday after a traumatic birth
• How to answer "but look at her, she's fine now" when you are not fine inside
• Why you can be grateful and sad at the same time, and why one never cancels out the other
• The choice Jodi eventually made, and why it took months to make it

Find Jodi here- https://www.FLRRiSH.com, https://www.instagram.com/flrrish

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The 3-Day Experience for Moms After Baby Loss is a live workshop for moms who are grieving their baby. Over three days together, we look at how you're really doing, what this loss has touched in your life, and what to actually do when the guilt spiral starts. You'll get the live sessions, the recordings to keep, and a workbook to go with it. $27. Find it at navigatingbabyloss.com/workshop.

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What happens to the grief you never let yourself feel? What does it cost you, years down the road, to just "keep going" like everyone told you to?

I'm back after a little break I didn't really plan on. My dad passed away a few weeks ago, and in cleaning out his house with my sister, I've been uncovering something I never fully understood as a kid. My parents lost their first baby during birth, decades before I lost my twins. And the life they built afterward, the fear, the resentment, the debt, the silence, all of it traces back to a grief they were never allowed to put down.

This episode is my dad's story. But if you've ever been told to move on, to be strong, to put this behind you, it's your story too. Because I've now lived this from both sides. As the child of parents who never healed, and as a grieving mom who made a different choice. I want you to hear what I saw, and why it matters so much for where you are right now.

What you'll learn:

• Why grief doesn't go away when you ignore it — it just waits, and comes back through other losses
• The quiet ways unhealed grief can shape an entire life: the debt, the strained marriage, the fear of the world
• What my parents' silence around their lost baby taught me about what happens when you "just keep going"
• Why my mom could never tell me it would be okay — and what that revealed
• The secret my dad carried to his deathbed about the day they brought their baby home
• What it actually means to choose differently: to let go of guilt and resentment without letting go of your baby
• Why grief showing up again years later doesn't mean you're back at square one
• How honoring your baby now can change the story your family lives for generations

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You laughed for the first time in what feels like forever… and then the panic hit. Who am I to laugh when my baby died?

If that's you, you're not alone, and you're definitely not the first mom to feel it. In this episode, Jennifer gets honest about the guilt that floods in right after a laugh, a smile, a single good moment. She remembers it from her own life: laughing at something her husband said, and then freezing in shame, certain that joy somehow meant she was forgetting her twin daughters.

Here's what she wants you to know- the laugh was never the problem. It's the story your brain tells you afterward. This episode is about gently loosening the grip of that guilt, and learning that you can carry your baby with you into joy instead of leaving them behind in your pain.

What you'll learn:

• Why that wave of panic shows up the second you catch yourself laughing, and why it isn't a sign that something's wrong with you
• The quiet belief that grief is the proof of how much you loved your baby (and why it keeps you stuck)
• How "guilt becomes your job" when there's no baby to care for, and what to do with that
• Why being miserable forever was never actually honoring your babies' memory
• The difference between leaving your baby behind and bringing your baby's love with you
• A simple sentence you can say out loud the next time the guilt tries to flood in
• How Jennifer uses neuro-linguistic programming to talk back to the cruel thoughts instead of just believing them
• Why laughing at 7pm on a Wednesday is actually a really good sign
• The permission you've probably been waiting for someone to give you

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Want to go deeper on releasing the guilt spiral? Jennifer walks you through her three steps inside my 3-Day Experience for Moms After Baby Loss: navigatingbabyloss.com/workshop

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You weren't being too sensitive. They were being thoughtless. Those are not the same thing.

You know the comment. The one your sister said at brunch. The one your best friend sent over text. "You can always try again." "At least you know you can get pregnant." "Maybe by this time next year you'll have your baby." When it comes from a stranger, you can write it off. But when it comes from someone your own age, someone who knew your baby, someone who was supposed to be in your corner, that's a different kind of wound.

In this episode, I'm talking about why those comments hit the way they do, and why it has nothing to do with you needing thicker skin. We'll get into the second sentence hiding underneath the words, the freeze response that keeps you from saying anything in the moment, and why your baby was never a rough draft or a practice round. I'm also sharing what someone said to me after I lost my girls, and how it quietly changed the way I let people in.

What you'll learn:

• Why a comment from your sister or best friend cuts so much deeper than one from a stranger at Target
• The unspoken second sentence underneath "next year you'll have your baby"  and why you're not imagining it
• Why your body freezes when someone says the wrong thing, and why that's survival, not weakness
• How to stop carrying shame about the things you didn't say in the moment
• Why your baby is not a stepping stone, a placeholder, or a first draft — and never will be
• How to hold two true things at once: they meant well, and it still hurt
• Three things you can actually do this week when someone wounds you this way
• Why you don't owe anyone a graceful response or an explanation
• How to make peace with the fact that some people will never fully understand, and why that's okay

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What if the most exhausted you've ever been isn't from the loss itself — but from mothering your living children while grieving the baby you didn't get to bring home?

If you've come home from the hospital to a house full of little ones who still need you — needing breakfast, needing rides to school, needing your lap — you already know this kind of tired. The kind sleep doesn't fix. The kind that makes you feel like a zombie reading bedtime stories with your mouth while your brain is somewhere else entirely.

In this episode, I'm taking you back to my kitchen — to my five-year-old in his Batman pajamas asking me a question I couldn't even hear. To the moment I realized I had nothing left. And to everything I want you to know if that's where you are right now.

What you'll learn:

• Why the exhaustion of grieving while parenting is its own specific, lonely kind of tired — and why no one warns you about it
• The "two jobs" you're doing every single day (and the second one is the one that's really eating you alive)
• Why snapping at your kids doesn't make you a bad mom — and what it actually means about how much you love them
• What your living children will really remember from this season (it's not what your guilt is telling you)
• How to drop the bar for what counts as "being a good mom" right now — all the way to the floor
• A simple practice for when the guilt starts spiraling after a hard moment with your kids
• Why the baby you lost is already part of the way you mother every other child you have
• The truth about whether you're "ruining" your kids by being sad (spoiler: you're not)

If guilt is the heaviest thing you're carrying right now, my free workshop Practical Ways to Release Guilt and Navigate Grief After Baby Loss was built for exactly this. You can register at navigatingbabyloss.com/workshop.

Read the full blog post here: https://navigatingbabyloss.com/post/parenting-after-stillbirth-exhaustion-guilt

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You are a mother. Full stop.

If you've ever hesitated when someone asks how many kids you have… if you've sat at a baby shower feeling like a fraud… if you've questioned whether you really get to claim the word "mother" - this episode is for you.

Your baby made you a mother. Loss didn't change that. Time doesn't change that. Silence from the people around you doesn't change that. And this is the episode to keep in your back pocket for the days when you need someone to remind you.

What you'll learn:

• Why you became a mother the moment you saw that positive pregnancy test — and nothing has taken that away
• How to answer those impossible doctor's office questions without it breaking you open every single time
• What to do when a friend says "just wait until you're a mother…" and you feel the floor drop out
• Why the guilt around claiming your motherhood is so common — and why you don't have to carry it
• How to honor your motherhood on Mother's Day in small, real ways that feel like yours
• Why saying your baby's name out loud is one of the most motherly things you can do
• The truth about what motherhood actually is — and why it was never about logistics in the first place
• Why you don't need anyone's permission to claim the mother you already are

Read the full blog post here: https://navigatingbabyloss.com/post/still-a-mother-after-stillbirth-138

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Are you already dreading Mother's Day? You are not alone — and you are not doing grief wrong.

If your chest gets tight just thinking about Mother's Day... if you're already noticing the ads, the brunch promos, the "best mom ever" posts, and your body is bracing weeks before the day even arrives — this episode is for you. That heaviness has a name. It's anticipatory grief. And it's so much more common than anyone tells you.

In this episode, I'm not going to try to fix Mother's Day or hand you a list of ways to "get through it." I'm just going to sit with you in the truth of it — share my own first Mother's Day after losing my twins, and give you permission to feel exactly what you're feeling.

What you'll hear in this episode:

• Why the weeks leading up to Mother's Day often feel heavier than the day itself- and what anticipatory grief actually is
• The story of my first Mother's Day after losing my twin daughters, and the conflicted feelings I never expected to have
• Why you can feel like a mother and feel completely inadequate at the same time- and why both are valid
• The guilt that creeps in when you don't want to celebrate a day that's "supposed to be beautiful"
• What to do when your family wants brunch, your friends send cheerful texts, and your partner has no idea what you need
• Why feeling alone in a room full of people who love you is one of the loneliest parts of this day
• Permission to say the things you're already thinking - "I hate this day. I wish I could skip it. I don't feel like a mom."
• How to start deciding what this day looks like for you- not for everyone else
• Why planning ahead for hard days is a game changer (and not the same as "powering through")

Read the full blog post here: https://navigatingbabyloss.com/post/mothers-day-after-stillbirth-dread-137

If you want gentle, bite-sized support for moments exactly like this, the Stillbirth Roadmap Experience is open to you. Ten days of lessons delivered straight to your inbox, plus a personal call with me at the end. You can find it at navigatingbabyloss.com/roadmap.

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Grief after stillbirth doesn't just live inside you — it can quietly settle between you and your partner, too. And if you've ever looked at him and wondered how he can just go to work and act like everything is normal... you're not alone.

In this episode, Jennifer sits down with Miranda Bayard Clark, a licensed therapist turned coach and founder of the Baby Ready Blueprint. Miranda helps couples prepare their relationship for the realities of parenthood — and today, she's getting real about what loss does to a relationship, why partners grieve so differently, and how resentment can build without either of you realizing it.

This conversation is for the mom who feels like she's carrying her grief alone — and the one who's wondering what it would even look like to feel like a team again.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• Why partners almost always grieve differently after loss — and why that doesn't mean he doesn't care
• How resentment quietly builds when needs go unspoken, and what to do when you notice it happening
• Why trying again — whether naturally or through IVF — can bring up so much more than just hope
• The one conversation Miranda says every couple should have before moving forward after a loss
• What it actually means to ask for what you need, even when you're afraid of what he might say
• Why men tend to jump into "fix it" mode — and the simple language shift that can change everything
• What "score keeping" in your relationship really signals, and why it's worth paying attention to
• How the stories we tell ourselves in silence can quietly become resentment over time
• Miranda's Baby Ready Blueprint and her upcoming Us Before Baby course — and who they're really for

Miranda's Links:

www.loveafterlullabies.com

@mirandaforcouples

@loveafterlullabies

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The 3-Day Experience for Moms After Baby Loss is a live workshop for moms who are grieving their baby. Over three days together, we look at how you're really doing, what this loss has touched in your life, and what to actually do when the guilt spiral starts. You'll get the live sessions, the recordings to keep, and a workbook to go with it. $27. Find it at navigatingbabyloss.com/workshop.

Download my FREE "Guilt and Grief Release Journal" at navigatingbabyloss.com/journal

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Have you ever been invited to something — a baby shower, a play date, a summer gathering — and felt that quiet dread settle in before you even replied?

It's not that you don't love your friends. You do. It's that somewhere along the way, you became the exception in the group — the one everyone is a little careful around, the one whose life went a different way. And now being around the people you love most can feel like the loneliest place in the world.

In this episode, Jennifer talks honestly about what happens to your friendships after stillbirth — especially when you're watching a whole friend group move into the season of babies and play dates and nursery updates that you were supposed to be part of too. She talks about why it's so hard, why you keep showing up even when it hurts, and what you can actually do about it without losing yourself or the friendships that matter.

What you'll learn:

• Why being invited isn't the same as feeling included — and why that difference is so important
• How to understand the real reason your friend group feels so isolating right now (even when everyone loves you)
• Why the two worlds — yours and theirs — don't speak the same language, and why that's not anyone's fault
• What's really behind the guilt and longing and resentment you feel when you see their babies and their beautiful, uncomplicated lives
• Why pretending you're okay is keeping you stuck — and what honesty with your friends can actually look like
• How to decide what you can and can't do right now — without guilt and without apology
• What to do when you're invited to something that feels impossible — including a few real, honest options that aren't just "white knuckle it"
• Why some friendships will deepen after loss and some will fade — and why both of those things are allowed
• How to protect yourself without pulling away from every person you love
• Why you are not responsible for managing everyone else's comfort around your grief

[Read the full blog post here: https://navigatingbabyloss.com/post/friendships-after-stillbirth-baby-loss-135

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Does your family know how to grieve with you or are they quietly falling apart on their own?

Grandparent grief after stillbirth is one of the most overlooked parts of baby loss. Your parents and in-laws lost a grandchild. They lost the future they imagined for you. And most of the time, nobody is checking in on them while they're trying to figure out how to show up for you without making things worse.

In this episode, I'm talking to both sides the grandparents who are carrying their own grief in silence, and the loss moms who might not realize that the people closest to them are struggling too. With Mother's Day right around the corner, this felt like the right time to open a conversation that could change everything in your family.

What you'll learn:

• Why grandparent grief gets overlooked and why it matters more than you think
• The double loss grandparents carry: grieving their grandchild and grieving for their child
• What not to say to a loss mom (especially if you're her parent)
• The simple things grandparents can do that actually help even when words feel impossible
• Why your adult child might pull away from you, and what it really means
• How in-law dynamics make grandparent grief even more delicate
• One small Mother's Day gesture that can heal or one silence that can break a relationship
• How to tell your parents or in-laws what you actually need from them
• What happens when the baby becomes the thing nobody talks about
• Why sharing this episode might open the door you've been afraid to walk through

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