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In honor of Father’s Day, I invited my husband, David, onto the podcast for a candid and unscripted conversation about what it was really like for us to survive the loss of our stillborn twins—and what that journey looked like for our marriage, for each of us as individuals, and for the family we were trying to hold together.
We didn’t prep. We didn’t rehearse. He didn’t even really know what I was going to ask.
It’s been 25 years since that loss, but the impact is still so present. And while we grieved so differently—and often didn’t understand each other in those early days—we both agree on this: it changed everything.
David shares what he remembers from that heartbreaking day, how he coped (or didn’t), and what it felt like to try and support me through something he couldn’t fix. I open up about the bitterness, the guilt, and the distance that threatened to swallow our marriage whole. We talk about the things we never said back then. And we’re finally saying them now.
This episode isn’t polished. It’s real. It’s raw. It’s the stuff you rarely hear dads talk about.
And if you’re a loss mom wondering how your partner is coping… or struggling to connect with them through your own grief… or even just holding onto hope that your relationship can survive this—please listen.
You're not alone in how hard this is.
What You'll Hear in This Episode:
- The moment David found out our babies had died
- Why we grieved so differently—and how that caused tension
- What no one told us about the isolation after loss
- How David’s medical background shaped the way he processed grief
- Why I judged his grief (and why he felt helpless to comfort mine)
- The one thing that kept our marriage from falling apart
- How long it really took before I felt even a little okay
- What support looked like when it wasn't working
October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, so I created Life Beyond Loss—a four-week series of free workshops designed to give you the tools and support you need to navigate life after loss. These sessions will help you quiet the guilt, handle hurtful comments with confidence, rediscover who you are, and prepare for those painful milestone dates with a plan. Join me at navigatingbabyloss.com/october
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Stillbirth moms—you don’t have to do this alone. The Always Loved Club is a new monthly space with live workshops, weekly audio support, private community chat, and Q&As for postpartum and pregnancy after loss. Plus, couples calls every few months. Join us at programs.jennifersenn.com/club.
CLICK HERE TO JOIN MY OCTOBER WORKSHOP SERIES "LIFE BEYOND LOSS"
WHERE TO FIND AND FOLLOW ME!
- Website- https://www.jennifersenn.com
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- You Tube-https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCz-2MCEY5PRiF6p6VB_2lxA