Negotiators Podcast

Indistractable Book Review - Tim Durkin With Derek Arden on Monday Night Live

Monday Night Live has a book review by Tim Durkin "Indistractable" written by Nir Eyal

Tim is a serial entrepreneur and a lifelong learner.

Author, speaker and Tim specialise in helping build resilience in people, particularly in the healthcare sector.

Tim's latest project is studying the work of Nir Eyal and Nir's latest book called "Indistractable".

Tonight Tim shares with us his research including -

1 - How distractions in 2022 are derailing so many people causing stress, reduced productivity and health issues.

2 - What we can do about it

3 - How Tim is amending his training to include these new discoveries.

Tonight we will learn about -

The ten-minute ruleSurfing the urgeEgo depletionDistraction v tractionInternal and external triggersWhy time management is pain managementThe cure for boredom is curiosityThe zone of dangerous distraction

01:30 Daughter and Superpower03:50 Talk with the animals04:15 Indistractable05:12 Cal Newport Deep Work and Nir Eyal Hooked07:15 Indistractable Model10:00 Pain Management12:15 White Bear13:00 What is the internal trigger18:00 Ten Minute Trick20:20 The cure for boredom21:30 The Big ?22:30 Four Steps29:00 Distraction - Accidents - Pilots and Hospital Accidents30:00 Precommitments - Effort Pact - Price Pact - Identity Pact34:00 Blame - Shame - Claim39:00 To-do lists

Derek Arden

https://derekarden.co.ukhttps://negotiatorspodcast.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/negotiatingexpert/

Tim Durkin

http://www.timdurkin.com/

Dispute Mediation Discussed By Negotiator Derek Arden and Mediator Jane Gunn

Negotiator Derek Arden and Mediator Jane Gunn - Discuss arbitration, mediation, litigation, adjudication and empowerment options for the parties involved in disputes.

Jane has recently helped a client of Derek role-play and rehearse a dispute mediation.

Derek says how powerful the rehearsal was for - 1 - Increasing our leverage 2 - Putting our team in the strongest position possible 3 - Understanding where they were coming from

On this Monday NIght Live, Derek and Jane have a fascinating discussion about different approaches to different disputes.

01:00 Introduction of Charming and Tough Jane 05:00 Process of Mediation 06:30 Cost of Conflict 08:00 Role Play Mediation - Story and Impact if NOT Sorted 14:00 Mediating Emotions 15:00 Difficult Case of Mediation 17:00 Hijacking - loss of face 22:00 Co Mediating 24:00 Process - Compass - Now, Explore, Solution, Walk 27:00 Men or Women

Links referred to in Monday Night Live discussion

Corona Bonus video - https://vimeo.com/399488305

Domination or Partnership https://janegunn.co.uk/being-a-partnership-agent-for-change-with-riane-eisler/

Consciousness or Catastrophe https://janegunn.co.uk/consciousness-or-catastrophe-with-david-murrin/

Derek Arden

https://derekarden.co.ukhttps://negotiatorspodcast.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/negotiatingexpert/

Jane Gunn

https://janegunn.co.uk

Why Your Brain Wants Negative Headlines and Stories.

Our resident psychologist and internet expert Graham Jones joins us for his regular update. An Interesting start talking about negativity and the need for negative headlines and stories.

Graham has advised clients all over the world and has had many articles published. He is at present programme director at The University of Buckingham for the business management course.

Other areas covered were hacking and power supplies, choices and the Power Of 3

Derek Arden

https://derekarden.co.ukhttps://negotiatorspodcast.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/negotiatingexpert/

Graham Jones

https://www.grahamjones.co.uk/

In This Monday Night Live Derek Gets Tip TopTips From Presenters On His Weekly Show

Second-anniversary show - with tip top tips from some of the amazing presenters on the Monday Night Live Zoom Radio Show over the last 2 years

This week celebrates the 139th Monday Night Live Internet Radio Show.

We started on 23 March 2020, the first day of lockdown three times a week. The show became a permanent Monday feature in September 2020 and we have been privileged to have learned from some amazing people.

Thank you for your encouragement which has been overwhelming and enabled me to continue to seek out many of the best speakers, trainers and educators in the world. Some of them will be with us tonight.

I asked 25 experts in their various fields to share one tip each.

01:30 Speak in Black and White02:25 Everyone can teach you03:30 Small Talk - Ego07:30 Personal Logo13:00 Key to success - Confidence and Preparation15:00 Compare Yourself To Yourself18:00 Memorable Brand Image20:46 A Vilain in My World a Hero in His World22:00 Questions You Should not Ask25:00 Body Language27:00 Acronym Fear29:00 Increasing Cost of Software33:00 Respect Other Cultures36:00 Give a Lot38:00 Caretakers of Environment40:00 Never Let Guard Down42:00 Prepare For Best - Plan For the Worst45:00 Reciprocity47:00 Share Knowledge and Motivate Next Generation48:00 Leveraging Podcasts50:00 Improve Focus - Surf The Urge

Derek Arden

https://derekarden.co.ukhttps://negotiatorspodcast.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/negotiatingexpert/

In This Monday Night Live Derek Talks To Five Guests With History and Stories About The Baltic States.

This part of the world has a fascinating history. The three Baltic countries were behind the "Iron Curtain" for so long, became independent in the early 90's and joined NATO and the EU as rapidly as they could, I guess to protect their freedom.

I thought I would invite five guests from the Baltic states who have used my negotiation work to form a panel and share their stories, their views and their concerns in 2022.

This was planned before Russia invaded Ukraine so it's even more topical now.

Anu Vask is a consul to the Ministry of Economic Affairs in Tallinn, Estonia.Valerija Slavina was born in Lithuania, brought up in Belarus and works in London.Janice Litvin's grandparents escaped the Nazis from Latvia. Janice now lives in San Francisco.Eva Fanani was bought up in Estonia and now lives in Albuquerque New MexicoMurvet Sahin lives in Aarhus, Denmark and has worked in Scandinavia for the airline SAS

Derek Arden

https://derekarden.co.ukhttps://negotiatorspodcast.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/negotiatingexpert/

Derek is delighted to have Justin Urquart-Stewart back as a guest on Monday Night Live.

These are crazy times and it is great to get the insights of Justin who is a Media guru, columnist and investment expert.

Just a little history of Justin. When he graduated he joined Barclays, was posted to Uganda where he was ambushed by Idi Amin's troops in their revolution. He still has a piece of shrapnel in his right leg from that encounter.

Justin became a stockbroker and has been the TV and radio face of first Barclays stockbrokers, then Seven Investment Management.

When Seven was sold Justin retired BUT soon was back in action setting up Regionally.

In between his work on TV and radio around the world. Discussed:- Ukraine, inflation, energy prices and the effect we can expect on commodities, markets and investments in the short term.

Derek Arden

https://derekarden.co.ukhttps://negotiatorspodcast.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/negotiatingexpert/

Justin Urquart-Stewart

https://www.linkedin.com/in/justinurquhartstewart/

PitchFreaks Guide - Close With Your Open

Pitchfreak Antonio makes an unusual entrance in this interview with Derek Arden. Then they talk about his book 'Open With Your Close'.

Create pitches for any occasion:

investor pitch decksprospect sales presentationfund raisingpolitical campaignsjury presentations

The perfect way to pitch busy people "Close with Your Open is perfect for selling in our short-attention-span culture.

Derek Arden

https://derekarden.co.ukhttps://negotiatorspodcast.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/negotiatingexpert/

Antonio White

https://www.linkedin.com/in/antoniocwhite/

Derek Arden and Andel Singh Talk About Negotiations in Legal Process

My guest tonight is Andel Singh. discussing defence barrister negotiations

Andel has defended high profile cases and he will share some of the secrets barristers employ working for the criminal justice system with most defendants on legal aid.

More people in Bedford jail had requested Andel to be their defence barrister than anyone else.

This will be a fascinating session hearing from someone who has often worked inside the Old Bailey and had to negotiate with judges, juries, defendants, prosecutors and the police.

We don't usually get to ask a barrister questions so send me any you have before tonight.

Here are some questions,

1 - Is everything a barrister has to do linked to negotiation?2 - How can you defend someone who you know is guilty?3 - What got you to legend status in Bedford jail?4 - Did a judge really instruct you to read 21,000 pages over a weekend before a trial.5 - What are your tips on speed reading?6 - How do you "unhear" something?

Derek Arden

https://derekarden.co.ukhttps://negotiatorspodcast.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/negotiatingexpert/

Shelley Bridgman Talks To Derek Arden About Her Life Challenges

Here is Shelley Bridgman as described on the back of her book 'Stand-Up For Yourself' an inspiring, no-holds-barred account of one woman's quest to find her true self.

Shelley Bridgman is an award-winning stand-up comic, actor, scriptwriter, professional speaker and a leading psychotherapist - but it wasn't always this way.

First, she survived the hedonistic sixties with the inevitable round of clubbing, fashion and drugs; then she made the most of the seventies, travelling to over sixty countries whilst running a travel business - but it was the eighties that tested her to her limits. Battling depression, bankruptcy, addiction and suicide attempts, Shelley found the strength to confront her need to change gender and achieve harmony with herself.

A unique story told with delightfully dry humour about identity, self-discovery, acceptance and courage.

It is also a testament to a profoundly touching love story that has lasted over forty years.

Derek's Verdict at the end of this interview - "What a Great Negotiator"

Derek Arden

https://derekarden.co.ukhttps://negotiatorspodcast.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/negotiatingexpert/

Shelley Bridgman

https://www.linkedin.com/in/transformationalchangecoach/

Energy Management Tim Durkin With Derek Arden

In this weeks Monday Night Live Derek Arden and Tim Durkin discuss Energy Management - breathing, relaxation and personal space

Importing EnergyBreathing TherapiesRelaxing TechniquesYawningBreakoutPeri Personal Space

Derek Arden

https://derekarden.co.ukhttps://negotiatorspodcast.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/negotiatingexpert/

Tim Durkin

http://www.timdurkin.com/