New Ways New You ( Tendrils of Grief- Life After Grief)

Kathy Sanderson always dreamed about having a big family, but unfortunately it was just not in the cards. Kathy and husband would try, but they would end up having miscarriage after miscarriage. Despite having 3 children, Kathy could not carry her babies to term and she felt a lot of shame around this. Kathy shares her grief story and how she was able to overcome her feelings of inadequacy as a woman during these very challenging years.

Key Takeaways:

• Kathy shares her grief story and how she got started in this line of work.
• What is a rainbow baby?
• Although Kathy currently has 3 beautiful children, she has had several miscarriages and each of them passing was heartbreaking.
• Kathy needed to prove to herself that she could carry a baby to term.
• Kathy is a medium so she could hear her children dying and talking to them up until their last breath.
• The trauma of losing all these children, Kathy had to give up her career to focus on herself.
• What made Kathy decide that she was no longer going to try to carry a baby to term?
• Kathy didn't realize the full extent and impact it had on her husband when he found out that she miscarried.
• Kathy took the time to look inward and take on a path of spiritual healing, and realized that she never really felt loved.
• People would tell Kathy, 'Can't you just be happy with the 3 you got?' That's not the point!
• Out of all of this, Kathy has learned that she is not a victim and she's not going to let other people take control of her own life. You choose what happens to you.
• Death is just not talked about. Kathy's 3 children have experienced a lot of death from such an early age.
• What advice does Kathy have for women who are struggling to get pregnant or are unable to conceive? You can maintain your personal power. Keep holding on to your power.

Resources:

Healingfromwithin.co.uk

Kathy Sanderson always dreamed about having a big family, but unfortunately it was just not in the cards. Kathy and husband would try, but they would end up having miscarriage after miscarriage. Despite having 3 children, Kathy could not carry her babies to term and she felt a lot of shame around this. Kathy shares her grief story and how she was able to overcome her feelings of inadequacy as a woman during these very challenging years.  

Key Takeaways:

• Kathy shares her grief story and how she got started in this line of work. 
• What is a rainbow baby?
• Although Kathy currently has 3 beautiful children, she has had several miscarriages and each of them passing was heartbreaking.
• Kathy needed to prove to herself that she could carry a baby to term. 
• Kathy is a medium so she could hear her children dying and talking to them up until their last breath.
• The trauma of losing all these children, Kathy had to give up her career to focus on herself.
• What made Kathy decide that she was no longer going to try to carry a baby to term?
• Kathy didn’t realize the full extent and impact it had on her husband when he found out that she miscarried.
• Kathy took the time to look inward and take on a path of spiritual healing, and realized that she never really felt loved.
• People would tell Kathy, ‘Can’t you just be happy with the 3 you got?’ That’s not the point!
• Out of all of this, Kathy has learned that she is not a victim and she’s not going to let other people take control of her own life. You choose what happens to you.
• Death is just not talked about. Kathy’s 3 children have experienced a lot of death from such an early age.
• What advice does Kathy have for women who are struggling to get pregnant or are unable to conceive? You can maintain your personal power. Keep holding on to your power.

Resources:

Healingfromwithin.co.uk

Jillie Maria is a Transformational Catalyst, Certified Akashic Records Practitioner, & Intuitive specializing in grief and trauma work. She holds space for deep healing, one client at a time. Jillie shares why it's important to grieve different life transitions, even if you haven't physically lost someone. Your body keeps emotions in and pushing those down will only cause your emotions to resurface at odd and strange times.

Key Takeaways:

• Jillie shares her unique perspective on grief.
• A lot of us don't know how to grieve. Our society even shames us for grieving!
• We have to grieve the routines we don't have.
• Jillie's grandmother survived World War 2 and apologized to her and the family for making them unemotional. She felt like she didn't have the luxury to feel emotions.
• You get to feel what you feel.
• What would it look like if you felt your anger? What would it feel like if you just laid on the ground and cried?
• Susan has yelled at her husband so many times for having to go through some of these moments alone.
• What is it like if you get stuck in your grief?
• For many men, they end up remarrying within two years of losing their spouse.
• Sometimes you need to take a step back and grieve so you don't make everyone else's life around you miserable.
• How did Jillie become a psychic medium?
• It's okay to be happy again, and it's okay to find happiness again after the passing of a loved one.
• Jillie lost her best friend in 2016. It was devastating. She shares how she honors her.
• What should we know about our grief? We are emotional beings.
• Our loved ones want us to be happy. Sometimes happiness looks like sobbing your eyes out.
• Jillie shares one piece of advice for someone who is currently grieving.

Resources:

Jillie on Facebook

Jillie on LinkedIn

Jillie Maria is a Transformational Catalyst, Certified Akashic Records Practitioner, & Intuitive specializing in grief and trauma work. She holds space for deep healing, one client at a time. Jillie shares why it’s important to grieve different life transitions, even if you haven’t physically lost someone. Your body keeps emotions in and pushing those down will only cause your emotions to resurface at odd and strange times. 

Key Takeaways:

• Jillie shares her unique perspective on grief. 
• A lot of us don’t know how to grieve. Our society even shames us for grieving! 
• We have to grieve the routines we don’t have. 
• Jillie’s grandmother survived World War 2 and apologized to her and the family for making them unemotional. She felt like she didn’t have the luxury to feel emotions. 
• You get to feel what you feel. 
• What would it look like if you felt your anger? What would it feel like if you just laid on the ground and cried? 
• Susan has yelled at her husband so many times for having to go through some of these moments alone. 
• What is it like if you get stuck in your grief? 
• For many men, they end up remarrying within two years of losing their spouse. 
• Sometimes you need to take a step back and grieve so you don’t make everyone else’s life around you miserable. 
• How did Jillie become a psychic medium? 
• It’s okay to be happy again, and it’s okay to find happiness again after the passing of a loved one. 
• Jillie lost her best friend in 2016. It was devastating. She shares how she honors her. 
• What should we know about our grief? We are emotional beings.
• Our loved ones want us to be happy. Sometimes happiness looks like sobbing your eyes out.
• Jillie shares one piece of advice for someone who is currently grieving. 

Resources:

Jillie on Facebook

Jillie on LinkedIn 

Jennifer Warren lost her husband when he was in his early 40s. It was a sudden loss and it took her by surprise. She started her blog as a way to detail the very raw and emotional journey of her grief. It was a place where she could be vulnerable and share things that her friends didn't know she was going through. Through all of this, she found gratitude and the goodness of others. Find out more about Jen and her story in this week's episode.

Key Takeaways:

• Jen shares her grief journey and how she lost her husband.
• Knowing what she knows now, Jen would have taken her husband to the ER when he had trouble sleeping.
• Jen's conscious husband went to the hospital with the ambulance and she stayed at home to get things in order. When she met him at the hospital, he was on a ventilator and was not conscious. A chaplain had met with her in the lobby to prepare her for what would happen next.
• Why did Jen decide to start a blog?
• How did Jen find comfort in grief?
• Jen offers words of wisdom for those of you who might be stuck in your grief.
• People care about you. People really do.
• Just because people aren't there every single day after you lose someone, doesn't mean they're not there. You just have to look for them.
• Jen's blog is to show vulnerability because she knows a lot of people in her life don't know she's going through this.
• What advice does Jen have for someone who is grieving right now?
• Practice gratitude.
• Don't wallow in self-pity. Don't underestimate your friendships.

Resources:

Jenr8ion.com

Jennifer Warren lost her husband when he was in his early 40s. It was a sudden loss and it took her by surprise. She started her blog as a way to detail the very raw and emotional journey of her grief. It was a place where she could be vulnerable and share things that her friends didn’t know she was going through. Through all of this, she found gratitude and the goodness of others. Find out more about Jen and her story in this week’s episode. 

Key Takeaways:

• Jen shares her grief journey and how she lost her husband. 
• Knowing what she knows now, Jen would have taken her husband to the ER when he had trouble sleeping. 
• Jen’s conscious husband went to the hospital with the ambulance and she stayed at home to get things in order. When she met him at the hospital, he was on a ventilator and was not conscious. A chaplain had met with her in the lobby to prepare her for what would happen next.
• Why did Jen decide to start a blog? 
• How did Jen find comfort in grief? 
• Jen offers words of wisdom for those of you who might be stuck in your grief. 
• People care about you. People really do. 
• Just because people aren’t there every single day after you lose someone, doesn’t mean they’re not there. You just have to look for them. 
• Jen’s blog is to show vulnerability because she knows a lot of people in her life don’t know she’s going through this. 
• What advice does Jen have for someone who is grieving right now? 
• Practice gratitude. 
• Don’t wallow in self-pity. Don’t underestimate your friendships. 

Resources:

Jenr8ion.com

Sherrie Toews is the Founder and CEO of Effortless Momentum as well as a licensed marriage family therapist and breakthrough coach. When it comes to grief, it can be so hard working through your emotions. If you find yourself hung up or stuck, a therapist can help you through your grief process. In this episode, Sherrie shares some strategies on the best ways to navigate your grief and communicate with your loved ones on what you need.

Key Takeaways:

• When it comes to grief, what do some of Sherrie's clients struggle with the most?
• Susan's daughter went into a very dark place when Paul passed away. No one really knew how to respond to it.
• Why is it that some people get stuck in their own emotions?
• Expressing anger is very healthy.
• It's so important to work through your emotions and get help if you need it.
• "Why Me?" is sometimes an impossible question to answer.
• Write a letter to whoever you're mad at! Let it all out!
• When Susan was grieving, she didn't need a casserole, she needed someone to just hold her hand and stare at the wall.
• You're doing the best you can and your friends/family are also doing the best that they can, but miscommunication or mismatches will happen during your time of grief.
• When do you know you're experiencing healthy anger vs. unhealthy anger?
• Love people through the anger phase.

Resources:

Effortlessmomentum.com

Sherrie Toews is the Founder and CEO of Effortless Momentum as well as a licensed marriage family therapist and breakthrough coach. When it comes to grief, it can be so hard working through your emotions. If you find yourself hung up or stuck, a therapist can help you through your grief process. In this episode, Sherrie shares some strategies on the best ways to navigate your grief and communicate with your loved ones on what you need.

Key Takeaways:

• When it comes to grief, what do some of Sherrie’s clients struggle with the most?
• Susan’s daughter went into a very dark place when Paul passed away. No one really knew how to respond to it.
• Why is it that some people get stuck in their own emotions?
• Expressing anger is very healthy.
• It’s so important to work through your emotions and get help if you need it.
• “Why Me?” is sometimes an impossible question to answer.
• Write a letter to whoever you’re mad at! Let it all out!
• When Susan was grieving, she didn’t need a casserole, she needed someone to just hold her hand and stare at the wall.
• You’re doing the best you can and your friends/family are also doing the best that they can, but miscommunication or mismatches will happen during your time of grief.
• When do you know you’re experiencing healthy anger vs. unhealthy anger?
• Love people through the anger phase.

Resources:

Effortlessmomentum.com

Lisa Zawrotny is a Certified Stress Management Coach and specializes in productivity and organization. She is also the host of the Positively Living podcast. When it comes to your loved one's possessions, what do you do when you know it's time to make space? How do you continue to honor them? Lisa helps define the balance and works with what you feel is right. She offers advice on this week's episode on how to best tackle this while still keeping your loved one's memories alive.

Key Takeaways:

• When do you know it's time to remove or discard a loved one's possessions?
• When we don't want to interact with the world, having clutter around us really makes us feel safe.
• Give yourself permission to pack away items, but create an inventory/list of what's in them.
• Susan felt like she had some things she could not get rid of at all, but after six months, she was ready to depart with it. Sometimes it just takes time!
• Lisa kept one of her dad's clothing for 15+ years. Whatever it is that you're feeling, that's truly the right choice.
• How should you depart with the things? Do you give them to Good Will?
• What happens if a family member wants an item you cherish? How do you manage that?
• You can always change your mind. The grief process is complex and you don't need to apologize for that.
• When clearing out items, it doesn't have to be an 'all or nothing' kind of thing.
• There is nothing wrong with having a 'maybe' box.
• When does it make sense to hire a professional organizer or get extra help?

Resources:

Positivelyproductive.com

Lisa Zawrotny is a Certified Stress Management Coach and specializes in productivity and organization. She is also the host of the Positively Living podcast. When it comes to your loved one’s possessions, what do you do when you know it’s time to make space? How do you continue to honor them? Lisa helps define the balance and works with what you feel is right. She offers advice on this week’s episode on how to best tackle this while still keeping your loved one’s memories alive.

Key Takeaways:

• When do you know it’s time to remove or discard a loved one’s possessions?
• When we don’t want to interact with the world, having clutter around us really makes us feel safe.
• Give yourself permission to pack away items, but create an inventory/list of what’s in them.
• Susan felt like she had some things she could not get rid of at all, but after six months, she was ready to depart with it. Sometimes it just takes time!
• Lisa kept one of her dad’s clothing for 15+ years. Whatever it is that you’re feeling, that’s truly the right choice.
• How should you depart with the things? Do you give them to Good Will?
• What happens if a family member wants an item you cherish? How do you manage that?
• You can always change your mind. The grief process is complex and you don’t need to apologize for that.
• When clearing out items, it doesn’t have to be an ‘all or nothing’ kind of thing.
• There is nothing wrong with having a ‘maybe’ box.
• When does it make sense to hire a professional organizer or get extra help?

Resources:

Positivelyproductive.com