Nos Pasa a Todos: A Queer Latino's Podcast

Psychology, Counseling and Love -- These are a few of our favorite things; but, they extend into various parts of our lives. While this is personal, it is also serves as a lens into the importance of having someone else in our lives to share our struggles, decisions and choices with. It's important to connect, and without further adieu, please take a listen and find something interesting in our discussion today. Please provide questions or feedback to [email protected] 

Today, we're addressing a question you might've asked yourself in the past, "What is too much control?" Control extends into various parts of our lives, and there are ways we see healthy and unhealthy levels of control. It plays a part in our goals, the future we're planning for ourselves, but it also plays into relationships, or attachments, and how we connect and have conversations about intentions in a relationship. We hope you'll find value in this podcast, and thanks for listening. Please feel free to email us with feedback or questions, [email protected]

Today, we're addressing Work-Life Balance, talking specifically about the stress that comes with our own jobs. I want to keep the discussion here short, so I start by posing the question, "How do you manage the stress from your job?" It's a big question, and a huge part of work-life balance involves managing your own self-care. We'll talk about those different ways and what it looks like here. Please take the time, if you'd like to provide feedback or have questions, to email us at: [email protected]

Today, we're addressing personal resistance, this common idea that can create cycle's in an individual's life. It's important to keep track of where we have resistance in our lives, whether that's professionally, personally or in a relationship. We hope what you'll take away from this is a tool for awareness, because we must be mindful and be able to appropriately address the reasoning behind our roadblocks. A big piece of this discussion is relying, with healthy codependency, on a securely attached partner or person in our lives. This helps lift some of the weight of resistance! We hope you'll find this discussion useful, and please give us feedback or questions anytime, at [email protected]

Today, we're talking about the topic of looking after your mental health. In the US alone, there are various systems that have led to oppression of entire communities and the suppression of feelings related to internal struggles. We're addressing the stigma of mental health, because so many people have said things that relate seeking mental health support, whether that's self-help or therapy, to lack of confidence, weakness or shame even. There are ways that these systems and insecure attachments convey to us that mental health support is not necessary, and we end up carrying a wide load of shame, fear, disgust, and other feelings that break us apart inside. We hope you find this discussion today very useful, and for those needing other support and to simply provide feedback to us directly, please feel free to email us at [email protected] 

Here we are, talking about breakups and the idea of leaving a relationship and processing the pain from it. There are instances in relationships where we realize mistakes might happen, and sometimes where we find ourselves looking to meet our needs elsewhere, we don't realize how addressing those needs can bring two people closer together. On the other hand, there are relationships that are extremely abusive, whether sexually, emotionally or physically, and it's difficult to understand how to express our needs or desires, and in our stories, this shows up differently. It's important to feel safe and secure in a relationship, and even through overcoming the damage of one, we need to process and understand the pain that it left us in the end. Hopefully this podcast episode will shed some well deserved light for you!

Today, we're addressing the idea of sharing our political views in a safe space, in a secure relationship. What does this look like? How can we feel safe about opening up about our reactions to specific political topics, some of which shouldn't be a question of political nature? We are passionate about helping others understand and recognize the value of secure attachment, but this also means that when you're struggling to feel safe, whatever nature that may be, you have resources and ways to build awareness around your reactions to tough topics. It's vital we understand and grasp the reality that many of these topics center around a lack of empathy and compassion for individuals who are enduring circumstances that are unfair and unjust. We look forward to this discussion and hearing your feedback on the topic as well, thanks. Email: [email protected]

As a continuation of our previous podcast, #BlackLivesMatter, we address the idea of looking at, and building awareness, of our own racism. We live within a system of racism that goes back since the earliest of times, since someone stood among another, a person of different skin tone. In today's podcast, we would like to give you a moment to think about what you feel, what you think about, when you address this topic. We know this can be hard to address, especially because your own background or personal experiences have driven you to think about feelings in a specific way. . . We challenge you to ask yourself why, and here, we want to look at the idea of white fragility and the importance of understanding humanity. You get to be scared, feel shame or even sadness, but the system creates anger, and empathy has come to a point that it forms fatigue for people of color, and empathy is humanity, and what these individuals are experiencing is clearly injustice. Also, the correct email to send feedback or responses is: [email protected]

Instead of titling this episode, the Power of Empathy, I suggest we call it #BlackLivesMatter. Whatever way we can stand in to show empathy, whatever way considers your emotions, your capacity to regulate your mental health, that would be what I recommend you consider here. We talk deeply about empathy in this podcast, but it isn't about what we do as individuals in a relationship, or as counselors, it's about how we can make a change in this crisis of inequality for our black brothers and sisters in this world, not just our nation. We talk today about the movement, but we home in on the ability to regulate yourselves, so that you recognize your own capacity to help, to show empathy to, understand and have compassion for what's happening in the world right now. What can you do? There are a few ways to look at this question, so, take a listen here and see if you'll find what you're looking for. 

It is our third year anniversary today, and without a doubt, developing secure attachments is not an easy endeavor. We are talking today about the understanding of shame, what it means, what it looks like in ourselves, and how it impacts our loving relationships. It isn't about brokenness when we can't recognize or vocalize our emotions, but it's about experiences that ingrain this idea of shame in us. This might mean we develop fear about opening up from various encounters or from within our families. I hope you will find value in this conversation, and we look forward to hearing your thoughts about the episode. We're beginning to think it's time to let people share their feedback, so feel free to email the podcast at: 

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