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Raise your hand if you've ever looked at a holiday photo and thought, "What was I DOING with my hands?" Or noticed your arm looks twice its normal size pressed against your body? Or realized your front leg looks like a column instead of, you know, a leg? You deserve to look back at holiday photos and love what you see. We're breaking down three photographer-approved fixes that'll instantly make you look more confident and relaxed in every picture—no awkward posing required.

Stop dreading holiday photos and get in front of that camera, Mama. Hit subscribe and learn the simple hand, leg, and arm tricks that'll make you look (and feel) amazing in every picture this season.

Note: This is a re-aired episode with timeless photo advice that works for any occasion—holidays, weddings, family gatherings, or just when someone pulls out their phone and says "let me get a picture!"

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Who Should Listen

This episode is for anyone who hates how they look in photos because they don't know what to do with their body, and everyone who's ever said "I'm just not photogenic" (spoiler: you probably just need better posing habits).

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What You Get In This Episode

• How to avoid “slug fingers” and the S-curve secret
• Sitting and standing angles that slim what's closest to the camera
• The "teapot" and "raptor" poses that open your shoulders without looking staged
• Group photo tricks that solve "where do my arms go?" questions once and for all
• Bonus: Minute-to-win-it party games that require zero setup and maximum laughs

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Bios

Caitlin and Jenny are two friends navigating the hilarious and sometimes chaotic world of adulthood—from awkward family photos to holiday party planning. They're here to share relatable stories, practical advice, and a healthy dose of laughter along the way.

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Sources & Mentions

• I’m a Photographer and These Are the 3 Things You Should Avoid Doing in Photos | By Marissa Wu for PureWow

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Ever gotten a "dress casual" invite and thought "what does that even MEAN?" Or worse—shown up to a "festive" party in sequins only to realize everyone else interpreted it as ugly sweaters? Same. Holiday dress codes are confusing, ambiguous, and honestly? Half the time hosts don't even know what they're asking for. We're decoding every dress code from casual to white tie so you never have to panic-Google "what to wear" again.

Stop stressing about what to wear to holiday parties—hit subscribe and get the breakdown of every dress code plus scripts to ask hosts when you're confused (because "festive" means nothing).

Note: This is a re-aired episode with timeless advice about dress codes. Whether you're going to holiday parties, weddings, or any formal event, these guidelines still apply.

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Who Should Listen

This episode is for anyone who's ever shown up overdressed, underdressed, or just plain confused about what "dressy casual" means, and hosts who want to stop torturing their guests with ambiguous dress codes.

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What You Get In This Episode

• What casual, dressy casual, business, cocktail, semi-formal, black tie optional, black tie, and white tie actually mean (with real examples), and how fabrics, straps, and structure change formality levels
• Quick rules for shoes, socks, and seasonal accessories that matter
• Why "festive" and "holiday" dress codes are traps—and what to do about them
• Simple scripts to ask the host about expectations without feeling awkward
• The party-hopping rule
• PLUS! Tips for hosts: how to write clear invitations with examples and tone-setting language

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Bios

Caitlin brings her signature blend of humor and practical advice to help overwhelmed moms navigate the challenges of adulting—including not showing up to parties in the wrong outfit. With Jenny, who loves sequins, understands formality levels, and won't judge you for asking "wait, what does tropical black tie mean?"

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Sources & Mentions

• Decoding Invitation Dress Codes | By Meg Hemphill for HuffPost Life
• Attire Guide: Dress Codes from Casual to White Tie Formal | Emily Post

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The holidays bring out the best in us—and sometimes the absolute worst on social media. Gift bragging, family drama aired publicly, political hot takes that start comment wars... we've all seen it (or been guilty of it). This week we're breaking down 8 types of posts to skip this season and why they matter more than you think. And for the record: "I'm just being honest" is not the same as being kind.

Don’t let social media drama ruin your holidays—hit subscribe and learn how to post with purpose, protect your peace, and keep your corner of the internet a little warmer this season.

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Note: This is a re-aired episode with timeless advice about holiday social media etiquette. The 8 rules still apply, and honestly, we all need the reminder every year.

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Who Should Listen

This episode is for anyone who's ever hovered over "post" wondering if they should, scrolled through their feed feeling worse instead of better, or knows someone** who needs a friendly reminder about what to share (and what to keep offline) during the holidays.

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What You Get In This Episode

• 8 clear categories of posts to avoid this holiday season (and the real-world ripple effects of each)
• Why gift bragging and public family feuds do more damage than you think
• How algorithms reward outrage—and why that matters for your mental health
• The invitation trap that leads to hurt feelings (and how to avoid it)
• Consent and privacy rules for kids' photos—what the law expects and practical alternatives
• Self-care practices that keep you calm online: stretch breaks, rituals, and joyful traditions

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Bios

Caitlin brings her signature blend of humor and practical advice to help overwhelmed moms navigate the challenges of adulting—including not letting social media turn the holidays into a dumpster fire. With Jenny, who brings thoughtful perspectives on protecting your peace while staying connected.

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Sources & Mentions

• 10 Things You Should Never Post on Social Media During the Holidays | Reader’s Digest
• Do's and Don'ts of Holiday Social Media Posting | Social Stamina
• 7 Things to Avoid Posting on Facebook during the Holidays That You Will Regret Later | AllWomensTalk
• 11 Photos You Should Never, Ever Post on Social Media | The Healthy

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Thanksgiving is full of stories we think we know—but how much is actually true? Was the first Thanksgiving really just Pilgrims and turkey? Why do we pardon turkeys? And why do plumbers dread Black Friday more than any other day of the year? We're trading myths for facts and turning Thanksgiving trivia into stories you'll actually want to share at the table this year.

Don’t repeat Thanksgiving myths—hit subscribe and get the real stories, wild facts, and table-ready trivia that'll make you the most interesting person at dinner.

Note: This is a re-aired episode packed with Thanksgiving trivia and practical tips that never get old. Perfect listening while you're prepping, cooking, or hiding from family in the kitchen.

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Who Should Listen

This episode is for anyone who loves a good origin story, wants conversation starters that aren't about politics, and needs something entertaining to listen to while prepping for the holiday chaos.

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What You Get In This Episode

• The real story of the 1621 feast (shocker: it wasn't what you learned in elementary school)
• Presidential turkey drama involving a raccoon, pardons, and political theater
• The woman behind making Thanksgiving official (and her other famous work)
• Mind-blowing modern stats: millions of turkeys, pies, and jaw-dropping calorie counts
• Why plumbers consider Black Friday their Super Bowl
• Kitchen wisdom that'll save your disposal and your sanity
• Plus more table-ready trivia that'll make you the most interesting person at dinner

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Bios

Caitlin brings her signature blend of humor and practical advice to help overwhelmed moms navigate the challenges of adulting—including becoming the trivia queen of Thanksgiving dinner. With Jenny, who brings curiosity, laughs, and a willingness to admit when she guesses wrong.

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Sources & Mentions

• 50 Thanksgiving Trivia Questions and Answers to Impress All of Your Dinner Guests
• Sarah Josepha Hale
• 67 Thanksgiving trivia questions and answers to share at dinner
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Holiday hosting shouldn't feel like a traffic jam in your kitchen with chaos everywhere and you questioning all your life choices. You want everyone to have fun, make memories, and stay out of your way while you get the meal on the table. We're sharing 7 low-prep, high-joy Thanksgiving activities that keep everyone engaged so you can actually enjoy the day instead of just surviving it.

Stop letting Thanksgiving chaos steal your joy—hit subscribe and get easy activities that create connection without adding to your hosting stress.

Note: This is a re-aired episode with timeless Thanksgiving hosting tips. These activities work whether you're hosting 5 people or 25, and none of them require Pinterest-level planning.

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Who Should Listen

This episode is for anyone hosting Thanksgiving who wants their guests entertained and connected (without needing a degree in event planning or losing their minds in the process).

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What You Get In This Episode

• Two gratitude activities that work for shy guests and chatty ones alike (one involves candy, one becomes a keepsake)
• Quick icebreakers that get teens, grandparents, and new partners laughing together in minutes
• A clever setup trick that keeps people bonding without awkward small talk pressure
• Movement ideas that give everyone fresh air and reset energy between courses
• The seating strategy that ditches the kids' table and actually works better
• A tradition you can start this year that becomes a living record of everyone who's shared your table
• Bonus hosting hacks: cozy extras and a quick fix for your garbage disposal that'll save your sanity

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Bios

Caitlin brings her signature blend of humor and practical advice to help overwhelmed moms navigate the challenges of hosting—including Thanksgiving dinners that don't end in tears (yours or theirs). With Jenny, who brings real talk about keeping your sanity while creating memories.

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Sources & Mentions

• Check out the PureWow article on Thanksgiving activities by Emma Singer and Stephanie Sengwe
• Get the printable M&M Gratitude Game: Visit the blog post for this episode and click on the link to access the printables.
• Visit the blog post for more activities and the book that Jenny mentioned!

Donations

• Shatterproof
• First Nations Institute

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The holidays are nearly here, which means you're about to sit across from relatives with very different political views. Fun, right? Whether it's Uncle Bob bringing up the recent election or your cousin sharing hot takes nobody asked for, navigating political conversations at family gatherings is exhausting. We're sharing practical scripts, gentle redirects, and exit strategies that protect your peace without ruining dinner.

Stop dreading family gatherings because of politics—hit subscribe and get practical scripts and boundary-setting strategies that actually work (without causing drama).

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Who Should Listen

This episode is for anyone heading into the holidays with family members who have very different political views, and moms trying to keep the peace while protecting their mental health and teaching their kids healthy boundaries.

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What You Get In This Episode

• How to state boundaries before the gathering even starts
• The "tell me more" technique for finding empathy (even when it's hard)
• Scripts for asking permission to share your view without starting a fight
• How to reframe conversations toward shared goals instead of divisive politics
• Defusing tactics: humor, neutral topics, and graceful subject changes
• Planning exit strategies and partner rescue signals for when things get heated

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Bios

Caitlin brings her signature blend of humor and practical advice to help overwhelmed moms navigate the challenges of adulting—including surviving politically charged family gatherings without losing your mind. With Jenny, who brings real talk and solidarity to the chaos of modern motherhood.

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Sources & Mentions

• For links to resources mentioned in this episode, head to ckandgkpodcast.com/blog
  • An article for TIME by Angela Haupt
  • This Instagram post from Jackie Santillan @kindminds_smarthearts
• Find us on social media @CKandGKPodcast

Note: This is a re-aired episode from last year that's incredibly relevant for this holiday season. The strategies and scripts still work, and honestly, we all need the reminder.

Important reminder from this episode: Schedule your mammogram if you're due. Caitlin had a follow-up win and wants you to take care of yourself, too.

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Guess what? It’s tipping season once again. The holidays bring out this weird etiquette stress where you're supposed to know exactly who gets what—your mail carrier, hairstylist, dog walker, that random person who delivers your groceries. We're breaking down holiday tipping so you can show gratitude without the guilt or confusion (or going broke in the process).

Stop stressing about holiday tipping etiquette—hit subscribe and learn who to tip, how much to give, and budget-friendly ways to show appreciation without breaking the bank.

*Note: This is a re-aired episode from last year that's just as relevant for this holiday season. The etiquette and budget tips still apply!

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Who Should Listen

This episode is for regular people who don't have personal butlers or live-in elves, and anyone trying to navigate holiday gratitude without spiraling into financial panic or etiquette anxiety.

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What You Get In This Episode

• How to budget wisely for holiday tipping without feeling like Scrooge
• Smart strategies for showing appreciation when funds are tight (because we're all tight right now)
• Who actually expects a holiday tip (and who doesn't)
• How much to give different service providers—from mail carriers to hairstylists
• Master the art of holiday tipping and avoid the awkward "wait, should I have tipped them?" moments

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Bios

Caitlin brings her signature blend of humor and practical advice to help overwhelmed moms navigate the challenges of adulting—including the minefield of holiday tipping etiquette. She's here to make this less stressful and more manageable.

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Sources & Mentions

• The no-stress guide to holiday tipping | Fidelity
• Holiday Tipping 2023: Your Guide to Who, When, and, of Course, How Much | WSJ
• Everyone You Should Remember to Tip Over the Holidays (and How Much to Give) | Real Simple

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Ever wonder how those Spirit Halloween stores just... appear every September and vanish by November? How do they make money being open only 3 months a year? 

The origin story is wild: one guy in the 80s watched a line at a neighboring store, had an idea, and accidentally invented an entire business model. Today, we're breaking down how Spirit Halloween went from a women's clothing store experiment to a $2 billion pop-up empire—and what we can steal from their playbook.

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Who Should Listen

This episode is for anyone who loves Halloween, a good business origin story, moms looking for inspiration to try something new, and anyone who's ever walked through Spirit Halloween with their kids, wondering, "How is this a thing?"

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What You Get In This Episode

• Spirit Halloween’s origin story and how they manage to make money when they’re only around for 3 months every year
• Why Millennials and Gen Z are driving Halloween's popularity (and passing it to our kids)
• How much of Big Candy’s revenue is attributable to Caitlin and Ariella

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Bios

Caitlin brings her signature blend of humor and practical advice to help overwhelmed moms navigate the challenges of adulting—and occasionally tells you wild business stories that are equal parts entertaining and inspiring. With Ariella Monti (ariellamonti.com), novelist and author of Roots in Ink.

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Sources & Mentions

• Thank you to Daniel Murray, creator of The Marketing Millennials eNewsletter
• A National Retail Federation (NRF) survey
• @SpiritHalloween on Twitter/X

Use promo code CKANDGK for 20% off Roots in Ink at ariellamonti.com

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It's October, and you're trying to find Halloween movies that won't bore you to tears or traumatize your kids. Every family has different thresholds for "too scary," and you're looking for that sweet spot between cozy and creepy. We've done the work for you—breaking down Halloween movies by age group, sharing our childhood scares (E.T.’s fingers, anyone?), and giving you permission to skip the ones that don't work for your family.

Stop scrolling through streaming services hoping to find age-appropriate Halloween content—hit subscribe and get our curated movie list organized by age, plus hot takes on classics you might have missed.

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Who Should Listen

This episode is for parents trying to navigate Halloween movie season without causing nightmares, and anyone looking for nostalgic movie recommendations that hold up (or hilariously don't).

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What You Get In This Episode

• Why Common Sense Media ratings are guidelines, not rules—you know your kid best
• Safe, sweet picks for toddlers and littles (Curious George, Great Pumpkin Charlie Brown, Pooh's Heffalump)
• Late elementary and middle school classics (Labyrinth, Beetlejuice, Coraline, Corpse Bride)
• Actually scary picks for brave preteens (Monster House, The Witches, Goosebumps)
• Nostalgic Universal Monster Movies and 80s/90s cult favorites
• Must-watch classics for preteens and beyond (Ghostbusters, Hocus Pocus, The Addams Family)
• TV show recommendations (Super Monsters, Halloween Wars, Wednesday, Stranger Things)
• Bonus movies that aren't technically Halloween but belong on the list (Batman Returns, E.T., The Craft)
• How to build simple Halloween movie traditions without the pressure

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Bios

Caitlin brings her signature blend of humor and practical advice to help overwhelmed moms navigate the challenges of adulting and parenting—including finding Halloween movies that won't cause therapy bills. With Ariella Monti (ariellamonti.com), novelist and author of Roots in Ink, who brings her love of fantasy, creepy aesthetics, and The Crow to the conversation.

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Sources & Mentions

• 35+ Halloween movies for kids, by age | By Edward Shepard and Diva Anwari for Motherly
• Freeform's "31 Nights of Halloween" Schedule 2025
• Common Sense Media ratings referenced throughout
• The Threads fam for chiming in!

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Coming up next week: The history of Spirit Halloween and how one guy accidentally invented the seasonal pop-up business model. Subscribe so you don't miss it!

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A curated guide to ADHD creators who actually help, from parenting and relationships to practical home care

Social media is full of ADHD content, but which creators actually know what they're talking about? We're sharing the accounts that helped us get diagnosed, parent with more calm, and build systems that work when your energy is nonexistent. From compassionate home care to relationships and nutrition, these are the voices that actually move the needle.

Stop drowning in ADHD content overload—hit subscribe and get our curated list of creators, coaches, and experts who actually get it (plus how to use social media without the overwhelm).

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Who Should Listen

This episode is for anyone trying to find good ADHD resources on social media without getting sucked into algorithm hell, and parents looking for evidence-based support from people who actually understand neurodivergent brains.

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What You Get In This Episode

• Why KC Davis is our ADHD North Star (hint: it’s b/c her shame-free approach to care tasks changes everything)
• How Catie Osborne makes ADHD 101 accessible—plus her relationship and NSFW content (earbuds recommended)
• Parenting support from Dr. Carrie Jackson that won't make you feel like you're failing
• Plus, 7 additional creators we follow for bite-sized ADHD support in our feeds

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Bios

Caitlin brings her signature blend of humor and practical advice to help overwhelmed moms navigate the challenges of ADHD and adulting. With Ariella Monti (ariellamonti.com), novelist and unstoppable force who understands firsthand how ADHD affects every aspect of daily life—and writes neurodivergent characters that feel real.

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Sources & Mentions

• KC Davis / StruggleCare: https://www.strugglecare.com/
• Catie Osborne / Catieosaurus: https://catieosaurus.com/links
• Dr. Carrie Jackson: https://www.drcarriejackson.com/
• Rich and Rox / ADHD Love: https://linktr.ee/ADHD_Love
• Becca King / ADHD Nutritionist: https://www.adhdnutritionistllc.com/
• Instagram accounts mentioned: @nurtureADHD, @coachingwithBrooke, @myADHDcounselor, @sarakellyadhdcoach, @adhdweaselweekly

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Got a favorite ADHD creator we didn't mention? Reach out on Instagram or Threads—we love finding new voices worth following.

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