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In this episode of Open Book, I’m diving deep into a concept that has changed the way I see relationships, reactions, and reality: Nobody can make you feel a way you don’t already feel.

We often think we’re holding back, hiding, or people-pleasing because we fear judgment from others. But what if it’s not actually about them? What if the real fear is being seen in the exact way we’re already judging ourselves?

This episode explores:

• How life mirrors back the beliefs you already carry

• Why a “trigger” is never about the other person

• The neuroscience, metaphysics, and psychology behind emotional projection

• Why your feelings are yours and how to reclaim your power by owning them

• The difference between emotional reactions and subconscious interpretations

• How to work with the Law of Vibration and Resonance to shift your internal experience

• And how to start healing the actual wound instead of reacting to the salt someone else rubbed into it

I’ll walk you through powerful analogies to help you see that when something hurts, it’s because something inside of you is already tender.

This is a conversation about radical responsibility, emotional sovereignty, and reclaiming control over how you feel no matter what anyone else says or does.

Life is always showing you what you believe about yourself. Let’s use that mirror to grow.

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In this episode of the Open Book Podcast, Stephanie Kaplan discusses the importance of self-mastery as the foundation for improving every aspect of life—relationships, health, career, and overall fulfillment. She explains that true mastery involves understanding and managing one's emotions, beliefs, actions, self-identity, and the evidence one gathers from life experiences. Stephanie emphasizes that external circumstances do not define us; rather, it is our internal state that shapes our reality. Through mastering oneself, one can achieve an unshakeable sense of self and a fulfilling life. She shares practical insights and tools for listeners to begin their journey of self-mastery and the profound impact it can have on their lives.

The Importance of Self-Mastery02:45 

Understanding Stress and Emotions

06:12 Identifying and Changing Patterns

08:53 The Power of Beliefs and Emotions

13:44 Manifestation and Reality

17:00 Mastering Your Inner World

28:08 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

We're back and we're starting fresh. Season 2 of Open Book kicks off with a full relaunch from a completely new energy, intention, and mindset. In this episode, I take you behind the scenes of everything that’s unfolded since I launched this podcast the same day I left Corporate America and jumped into full-time entrepreneurship.

I talk life updates, the messy magic of starting a business, and what it really means to have an awakening, from my perspective around changing how you see yourself, your worth, and the reality around you.

We’ll dive into:

• What an awakening actually is (and why most people are asleep)

• The science behind your beliefs and the Reticular Activating System

• The evolution of my voice, my writing, and why this podcast is back

• How I’ve redefined success, learned to receive, and stopped outsourcing my worth

This season, expect more structure, deeper truths, real tools, and the same raw honesty. Let’s build a life of success without sacrifice and it starts by waking up.

In this episode of 'Open Book,' we return after a break to introduce a new format that integrates deeper dives into content from her Substack newsletter. The focus of this episode is the transformative power of understanding and leveraging emotions, to improve emotional IQ.

We talk about how people tend to shame, blame, or ignore their emotions which hinders personal growth. By treating emotions as data points, one can decode these signals to understand better and enhance their life experiences.

Various emotions are dissected, including fear, anxiety, disappointment, hope, anger, frustration, sadness, guilt, shame, jealousy, envy, and resentment. Each description explains what these emotions signify, their root causes, and how to appropriately address them.

The episode emphasizes the value of emotions as guides rather than obstacles and cites well-known figures like Kobe Bryant, Warren Buffett, and Oprah to reinforce the importance of emotional understanding in personal and professional success.

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In this episode, Stephanie dives deep into the concept of feeling lost and the power of perception in shaping our reality.

Inspired by a poem about the forest, she reflects on how we often feel stuck due to old belief systems, labels, and judgments that cloud our view of the present.

Stephanie emphasizes that we’re never truly lost; rather, it's our limited perspective that creates that feeling. She shares personal stories and tools for shifting mindset, understanding that our inner world shapes our experiences.

By trusting ourselves, changing our perspective, and recognizing the lessons in every moment, we can reclaim our power and find clarity.

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In this episode of "Open Book," we're diving into the intricate world of self-sabotage—a common struggle that many of us face, often without realizing it. Self-sabotage acts as a coping mechanism, a way our subconscious mind tries to shield us from failure, rejection, and embarrassment. Yet, this very mechanism holds us back from reaching our full potential.

We'll explore how self-sabotage manifests in various aspects of life, such as procrastination on important projects, repetitive patterns in romantic relationships, perfectionism, and people-pleasing. These behaviors stem from deep-seated beliefs about ourselves, our capabilities, and our worthiness.

The key to breaking free from self-sabotage lies in understanding and addressing our subconscious thoughts. We'll discuss the importance of becoming aware of these limiting beliefs and taking accountability for our actions. Healing requires self-love, putting ourselves first, and making conscious efforts to change.

Throughout this episode, you'll gain insights into the conscious versus subconscious brain dynamics and how conflicting beliefs create a loop that keeps us stuck. By identifying and reframing these core beliefs, you can align your unconscious mind with your conscious desires, ultimately moving towards a more fulfilling life.

As I celebrate my 34th birthday this week, I’ve decided to make a special episode where I share and dissect some of my favorite quotes. These quotes have given me profound insights and I want to explain how I apply them in my daily life.

Turning 34 has made me reflect on my journey, especially the past two years of personal growth and self-investment. I’ve learned to love and invest in myself continually, understanding that personal growth is an ongoing process

The quotes:

“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change” - Wayne Dyer

“Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced.” —James Baldwin

“You have to believe in yourself when no one else does.” —Serena Williams

“The most important thing is to enjoy your life—to be happy—it’s all that matters.” —Steve Jobs

“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” —Franklin D. Roosevelt

“I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” —Michael Jordan

“Confident people have a way of carrying themselves that makes others attracted to them.” —Sofia Vergara

“The more you know who you are, and what you want, the less you let things upset you.” —Stephanie Perkins

“By changing nothing, nothing changes.” —Tony Robbins

“A ship in harbor is safe, but that is not what ships are built for.” —John A. Shedd

“Make your life a masterpiece; imagine no limitations on what you can be, have or do.”  —Brian Tracy

"You know you are on the road to success if you would do your job, and not be paid for it."  — Oprah Winfrey

“You don’t have to control your thoughts. You just have to stop letting them control you.” – Dan Millman

 “The mind is like a parachute. It doesn’t work if it isn’t open.” – Frank Zappa

“Don’t be intimidated by what you don’t know. That can be your greatest strength and ensure that you do things differently from everyone else.” — Sara Blakely 

"One can choose to go back toward safety or forward toward growth. Growth must be chosen again and again; fear must be overcome again and again."  — Abraham Maslow

"The swiftest way to triple your success is to double your investment in personal development."--Robin Sharma

"Recognizing that you are not where you want to be is a starting point to begin changing your life."  — Deborah Day

"We are products of our past, but we don't have to be prisoners of it."  — Rick Warren

“The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.” – Steve Maraboli

“The only person you shouldn’t be able to live without is you.” – Unknown

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Stephanie shares her transformative practice of choosing a word to embody each year. This year's word is "unbothered," and Stephanie delves into what this truly means—not just ignoring problems, but genuinely allowing others to be themselves without letting it disturb your peace.

She explores the importance of releasing control, focusing on personal growth, and freeing up energy for self-improvement.

Stephanie discusses how our judgments and attempts to control others often reflect our own insecurities and beliefs. By shifting focus inward and addressing our own triggers, we can cultivate a more peaceful and empowered mindset. This episode emphasizes radical self-responsibility, authenticity, and the freedom that comes from letting go of the need to please others.