Open Book

In this episode of "Open Book," we're diving into the intricate world of self-sabotage—a common struggle that many of us face, often without realizing it. Self-sabotage acts as a coping mechanism, a way our subconscious mind tries to shield us from failure, rejection, and embarrassment. Yet, this very mechanism holds us back from reaching our full potential.

We'll explore how self-sabotage manifests in various aspects of life, such as procrastination on important projects, repetitive patterns in romantic relationships, perfectionism, and people-pleasing. These behaviors stem from deep-seated beliefs about ourselves, our capabilities, and our worthiness.

The key to breaking free from self-sabotage lies in understanding and addressing our subconscious thoughts. We'll discuss the importance of becoming aware of these limiting beliefs and taking accountability for our actions. Healing requires self-love, putting ourselves first, and making conscious efforts to change.

Throughout this episode, you'll gain insights into the conscious versus subconscious brain dynamics and how conflicting beliefs create a loop that keeps us stuck. By identifying and reframing these core beliefs, you can align your unconscious mind with your conscious desires, ultimately moving towards a more fulfilling life.

As I celebrate my 34th birthday this week, I’ve decided to make a special episode where I share and dissect some of my favorite quotes. These quotes have given me profound insights and I want to explain how I apply them in my daily life.

Turning 34 has made me reflect on my journey, especially the past two years of personal growth and self-investment. I’ve learned to love and invest in myself continually, understanding that personal growth is an ongoing process

The quotes:

“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change” - Wayne Dyer

“Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced.” —James Baldwin

“You have to believe in yourself when no one else does.” —Serena Williams

“The most important thing is to enjoy your life—to be happy—it’s all that matters.” —Steve Jobs

“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” —Franklin D. Roosevelt

“I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” —Michael Jordan

“Confident people have a way of carrying themselves that makes others attracted to them.” —Sofia Vergara

“The more you know who you are, and what you want, the less you let things upset you.” —Stephanie Perkins

“By changing nothing, nothing changes.” —Tony Robbins

“A ship in harbor is safe, but that is not what ships are built for.” —John A. Shedd

“Make your life a masterpiece; imagine no limitations on what you can be, have or do.”  —Brian Tracy

"You know you are on the road to success if you would do your job, and not be paid for it."  — Oprah Winfrey

“You don’t have to control your thoughts. You just have to stop letting them control you.” – Dan Millman

 “The mind is like a parachute. It doesn’t work if it isn’t open.” – Frank Zappa

“Don’t be intimidated by what you don’t know. That can be your greatest strength and ensure that you do things differently from everyone else.” — Sara Blakely 

"One can choose to go back toward safety or forward toward growth. Growth must be chosen again and again; fear must be overcome again and again."  — Abraham Maslow

"The swiftest way to triple your success is to double your investment in personal development."--Robin Sharma

"Recognizing that you are not where you want to be is a starting point to begin changing your life."  — Deborah Day

"We are products of our past, but we don't have to be prisoners of it."  — Rick Warren

“The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.” – Steve Maraboli

“The only person you shouldn’t be able to live without is you.” – Unknown

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Stephanie shares her transformative practice of choosing a word to embody each year. This year's word is "unbothered," and Stephanie delves into what this truly means—not just ignoring problems, but genuinely allowing others to be themselves without letting it disturb your peace.

She explores the importance of releasing control, focusing on personal growth, and freeing up energy for self-improvement.

Stephanie discusses how our judgments and attempts to control others often reflect our own insecurities and beliefs. By shifting focus inward and addressing our own triggers, we can cultivate a more peaceful and empowered mindset. This episode emphasizes radical self-responsibility, authenticity, and the freedom that comes from letting go of the need to please others.

Dive into this incredible episode on unlocking your most empowered life with Allie Ninfo, who is a mentor and friend.

We explore the depths of intuition and psychic development, personal transformation, purpose and life lessons, abundance mindset, manifestation and neutrality, masculine and feminine energies, soulmates, self image, energy, how thoughts become physical in the body, and so much more.

Allie Ninfo is an intuitive energetic healer who's dedicated to unlocking your unique potential and reclaiming your well-being. With over a decade of mastering intuitive skills and neuroscience, Allie guides transformations, helping individuals heal from trauma, chronic illness, and self-image issues. She's passionate about empowering others to harness intuition and universal laws to manifest their desired lives. 

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In this episode of Open Book, Stephanie Kaplan explores the concept of embodying your most magnetic self through the lens of energy dynamics and self-perception. She discusses how our internal energy, influenced by childhood beliefs and self-image, impacts our ability to attract desired outcomes. Stephanie highlights the importance of shifting from seeking external validation to fostering self-awareness and internal validation.

She introduces practical tools for observing oneself from a third-party perspective, emphasizing the role of self-perception in shaping personal interactions and achievements. Stephanie guides listeners through exercises to identify and transcend limiting beliefs, enabling them to align their energy with their aspirations. The episode encourages listeners to embrace their unique qualities and cultivate a confident, authentic presence to attract positive experiences and relationships.

This episode is all around getting curious, and the importance of questioning our beliefs and the assumptions underlying our actions.

The discussion begins with a compelling question: "Who said that?"—a prompt urging listeners to challenge the status quo and the "ultimate truth" of their ingrained beliefs. It is about embracing curiosity about why we adhere to specific behaviors and thoughts, and not to accept these at face value.

Throughout the episode, Stephanie discusses the significance of self-inquiry and how curiosity can lead to transformation. Just as a butterfly cannot see its own beauty, people often fail to recognize their own strengths and capabilities.

Start viewing life's challenges and triggers as opportunities for growth and learning, emphasizing that genuine self-discovery involves continuous reflection and adaptation. Start being the investigator of your own life through journaling, mediations, and subconscious reprogramming to shed the old layers in order to step into the new.

This is Part 2 from last week episode, Listen to episode 10 first then come listen to this one.

In this episode we go deeper into the application of the "Law of Reflections" in everyday situations. Life is one big mirror of how we are being towards ourselves. Stephanie provides tangible examples from her personal experiences that illustrate how the external events mirror our internal states and how to break this down to get the lesson and shift it.

She discusses a recent scenario involving flight upgrades to exemplify how our external environment reflects our inner feelings and beliefs. These reflections help her understand how she is treating herself in other areas of life, particularly in her career as a new business owner.

Stephanie further explores the concept of reflections in relationships and professional settings, sharing past experiences with a micromanaging boss and how changing her internal dialogue led to a shift in his behavior towards her.

The episode wraps up with insights on how people do not mirror how we treat them but rather how we treat ourselves. Stephanie emphasizes the importance of self-priority and self-care, providing a foundation for healthier external interactions.

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In this essential episode, I share the pivotal concept that revolutionized my life, initiating my spiritual awakening and demonstrating the incredible control we have over our reality.

Explore the Law of Reflections, a universal truth that our life acts as a mirror, reflecting our inner emotions and beliefs. This episode will guide you through understanding how everything around us—from people to situations—is a reflection of our internal state, teaching us what needs to shift for genuine transformation.

We'll also look at how negative self-talk and deep-seated beliefs shape our reality and how changing our internal dialogue can alter our life's path.

This episode is packed with practical advice and deep dives into how to use life's mirrors to foster self-love, increase self-worth, and move towards a more joyful and balanced life. Whether it's overcoming past trauma, breaking free from limiting beliefs, or learning to see every challenge as an opportunity, this discussion aims to empower you with the tools to not only face your reflections but to change them.

This isn't just a listen; it's a transformative experience designed to shift your perspective and enhance your journey towards self-realization and ultimate happiness.

This episode covers the profound interplay between the conscious and subconscious mind. Discover how these two facets of your brain can sometimes conflict, leading you to act on autopilot and hindering your personal growth.

We explain how outdated subconscious programming can dictate your daily life, often keeping you stuck in old patterns. Through insightful discussion, we reveal strategies for aligning your conscious desires with subconscious beliefs, allowing for transformative changes in your life.

Learn about the neural pathways that guide your habits and how to reprogram them to serve your true aspirations. Whether you’re looking to overcome limiting beliefs or simply understand your brain better, this episode offers valuable tools to start controlling the hidden aspects of your mind and unlock your full potential.