Optimal Parenting Daily

Is fear or love driving your choices?

Seems like a simple enough question, yet the answer has such an important impact in terms of how we are experiencing ourselves and our lives.

We are powerful creators. We have an abundance of choices second to second. And the inspiration behind those choices has certain consequences linked with it.

For today’s Momtra, I’m inviting us all to do some quick scans throughout the week of “Is this fear or is this love?”

Links:

Podcast with Trevor Moawad I mention in the show - https://moawadconsultinggroup.com/podcast/trevor-moawad-the-importance-of-mindset-on-short-story-long/

Coaching with me - https://www.sarahbivens.com/session

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

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Don’t you love finding your kindred spirits?

I’m so inspired with today’s episode for many reasons. It’s something different for the show - I am sharing a conversation where I was interviewed for the Motherhood Unstressed podcast with Liz Carlile.

Liz and I connected through a series of divine occurrences, and she was so gracious to have me on her show and let me share about some of my journey and lessons in life, motherhood, balance and self-love. Liz is a true goddess and warm soul. She created a powerful space in the conversation and it’s a very high energy, uplifting episode that gives you relatable action items and takeaways.

Enjoy, and be sure to check out the Motherhood Unstressed podcast!

Original show description from Motherhood Unstressed:

“Sarah Bivens has spent her adult life coaching and uplifting others, first through fitness and now in finding balance in motherhood. We talk about the wisdom she gained from her own experience of self-exploration, and how by asking yourself some key questions, you can bring in the awareness you need to become the active creator of everything you desire for your life. 

There are some amazing pearls of wisdom on this podcast and I am truly grateful for the conversation.”

Links:

Liz’s website - https://www.motherhoodunstressed.com/

Coaching with me - https://www.sarahbivens.com/session

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

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How often do you think about the past?

Probably pretty frequently, right? Whether it’s a deep dive into a previous experience or just a thought in passing, it comes up.

Well how are you relating to it? How are you classifying and categorizing these memories?

This week’s Momtra is a reminder, a tool and an awareness that we have the power to recode past situations - to take something that was once disempowering and make it empowering (and to be mindful that the opposite can happen as well).

Links:

Coaching with me - https://www.sarahbivens.com/session

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

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What are you reading right now?

I recently got back on the fiction-reading train, inspired by my shiny new library card. And through the course of my book devouring, I was particularly moved by “The Red Tent” by Anita Diamant. 

There are so many powerful themes throughout the book from spirituality, religion, menstruation, sexuality, birth, and more. I wanted to bring some of that energy to the Balance and Motherhood space and share some of the big takeaways I got and powerful quotes from the story. But don’t worry, if you haven’t read it or aren’t familiar, I give some background and context (without spoiling, if you do plan on reading it!). 

Links:

Coaching with me - https://www.sarahbivens.com/session

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

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Why do we spend time and energy and share our precious ideas and possibilities with people and/or environments that don’t support or appreciate it?

In today’s Momtra - I’m rounding out my unofficial series of recent momtras on “what NOT to do” and reminding all of us to quit dropping our seeds on concrete. In other words, stop trying to plant our desires in places that don’t add to the energy.

Let’s aim instead for sharing amongst others who will champion our progress. Like fertile soil or a womb space, they will be a part of the co-creative process to manifest whatever it is we are envisioning. And to bring it forth in a powerful and loving way. Simply because they are in the vibration and frequency to do so.

Links:

Coaching with me - https://www.sarahbivens.com/session

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

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Have you seen the Frida commercial about real postpartum that’s been getting some attention lately?

Creators of FridaBaby and FridaMom, with parenting product favorites like the snot-sucking NoseFrida, recently released a commercial highlighting their postpartum care products like an upside down peri bottle. The ad has sparked up attention. For one, not being accepted to run during the Oscars 2020 airing. But more importantly, in my opinion, for the conversation it brings up around the realness of the postpartum experience.

So for today’s episode, I’m sharing a conversation that my husband Matthew and I had originally for the Doing It At Home podcast (an empowering birth show that we host together). We sat down and shared our reactions to watching the ad and some of what we see coming out of it.

And just to be clear, Frida is in no way affiliated with or sponsoring either episode. I’m so grateful to them and their mission (“Preparing parents for the unfiltered realities of parenthood with simple-yet-genius solutions that get the job done.” as it reads on their website) and want to bring relevant content like this to our community. Enjoy!

Links:

Frida’s website: https://fridababy.com/

Coaching with me - https://www.sarahbivens.com/session

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

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Do you ever downplay an accomplishment or something you’re excited about, for fear of how it might make someone else feel or react?

Now, I don’t typically craft Momtra episodes in the spirit of “don’t do something…” But I’m willing to break pattern for this one. Because one thing I most definitely do not want you to do is downplay or hide your joy. So stop it! Quit! Embrace it and share it - unfiltered and uncensored!

Links:

Coaching with me - https://www.sarahbivens.com/session

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

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How do you prepare for something that you want to create, have or experience?

Today’s episode is inspired by one of my top resources for meditation and self-reflection: Abraham Hicks (link below for you to check out my favorite recording). I’m applying one of Abraham’s concepts to the BAM space. 

Be ready to be ready to be ready. In other words, the process of the thing that you want, begins now. Take the time and energy to match yourself with the vibration (the frequency, the energy, the visualization) of the manifestation (coming to fruition, the actualization). 

Because if we skip this process, we might find ourselves less than interested or even resentful of the thing we once longed for. The whole “be careful what you wish for” trap.

Listen in and set yourself up for sustainability and feeling worthy of your creations.

Links:

My favorite Abraham Hicks recording - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3RZ8n86CmJg

Coaching with me - https://www.sarahbivens.com/session

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

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Have you compared your problems to someone else’s lately?

Today’s Momtra is another tool in the prevention and reduction of the effects of the dreaded comparison bug.

What if, instead of judging ourselves when we look at others’ problems (or the perceived lack thereof), we focus instead on increasing our ability to manage our challenges? Because in my experience, that’s really what makes the difference in someone’s experience of their life and the inevitable opportunities that come with it -- how effective you are at managing the stuff that comes up. 

Links:

Coaching with me - https://www.sarahbivens.com/session

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

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Is Valentine’s Day a big deal for you?

Whether it is or isn’t, you’re going to want to listen to this. Because this is about a gift for your partner that stands the test of time, regardless of any holiday. 

No, I promise this isn’t an ad for some “as seen on tv” product. 

Just trust me, and listen. 

Links:

Coaching with me - https://www.sarahbivens.com/session

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

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