Optimal Parenting Daily

Do you ever feel like you’re responsible for your child’s emotions?

I know I’ve felt this. Like her emotional state means something about my parenting. So I’m diving into that in today’s Monday Momtra episode - to remind myself that I’m not the manager. Instead, I’m a space holder and guide.

I RARELY touch on a “parenting” topics on the show. But I feel like this is an important conversation that ties in with how we see ourselves and take care of ourselves. Also how we look at emotions and how we cope with our own sh**. 

Links:

Coaching with me - https://www.sarahbivens.com/session

Orgasmic Mama - https://orgasmic-mama.teachable.com/p/orgasmic-mama/

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

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Why can there be so much discord amongst mothers, and then between mom and non-moms?

In today’s episode, I felt inspired to unpack some of the conversation around things we’ll think or say to one another when we ourselves are in places of stress, frustration, resentment or exhaustion. It’s very likely that all of us have been on both the giving and receiving end of projected fears or unhelpful comments. So how can we be more aware of that and get back to a centered place?

I believe all of our experiences are valid. There is beauty and necessity in the uniqueness and variation in which we all choose to have (or not have) children and how we parent them. Moms need each other. And moms and non-moms need each other. Inspired by a recent post on Instagram I saw (and liked) as well as various conversations I’ve had or observed, these are my thoughts on how we balance and honor our different perspectives.

Links:

Coaching with me - https://www.sarahbivens.com/session

Orgasmic Mama - https://orgasmic-mama.teachable.com/p/orgasmic-mama/

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

PsychedMommy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/psychedmommy

Post Inspiration - https://www.instagram.com/p/B3IAY9HgQJE/

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Who doesn’t love to laugh?

Laughing is so therapeutic for me. So I want you to laugh as a part of the affirmation, inspiration and motivation of today’s Momtra episode.

I’m sharing a few funny moments from my life of motherhood and marriage. Maybe you can relate or maybe it makes you think about some of your own funny moments as you carry them with you throughout the week.

Links:

Coaching with me - https://www.sarahbivens.com/session

Orgasmic Mama - https://orgasmic-mama.teachable.com/p/orgasmic-mama/

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

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Would you say you have a healthy relationship with your in-laws?

I’ve received a number of requests to do an episode on in-laws, and it’s finally here! I’m sharing some of my observations and some tools that I believe can help in clarifying expectations and improving understanding and communication within these family dynamics.

When in-laws or family members are negative or add stress to a situation - do we distance ourselves? Do we let it go? How much should we talk about it with our spouses when something is bothering us? This is a juicy one!

Links:

My course for communication in your relationship - https://orgasmic-mama.teachable.com/p/create-a-plan-for-successful-communication-in-your-relationship-in-just-5-days

Coaching with me - https://www.sarahbivens.com/session

Orgasmic Mama - https://orgasmic-mama.teachable.com/p/orgasmic-mama/

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

7 Habits of Highly Effective People - https://www.franklincovey.com/the-7-habits.html

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Do you feel #momenough?

In this episode, I’m continuing some of the energy from our last episode and giving you a Momtra to take you through the week - YOU ARE MOM ENOUGH. 

I think we all need reminders that help us affirm our worthiness. So please, let this episode support you in owning your enough-ness.

Links:

Coaching with me - https://www.sarahbivens.com/session

Orgasmic Mama - https://orgasmic-mama.teachable.com/p/orgasmic-mama/

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

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Who doesn’t love a good rant?

Well I’m bringing it for ya today. A fresh mini rant for ya after a conversation that triggered some anger and frustration within me around my status as a mother - whether I’m “legit” enough as a mom.

But it’s a healthy rant - because I’ve processed and moved through towards the other side. The other side of a rant has a name, and that name is “Gratitude.” Yep. Starting high and revved up, ending low and peaceful. Oh, and I cry a little bit - won’t tell you during which part though, you’ll just have to listen.

Links:

Coaching with me - https://www.sarahbivens.com/session

Orgasmic Mama - https://orgasmic-mama.teachable.com/p/orgasmic-mama/

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

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Hey, you. Yes, you. Just want to remind you that you’re awesome and you’ve got this and that you’re a shining bright light of magic and possibility.

I was inspired by an event I attended this weekend - Push Thru, Mama 2019 here in Atlanta. I had the honor of emceeing and hosting a session on orgasmic motherhood. And the whole concept behind the event and brand of my friend Keisha Reaves, therapist, mother and entrepreneur, is about “pushing thru.” 

So that’s what I want to talk about in today’s Momtra episode. What does it look like for you to “push thru?” What’s an example of a time you’ve done it? What do you need support in pushing thru right now? Let that be your affirmation, inspiration and motivation through this week!

Links:

Keisha Reaves’s Website - https://keishareaves.com/

Push Thru Box (use the code FALL2019 for 25% off while supplies last!) - https://keishareaves.com/shop/

Push Thru Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/pushthrubox/

DIAH episode with Keisha - https://diahpodcast.libsyn.com/176-home-birth-story-ppd-infant-loss-infertility-and-transitioning-into-motherhood-with-keisha-reaves-lpc

Orgasmic Mama - https://orgasmic-mama.teachable.com/p/orgasmic-mama/

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

 

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Ever use the phrase - “It is what it is”

In today’s episode, I’m unpacking some of my experience with that phrase and how in the past I would say it...but not really believe it, and would basically be using it as a bandaid or an excuse to stay pissed off or in a space of judgment about something.

So how do we create a powerful mindset around things that pop up in our lives? How do we stop turning “situations” into “SHITuations”?

I’m holding the stance for all of us to be badass goddesses, in the center of ourselves and owning our possibilities. Let’s have some fun!

Links:

Marigold App, use the code SARAHB50 - https://www.marigold.co/

The Bloomi, use the code SARAH10 - https://thebloomi.com/

Orgasmic Mama - https://orgasmic-mama.teachable.com/p/orgasmic-mama/

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

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Have you ever apologized for your vagina - what it looks like, smells like, sounds it makes, things that come out of it???

Well I have, and I’m done with that sh**. This episode was inspired by recent events that brought up some old feelings of guilt and shame around my yoni. So I’m taking that and shifting that energy into something that empowers and inspires. 

So it’s Momtra on a Tuesday - because there’s some other exciting news that I’m sharing about the launch of a project that I was able to be a part of. Listen in and check the links with the episode to learn more!

Links:

Marigold App, use the code SARAHB50 - https://www.marigold.co/

The Bloomi, use the code SARAH10 - https://thebloomi.com/

Orgasmic Mama - https://orgasmic-mama.teachable.com/p/orgasmic-mama/

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

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Ready to jam out?

I’m doing something really fun and different on the podcast today. I’m playing DJ! I have the honor of sharing the music of 3D The Boss, a health and fitness pop group based out of Atlanta, Ga (and just so happen to be part of my chosen life family).  

Their music is high energy, conscious and uplifting. And it has a “get funky, shake yo ass around the house naked” vibe that I think mamas can get down with. So I want this week’s Momtra episode to be an opportunity for you to have an epic jam out session - in the car, in the shower, at home in your bedroom...wherever and however. But move that body, let out some energy and enJOY!

And be sure to check out 3D The Boss’s website to hear more of their music and learn about their unique stance on music and health and fitness. 

Links:

3D The Boss - https://www.3dtheboss.com/

Communication Course - https://www.sarahbivens.com/communication

Orgasmic Mama - https://orgasmic-mama.teachable.com/p/orgasmic-mama/

My website - https://www.sarahbivens.com/

My Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahmbivens/

My Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahbivenslifestylecoach/

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