Own Your Revival

***This episode discusses divorce as it relates to children along with other adult-themed conversation so please exercise caution listening with young ones nearby.

This episode is a love note from Andy's heart to yours if you (or someone you love) are staring down the barrel of a possible separation (or divorce) you do not want. Not all faithful Catholics who experience divorce have simply chosen to walk away from the vow as some suggest, but may instead be living with the consequences of the other spouse's decision to dissolve the marriage. To further complicate the issue, many are silently struggling in marriages to avoid judgement over choosing to stay with the spouse when those close to you discover the depth of the destructiveness. Not knowing where to turn for support, and with the hope of restoring the marriage paramount, can lead to more confusion and isolation. Therefore, think of this episode as a safe place to curl up and be loved on in this broken place. Grab a cup of coffee and curl up in your favorite spot with Andy as she shares four things to consider and pray about to better discern God's will in carrying your cross.

Mentioned on this episode:

[00:08:29] Divorce you don't want.

[00:09:30] Not wanting to be divorced is different than wanting to stay married.

[00:14:30] Fidelity in sacramental marriage.

[00:20:25] Destructive marriages and seeking help.

[00:24:26] Discovering personal likes and dislikes.

[00:28:31] Decree of Nullity.

[00:32:29] Love and boundaries in relationships.

[00:37:02] Breaking generational cycles.

Being Human - Episode 143: Is it wrong to separate from my spouse?

Own Your Revival- Episode 13: [divorce] When do you know it's time to leave?

Additional Resources:

Domestic Violence Support | National Domestic Violence Hotline

When I Call for Help: A Pastoral Response to Domestic Violence Against Women | USCCB

Did Jesus say Adultery is grounds for divorce?

Journal prompts:

What outward signs could you look for in your spouse's behavior that would reflect he/she is choosing the marriage?

What choices would both honor your vow and allow you to tend to your emotional, physical, spiritual, financial, etc. needs?

What support would help you be more transparent with your spouse about your concerns for the marriage?

How is the way you are addressing the concerns in your marriage (and possible separation/divorce) forming your children's understanding of relationship?

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Episode 18

What story is the enemy of your soul trying to get you to believe about who you really are? When you feel the arrows of accusation, shame, and fear hit you, how do you respond? On today's solo show, Andy calls in a little help from Marian the Librarian from the "Once Upon A Time" show (circa 70's and 80's for those who may remember her on PBS) to walk listeners through a practical approach to get to the root of the desolation and the feelings attached to it to be able to bring it to the divine physician. This episode is all about encouraging + empowering you to stop hustling for your worth and be able to truly get real with God about where you are right now in the midst of this messy thing called life.

Mentioned on this episode:

[00:01:01] Working through spiritual desolations.

[00:06:23] Letting Jesus love you

[00:12:46] The devil's storytelling tactics.

[00:14:58] Trusting God's love.

[00:23:23] Feeling prayer and healing.

[00:25:21] Get real with God.

"Once Upon A Time" on PBS

The Feeling Prayer – www.andyarbie.com/prayer

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Episode 17 with Scotty Sullivan

In this episode, we have the pleasure of hearing from Scotty Sullivan, a dynamic and passionate individual who has a heart for working with teens. Scotty shares his journey from teaching sixth grade to becoming a campus minister at Pius X Catholic high school. He also discusses his own discernment process, including a period of considering the priesthood. Scotty's insights and experiences shed light on how parents can foster a strong relationship with Christ in their teens without turning them off. Join us as we delve into this important topic and gain valuable wisdom from Scotty's perspective.

Mentioned on this episode:

[00:00:19] Building up the domestic church.

[00:09:40] Choosing faith over fitting in.

[00:12:43] Leaving seminary and finding freedom.

[00:17:14] Discerning in and discerning out.

[00:19:42] Young adult group with the diocese.

[00:24:05] Finding Truth in Catholic Faith. [00:28:00] Fostering a strong relationship with Christ [00:31:21] Faith and raising children. [00:35:44] The TEC Retreat [00:42:11] Numbness towards faith. [00:45:57] The power of inspiration. [00:49:37] Teens exploring different faiths. [00:56:11] Hard conversations with kids. [01:00:26] Visualizing prayer with images. [01:04:17] The glass elevator.

Formation Resources discussed:

Totus Tuus Summer Camps Teens Encounter Christ (TEC) Retreats 2023 – 2024 Lincoln Diocese

Salt + Light Catholic Young Adult Community

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Are you ready to dive into a transformative journey towards deepening your relationship with the Holy Spirit? Curious about how to navigate the beautiful yet challenging journey of being a young mom while staying strong in your Catholic faith? Excited to learn some invaluable insights into marriage counseling and fostering a love that lasts? If so, this episode with my special guest, Tori Harris Gray, is for YOU. Join us as she shares her wisdom and experiences around the following:

✅ Deepen your connection with the Holy Spirit.

✅ Gain practical tips for navigating the challenges of young motherhood.

✅ Discover the keys to maintaining a strong Catholic identity in today's world.

✅ Explore the graces found as a result of investing in marriage counseling through Tori's eyes.

Get ready to be inspired, uplifted, and armed with valuable insights that will propel you on your spiritual journey and beyond.

Mentioned on this episode:

00:07:11 Life slows down as kids grow.

00:12:56 Marriage requires constant work.

00:13:25 Effective communication is relationship-changing.

00:19:40 Get curious and be helpful

00:26:13 Embrace vulnerability for deeper relationships.

00:31:00 Importance of community in relationships.

00:40:00 Finding balance in relationships.

00:44:54. Growing in relationship with the Holy Spirit is the quest of our life.

00:49:00 Hearing God's voice in prayer.

00:54:00 Listen to the voice within.

01:03:00 Finding grace in motherhood.

01:07:50 God's love is unconditional.

01:12:20 Embrace imperfection, trust the process.

Connect with our guest, Tori Harris Gray:

· Website: www.toriharris.com

· Find her book: Holy Spirit 101

· Listen to her music: Tori Harris

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Are you feeling like your boundaries are being ignored? Does it seem like you keep saying the same thing over and over again with no different result? Chances are it may be a crossed wire between making a request vs. setting a boundary. If you've been riding a relational rollercoaster feeling out of control and craving more predictability in your life, today's episode is for you. Tune in to hear how you can shift your mindset + communication to be able to meet your needs and experience more peace and joy in your life.

Mentioned on this episode:

2 words that will transform your relationships – Episode 3 Own Your Revival (willing and able)

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Today's episode digs in to a real-life application of how to right-order your heart + mind after verbal and/or emotional abuse using Rule 6 in the Discernment of Spirits. Join Andy as she walks you through this process of uncovering truth and regaining your equilibrium to step into the full power of who God made you to be as a beloved daughter (or son) to experience more JOY, peace and purpose as you find the strength to stand.

00:00:40 Tools for untangling verbal/emotional issues. 00:09:58 Importance of truth and trust. 00:20:37 Unravel verbal and emotional abuse. 00:21:06 Apply truth and self-reflection.

Resources:

Free Feeling Prayer Guide by Andy Arbie

Discernment of Spirits book by Fr. Timothy Gallagher Discernment of Spirits – Rule 6 podcast with Fr. Timothy Gallagher

Signs of an Emotionally Abusive Relationship

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Whether you are in a bad marriage asking the question, "When do I know it's time to leave?" or walking with someone who is, this episode is an invitation to consider your marriage in a different way to hopefully gain more awareness, clarity and discernment about God's will provided it is safe and prudent to do so. Join Andy as she shares from the Emotionally Destructive Marriage by Leslie Vernick, author and licensed clinicial social worker, on the three different categories of bad marriages (marriages that struggle) and what can make it difficult to address and/or leave a destructive marriage. While it's true faithful Catholics must teach God's plan for marriage + family, it's also true the faithful divorced need a soft place to land to be wrapped in the loving embrace of Christ and his church. Our hope is that this episode is a safe place to peer into heart of what the divorced may be going through to support them when endings become necessary for grave reasons.

[00:07:03] Three categories of "bad" based on The Emotionally Destructive Marriage.

[00:11:28] Reimagining life after divorce.

[00:14:12] Marriage challenges and difficulties.

[00:20:39] Trauma responses to bad things

[00:24:10] Trauma bonds and their effects.

[00:30:10] Setting boundaries and self-care.

Resources:

The Emotionally Destructive Marriage by Leslie Vernick

National Domestic Abuse Hotline 1-800-799-7233

When I call for help: A Pastoral Response to Domestic Violence Against Women (USCCB) How to recognize and break trauma bonds (Healthline)

Cycle of Abuse: Understanding the 4 Parts (Healthline)

Quotes:

"Divorce is like open-heart surgery while wide awake on the table with no anesthesia unsure everything will be put back together where it belongs." Unknown

"The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference." Elie Wiesel

"The opposite of love is not hate, it's use." St. John Paul II

"Our hearts are restless until they rest in you." St. Augustine, The Confessions.

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Have you ever wondered what to bring on a silent retreat? Listen in today as Andy shares her top 10 list of what to take to get the most out of a silent Ignatian retreat after doing a number herself. From the creature comforts to the practical prayer supports, Andy shares the ways she sets herself up to enter the silence with Jesus and come home renewed + refreshed on the other side.

Mentioned on this episode:

The Feeling Prayer (guide + audio download) free at www.andyarbie.com/prayer.

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How are you with the times in between where you are at the moment and where you want to be? This episode digs in to the rich fruit on the tree when perfection is released and a season of preparation is embraced in your life. How well do you do the "off season" in your own life? Andy illuminates this concept through the lense of owning a home, and whether you own one or not, this episode is sure to provide valuable insights on taking ownership of your life and making intentional choices for your future.

[00:01:32] Seasons of preparation.

[00:18:08] Creating Leverage in Life.

[00:22:29] Clearing and cutting.

[00:26:49] Prioritizing what's important.

[00:31:15] The Feeling Prayer.

Mentioned on this episode:

3 questions to think about your thinking:

1. What can you tackle this year that your future self will thank you for?

2. What needs to be cleared and cut back in order to make room for what you truly want?

3. What will you choose not to invest your time, money and energy into this year to stay focused on what matters most?

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If you care for your mental health like money in the bank, then this episode is for you. It offers something special in dealing with attempts to hook you in to crazy making and character assassinations in high conflict situations. Join Andy as she unpacks lessons from a dear life coach around the peace that is available when we take custody of our words, communication and responses to stay connected to truth and not be swept away with circular arguments. How do we live the great command to love God, our neighbor and even our enemies? Must we tolerate verbal + emotional abuse and be nice to be a "good" Christian? Tune in to hear more.

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