Parenting Decoded

Kids being bullied isn't new.  What's new is the extent at which they are being bullied and, with the internet, in new and harmful ways.  

In this episode, we'll cover the different types of bullying:
Verbal - teasing, name-calling, taunting, etc.,
Social - spreading rumors, leaving kids out, embarrassing them, etc.
Physical - hitting, spitting, tripping, etc. 
Cyberbullying - using digital devices to cause others harm

Why does bullying occur?

What can families do?

How you can role-play and brainstorm with your child.  

Here are resources referenced in the podcast that are also on the transcript that is available and on my website blog:

• https://router-network.com/education/anti-bullying-guide
• https://kidshealth.org/en/parents/bullies.html
• https://www.pacer.org/bullying/
• https://www.stopbullying.gov/

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Do you have an anxious child?   Does it worry you or drive you crazy?  Either way you need to listen to this podcast!

Learn about the 4 different types of anxiety, then the 4 parenting traps that we fall into when we attempt to "help" that wind up having negative impacts.

• Being over reassuring
• Swooping in/Jumping in too soon
• Allowing avoidance
• Being too tough or critical

In this podcast, hear from Stephanie Pinto, founder of Let’s Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids and author of the best-selling book From Chaos to Connection.   We talk about how parents can support their kids who have anxiety. 

Find Stephanie and her resources at www.Stephaniepinto.com. She’s amazing!

Here’s a link to her FACEBOOK and INSTAGRAM if you’d like to follow her. 

Email me at [email protected] or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com. 

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Today with the launch of the Barbie movie and so much emphasis on selfies and having perfect bodies, it's worth considering how we help out the millions of kids who aren't "perfect". 

In this episode I interview Pam Luk, Founder of Ember & Ace, a clothing brand for plus-sized kids.  We talk about how to support our kids both socially and emotionally as well as how we as parents need to tamp down our own feelings about perfection that harm our kids in emotional ways that hurt more than help.

Here is a link to Ember & Ace if you'd like to take a peek at their offerings and learn more about them:
https://www.emberandace.com/

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What do you with kids who are wired differently?   Who might be on the spectrum (ADHD, Asperger's, OCD, etc.)?  Maybe they've had a diagnosis, maybe you just can see they are off the charts brilliant and some things but a total failure at socializing with kids their age. 

If you have such challenges with your kids,  take a listen to Sam Young of Young Scholars Academy in this episode as he explains how his online community for neurodivergent and gifted children works.  He brings a strength-based approach to getting our kids to connect in healthy, positive ways while learning at the same time.   Lots of topics for kids to connect in small group classes with mentors who help them connect while teaching.  What a concept, like minded-students can finally find "their people"!

Young Scholars Academy can be found at YOUNG SCHOLARS ACADEMY.

A list of their classes for FALL 2023 is at FALL 2023 COURSES.  If you listen and need this link after Fall 2023,  just go to the main website and choose "Courses" from the main menu.

For anyone listening, there's a special discount of 15% off any classes booked for first-time students! 

Use Code: YSAPARENTINGDECODED15

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Some kids seem to be born not caring where stuff is.  They rely on us to find things and if we can't find them they blame US!  Yikes! 

This episode gives you ideas about how to let go of the responsibility for items in our kids lives that should be THEIRS but seem to have become OURS.  

Learn how to keep a calm head as we turn over the job of owning "stuff" back to our kids in loving ways.  

Step 1: Turn off the "mom finder" that enables kids lack of responsibility 
Step 2: Learn how to Brainstorm solutions

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Most parents seem to get hit with this at some point in our parenting journey.  It can start at around 6-7 months and usually goes away gradually throughout early childhood.  But… sometimes we’re just put to the test with separation issues and we wish someone would let us know what’s normal, what’s extreme and give us some ideas about what to do.

In this podcast we have Jessica O’Connor, LMFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist to help step us through ideas in dealing with separation at different ages and stages.

For more details about separation anxiety and what do to:
LINK TO BLOG FOR PODCAST 56

To reach Jessica O'Connor:
www.jessicaoconnor.org

Lastly,  if you are having issues in dealing with yourself or your child please reach out to the 24/7 National Helpline for Substance abuse and mental health services administration 1-800-662-HELP (4357).

Email me at [email protected] or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com. 

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Listen to Heath Wilson, co-founder of Aro, talk about their innovative technology that helps families develop good screen habits in a positive and fun way. 

There's a smart tech "box" to hold your devices when families decide to have non-tech time and an app that will track how long technology has been in the box.  It's the complete opposite of our normal "get off your device" that many families fight about now,! This is more like: "hey, how fun to see how long you been off your device" twist! 

You can use the app to have contests with both adults and kids and even track what you were doing while your devices have been in the box.  So cool! 

Here's a link :  GOARO.COM

I have a few other podcasts mentioned that can help parents looking for more info in dealing with screen time :
Podcast 11: Screen Time Issues - Part 1 
                            ages preschool through elementary
Podcast 12: Screen Time Issues - Part 2
                           ages middle to high school
Podcast 44:  Screen Time Struggles 
                           how to deal with screen addictions with Emily Cherkin

Email me at [email protected] or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com. 

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There are so many pressures we face as parents but one of the most challenging can be managing our own parents when it comes to gifting to their grandkids.  It's enough to drive some of us crazy!

In this episode we'll talk about the types of interference we might be dealing from our family values being over run to dealing with huge amounts of clutter that we have to organize not to how too many toys can interfere with creativity in our kids.  Take a listen to hear more possible issues.  

What can you do? 
Start by having Family meetings with your parents and in-laws.  COMMUNICATE!  
Set clear boundaries and offer ideas of what you'd like to see happen.  Be willing to compromise and, again, communicate with those you love.

Ideas for gifts they can give:

• The gift of time from movie passes to tickets to museums or water parks
• Lessons - music, art, karate, whatever!
• Donations to a college or savings fund
• Coupon Book made by the grandparents with fun events from sleep overs to paint your nails
• Lots of other ideas when you listen!

Materials mentioned in the podcast about too many toys and kids:
Psychology Today Article
Today's Parent Article

TRANSCRIPT

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When you have a child who refuses to read or is delayed in their reading compared to their peers it can be a very stressful time for parents as we try to navigate the what-to-dos and the why-is this-happening-to-my-child thoughts that constantly run through our minds.  The same stress can hit us when our kids don’t want to write and then again if they start falling into the “I hate school” mode which really tears us up. 

Having learning differences can contribute heavily to this stressful time but knowing what to do and what resources you can employ in your home and in child’s school environment can make a huge difference. 

This is why I’ve interviewed Dr. Victoria Waller on this podcast, to provide you with ideas for getting to those resources that your child needs. She’s recently released her book YES! Your Child Can: Creating Success for Children with Learning Differences in which she’s poured her 40 years of experience working with and studying learning differences in children.  It’s an invaluable resource and I want you to all know about it. 

Take a listen to hear amazing ideas of how to creatively activate the passions of our kids to ignite their abilities to learn.  Also find out how to engage teachers and tutors to help leverage those passions to get your child onto a path of success.

Here's a link to order the book:  YES!  Your Child Can

If you'd like to contact Dr. Waller:  Website

Email me at [email protected] or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com. 

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In this third installment of my manners series we discuss how to train your kids to chew their food with their mouths closed.  It can be a challenge but with some consistency, love and a bit of fun and games it's possible to move your kids into the social graces. 

There are two books for younger kids that might come in handy:
“How Dinosaurs Eat Their Food” by Jane Yolen
“Dinner with Olivia” by Emily Sollinger

Here's a copy of the TRANSCRIPT on my website.

Also,  feel free to email me with other questions -- [email protected].

Email me at [email protected] or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com. 

Have a blessed rest of your day!