Parenting Decoded

In this podcast learn how to deal with disrespect in your home by teaching and modeling respect while keeping calm. 

The truth is, disrespectful behavior is one of the inappropriate ways kids, especially teenagers but not limited to teens, try to solve their problems. Kids can feel powerless in the face of rules and expectations and talking back and showing disrespect is one way they try to take some power back. If they can drag you into an argument, that’s even better: Now you’re arguing about respect instead of focusing on their curfew or their homework or cleaning up their toys!

Listen in on how to tame the disrespect monster:

1. Avoid the Fight in the Moment

2. Use Family Meetings

3. Don’t Take Everything Personally or Overreact

4. Model respect

5. Don’t Take Our Child’s Side

6. Don’t Demand Respect

7. Respect Their Choices

8. Use Restitution

FULL TRANSCRIPT ON MARY'S BLOG

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Life isn’t fair it never has been.  How we deal with life is what matters.  In this episode learn how you can nurture an understanding of fairness in your child's life as well as ideas on how you can respond to unfairness.

We want our kids to be able to:

• Let them know it's ok to express their emotions when life is unfair
• Encourage them to give praise to others when things aren't fair
• Help them continue with life when things aren't fair
• Have them lead by Example, using grace and humility, when unfairness hits them
• Support them learning from the opportunity when fairness happens

For a full transcript look here:  TRANSCRIPT

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In this podcast I cover a few things.  First, what do bad teachers look like?  How do they behave? Next, what can you do about it as a parent and, lastly, what can your child do about making it through the year in once piece having learned what they need to. 
Three types of bad teachers:
Fluffy - ones that are nice but don't teach the material
Boring - ones that put you to sleep they are so uninspiring
Mean - ones that yell and are just plain mean; they might have favorites in the class and spend all their time with them; they might get mad at kids who don't understand

In the podcast I go over a step-by-step approach on what to do.  Read the transcript listed below if you'd like more details. 
1 - Wait and See while doing research
2 - Communicate with the school

• Start with meeting the teacher and discussing the issues
• If needed, escalate to a combo meeting with the principal and the teacher
• If your lone parent concerns aren't addressed then gather together a group of parents to go collectively to meet with the administration

3 - Teach your child ways to cope with the bad teacher

• encourage them to approach the teacher and ask for help
• augment their learning in whatever way makes sense - online, tutors, study groups
• be there!  empathize! love them through it

Julie Plagens at Mom Remade's article: 
https://momremade.com/survive-bad-teacher/

FULL TRANSCRIPT HERE

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In this episode I talk with Dr. Weisinger about their approach of transforming harmful parental pressure into healthy pressure.    He has just released a new book with Dr. Christopher Thurber, The Unlikely Art of Parental Pressure: A Positive Approach to Pushing Your Child to Be Their Best Self. This book provides a roadmap for parents to engage in healthy pressure with our kids, ways that will help them grow and succeed instead of stifle and crush them.  

We, as parents, often struggle with kids who we think aren’t trying their hardest and we want to push harder.  We know they can do more.   It’s a natural instinct to push but in today’s world it seems like we can go too far and wind up doing more harm than good.  

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Do you have a kid who is always seeking attention?  They are pulling on you, saying “Mommy, mommy, watch me!”  Or maybe they try to one up anyone just to make themselves look bigger or better than others.  Maybe they’ll even make things up to do that?

In this episode you'll learn why your kids are acting that way and how to bring new skills into the mix so you can work with them in a positive way so they go from annoying to adorable. 

Take a listen!

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FULL TRANSCRIPT HERE

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In this episode Mary interviews author Elaine Taylor-Kraus from ImpactParents about her new book: The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids with ADHD, Anxiety and More

This guide gives all parents a guide in how to best help their children overcome their challenges in healthy, loving and practical ways. 

Whether or not you have a child who has been diagnosed with ADHD, anxiety, Asperger’s, any other executive function issues or you’re just worried that your child is out of step with their peers, please listen in for some great advice on how her book can help you in your journey. Personally, I think we all have complex kids and can learn from Elaine’s wisdom. 

She also discusses her parenting class that is a combination of online learning and coaching sessions called Sanity School that is a great compliment to her new book.  

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In this episode learn how to get to the heart of your child and teach them how to apologize. 
Learn how to:
1 - Wait till the emotion has passed
2 - Brainstorm with your child to encourage ideas of how the apology can work for them
3 - If their hearts won't melt then allow consequences of their poor decision to not apologize guide them to make better choices. 

Did your parents ever force you to apologize? Did it really make you feel sorry? I’m guessing that, like me, you probably just felt worse, felt embarrassed and it made you even more mad at whatever/whomever caused you to be rude in the first place. 

Apologies are really important, however; what we want is for the heart of our kid to change, to have them understand that their behavior was unacceptable and caused hurt in another human being.  In this podcast are some ideas that might be more effective at changing your child's heart instead of just forcing them through the motions of an insincere “I’m sorry.”

See TRANSCRIPT HERE. 

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In this episode we’ll talk about how to get our older kids, teens and tweens, to experience the bigger picture stuff and expose them to some of the messiness of life in a loving, supportive environment where they might even mess up some.  Everything from chores they should know how to do on their own to handling money, cars and how to get a part time job.  I’ll talk about planning vacations in addition to how to handle routine paperwork and cooking.  It’s sort of a laundry list of items I think any parent should consider when training your kids for the future.  

 Here's a list of topics that are covered:
Laundry
Cooking
Cleaning House
Yard work
Painting
Money
Filling out forms
Getting a part-time job
Keeping track of time
Vacation planning
Car driving, care and maintenance

SEE FULL TRANSCRIPT HERE

If you have questions, email Mary at [email protected].

Email me at [email protected] or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com. 

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Understanding how a person perceives love is essential for knowing how to communicate  love to them.  In this interview I'm so happy to have Bec and Holly who have a podcast called ILoveYouTooMuchToArgue  to explain what Love Languages are and how to use them in your family. 

Five Love Languages are:
Acts of Service
Gifts
Words of Affirmation
Physical Touch

Take the free online quiz!


Find Holly and Bec anywhere you listen to podcasts and you can contact them at [email protected] or on their Instagram page - @ILoveYouTooMuchtoArguePodcast

Email me at [email protected] or go to my website at www.parentingdecoded.com. 

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