Welcome to Part III of the seventh sector of our mega-series: Am I Always Going to Be Alone? Finding Your Fairytale from our ME³! podcast.

We begin by discussing how fear creates opens doors in our life to evil spirits and negative spiritual activity. Feeding fear causes it to grow stronger in us. We continue discussing how the issues of this series have their roots in dealing with fear in one form or another. In denial for instance, we are living in the fear of facing hard realities. With settling, we are afraid of never finding someone really good and ending up dying alone, or it is FOMO because we think that we have to pull the trigger now before we miss out, or it is fear of dealing with loneliness any longer. Bitterness is a reaction to the fear of being hurt again or that no one can ever actually be good for us. The illusion of fear projects false realities for us so that we mull over and over negative ideas so that we are literally visualizing bad things happening to ourselves. This is what worrying actually is. And it only sets us up for the very things we are fearing aside from wasting time that we could be focusing on something positive and productive.

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Song: My Everything by Dj Quads

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Outro song:

Title: Rattlesnake Railroad

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Welcome to Part II of the seventh sector of our mega-series: Am I Always Going to Be Alone? Finding Your Fairytale from our ME³! podcast.

We begin where we left off talking about FOMO and how it can lead into really bad decisions. The duality of fear is that it will keep you from doing things that you need/want to do that are really good for you, or it can manipulate you to run headlong into something you're not prepared for or that might just be flat-out stupid. Fear tries to pretend to be wisdom. One of the dead give-aways is that fear is always narrowing, breaking you down to fewer and fewer choices, even corralling you in to only one option - and that is the option fear wants you to choose, which leads you to your weakest and least powerful position. Fear is a strong amplifier that takes all other negative emotions and reactions and drives them into deeper darkness. Ultimately, it doesn't care if you credit it for your choices. You can react to it however you want. Fear just wants to make sure that it is the source that your reactions stem from so that all your behavior is ultimately most strongly influenced by it rather than by love, heartfelt desire, or God.

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Intro song:

Song: My Everything by Dj Quads

Music provided by: Music for Creators 

Outro song:

Title: Rattlesnake Railroad

Artist: Brett Van Donsel

Source: Soundcloud

License: Creative Commons

Promoted by Music Library: http://bit.ly/MusicLibraryYouTube

Background Music Credits:

Music provided by Lofi Geek

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Welcome to Part I of the seventh sector of our mega-series: Am I Always Going to Be Alone? Finding Your Fairytale from our ME³! podcast.

Fear is almost always somewhere at the root of all of the other issues we have talked about in this entire mega-series. It lurks in the background like an intelligent adversary, usually only coming out in disguise. It is a master of deception, pretending to be rationality and the voice of reason at our most vulnerable moments. It is the ultimate source of the majority of self sabotage. Fear functions like an asphyxiant gas in our minds, keeping us from being able to live in the moment and enjoy life. The focus of fear is always on the negative and drives us to avoidance of what we fear to the exclusion of our desires and anything positive. It considers even the potential of evil and harm to be more important than a present reality of good let alone a positive, future possibility. When we are completely in the grip of fear, we are usually obsessively forward bent in our focus as we entertain thoughts of fearful outcomes, tumbling them over and over in our mind. It can also be very complex, such as in FOMO: fear of missing out. 

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-Music Credits-

Intro song:

Song: My Everything by Dj Quads

Music provided by: Music for Creators 

Outro song:

Title: Rattlesnake Railroad

Artist: Brett Van Donsel

Source: Soundcloud

License: Creative Commons

Promoted by Music Library: http://bit.ly/MusicLibraryYouTube

Background Music Credits:

Music provided by Lofi Geek

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Welcome to Part V of the sixth sector of our mega-series: Am I Always Going to Be Alone? Finding Your Fairytale from our ME³! podcast.

We continue where we left off talking about Brandi's struggle with bitterness against herself. She didn't recognize it as the self-hatred that it was because she thought it was just keeping herself in line. One of the ways we can identify inwardly turned bitterness is if we find ourselves being hypercritical of ourselves and constantly expecting near-perfection. Another warning sign: we have a habit of negative self talk, thinking things like: "that was stupid", "stopping being so weak", "you're so awkward", "you deserved that", or "you have to be better than that" toward yourself. Bitterness can also look like just giving up and being fatalistic. For Shawn, he had to relinquish obsessively trying to self-analyze and force himself to become better and give His heart to God to heal the wounds and wrong views of himself. Often it is for lack of patience that we fall into bitterness because we finalize negative judgments over ourselves and others instead of waiting for things to work out for the good. There is always hope! Choose patience.

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-Music Credits-

Intro song:

Song: My Everything by Dj Quads

Music provided by: Music for Creators 

Outro song:

Title: Rattlesnake Railroad

Artist: Brett Van Donsel

Source: Soundcloud

License: Creative Commons

Promoted by Music Library: http://bit.ly/MusicLibraryYouTube

Background Music Credits:

Music provided by Lofi Geek

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Welcome to Part IV of the sixth sector of our mega-series: Am I Always Going to Be Alone? Finding Your Fairytale from our ME³! podcast.

In our stories, we each had a different focus of the bitterness we struggled with. Shawn's was outward, directed toward God and others whereas Brandi's was internal and directed at herself. Shawn starts into his own story in how he struggled with feelings of betrayal and how he let them bring him into bitterness toward others and God. It drove him away from trusting those who he really needed to be listening to and who could've kept him from making mistakes that brought more hurt and compounded his bitterness. When we are bitter, we start to generalize with sweeping judgments and our perspective becomes warped. We can't recognize the good from the bad. We lose faith in people and that there can be a bright future for us. Brandi tells her story about how she was bitter toward herself and felt negatively toward her own thoughts and actions, being unable to forgive herself for her mistakes and let things go. Being bitter toward yourself can look like perfectionism. It keeps us from knowing our true worth and causes low self esteem. We become our own

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-Music Credits-

Intro song:

Song: My Everything by Dj Quads

Music provided by: Music for Creators 

Outro song:

Title: Rattlesnake Railroad

Artist: Brett Van Donsel

Source: Soundcloud

License: Creative Commons

Promoted by Music Library: http://bit.ly/MusicLibraryYouTube

Background Music Credits:

Music provided by Lofi Geek

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Welcome to Part III of the sixth sector of our mega-series: Am I Always Going to Be Alone? Finding Your Fairytale from our ME³! podcast.

We continue with describing the toxic behaviors that bitterness can eventually drive a person into. It is possible to get out of bitterness even when it is deeply set. A person has to choose to want to release unforgiveness and wounds from the past first. Then it is a process of continuously growing into forgiveness and surrender of the negative feelings to God from one chosen thought and act to the next. One of the advantages of going through this healing process is that we are able to transform and become greater through it. Life actually becomes richer and more enjoyable when we grow out of bitterness and into wholeness. On top of it all, we become empowered to come alongside others and help them rise from the same struggles and abuse we have endured. Nothing is permanently broken and no one is just damaged goods without a hope to be new again. There is only the need to be willing to be made willing. God will help those who see they need to change and turn to Him. If you find hope, you can be free of the survivalism of bitterness.

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-Music Credits-

Intro song:

Song: My Everything by Dj Quads

Music provided by: Music for Creators 

Outro song:

Title: Rattlesnake Railroad

Artist: Brett Van Donsel

Source: Soundcloud

License: Creative Commons

Promoted by Music Library: http://bit.ly/MusicLibraryYouTube

Background Music Credits:

Music provided by Lofi Geek

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Welcome to Part II of the sixth sector of our mega-series: Am I Always Going to Be Alone? Finding Your Fairytale from our ME³! podcast. 

We start out the discussion about how bitterness opens you up to a whole host of other negative emotions and destructive behaviors. Bitterness drives a person toward selfishness and keeps them from seeing reality in balance. One of the biggest openings for bitterness is not upholding personal Boundaries so resentment can come in with piled up offenses and hurts. When we don't let people take control of our life but choose to be a powerful person by exercising boundaries, we make sure that all of our relationships remain respectful and healthy for everyone involved. Much of bitterness comes from staying in negative relationships that are filled with toxic behavior and co-dependency. Ultimately, trying to make a person fit into us who is not the one God intended for us - or when it is not the right timing - is a major risk factor for falling into bitterness. Impatience is another major source of bitterness because being unwilling to wait for the right time and the right one can cause us to incur a lot of unnecessary wounds.

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-Music Credits-

Intro song:

Song: My Everything by Dj Quads

Music provided by: Music for Creators 

Outro song:

Title: Rattlesnake Railroad

Artist: Brett Van Donsel

Source: Soundcloud

License: Creative Commons

Promoted by Music Library: http://bit.ly/MusicLibraryYouTube

Background Music Credits:

Music provided by Lofi Geek

Check them out here: Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3dTH2FN and on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyD59CI7beJDU493glZpxgA

Welcome to Part I of the sixth sector of our mega-series: Am I Always Going to Be Alone? Finding Your Fairytale from our ME³! podcast.

In this segment we start into the subject by talking about the outward and inward expressions of bitterness. Fatalism, cynicism, faultfinding, unforgiveness, an obsessive focus on self-preservation and seeking personal gain, and being unable to move on from hurt are all characteristics of bitterness. It grows gradually in us, causing paralysis of the heart so it's harder for us to give and experience love and joy. It makes us rigid and less adaptive. One of the lies of bitterness is that we have become more sophisticated and savvy about how the world really works so that we think we are better able to see dangers to ourselves. The reality is that we are less safe in bitterness because it fails to provide genuine insight, relying instead on presumption and fear. It causes distrust withdrawal from others who could help us and see for us in the areas of our blind spots. In bitterness, we turn everything - including our relationships - into a struggle for power and self protection. Bitterness is ultimately self-sabotaging.

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-Music Credits-

Intro song:

Song: My Everything by Dj Quads

Music provided by: Music for Creators 

Outro song:

Title: Rattlesnake Railroad

Artist: Brett Van Donsel

Source: Soundcloud

License: Creative Commons

Promoted by Music Library: http://bit.ly/MusicLibraryYouTube

Background Music Credits:

Music provided by Lofi Geek

Check them out here: Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3dTH2FN and on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyD59CI7beJDU493glZpxgA

Welcome to Part V of the fifth sector of our mega-series: Am I Always Going to Be Alone? Finding Your Fairytale from our ME³! podcast.

We start out with a plea to not make excuses for people's constant bad behavior. We deliver a strong warning about the serious danger that relationships and romantic attachments pose on the flipside of all the good feelings and potential. We should never play games with our hearts. It's important to put serious thought and prayer into starting in a romantic relationship. Friendship is the best foundation for a solid, trust filled, intimate, and life-long relationship. And it should be built with intentionality and over a significant amount of quality time. Then there is a sense of safety and freedom for transparency in getting to know each other and building strong ties in a shared vision for life. The transition from being "just friends" to soulmates should be taken slowly and enjoyed. God is the Ultimate Matchmaker. He is the One who created you and the partner He made for you. If you give God the opportunity, He will show you who that person is. For that to happen, we must keep ourselves clear of being seduced with misled feelings.

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-Music Credits-

Intro song:

Song: My Everything by Dj Quads

Music provided by: Music for Creators 

Outro song:

Title: Rattlesnake Railroad

Artist: Brett Van Donsel

Source: Soundcloud

License: Creative Commons

Promoted by Music Library: http://bit.ly/MusicLibraryYouTube

Background Music Credits:

Music provided by Lofi Geek

Check them out here: Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3dTH2FN and on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyD59CI7beJDU493glZpxgA

Welcome to Part IV of the fifth sector of our mega-series: Am I Always Going to Be Alone? Finding Your Fairytale from our ME³! podcast.

Following up Brandi's story in the previous segment, Shawn tells his own story of settling in a bad relationship that started right around the same time. A major sign that Shawn was making a mistake was how strong his heart's desire was still to be with Brandi. After being extremely dejected and disappointed because of another false start in his connection and friendship with Brandi, he let himself be sucked into a girl's problems and went into a relationship with her through a lot of bad reasoning. Some big red flags that this was already a bad idea were raising their heads very quickly. Yet he was being enticed by the idea that he could make things work, feeling desperate for a win in having a relationship turn out good, and being moved by a damaged self image thinking that this was a situation that he had to take the punishment and prove that he could be loving even in the face of dealing with harsh treatment. The end of the relationship was very humbling for him and made him realize what problems he had that brought him there.

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-Music Credits-

Intro song:

Song: My Everything by Dj Quads

Music provided by: Music for Creators 

Outro song:

Title: Rattlesnake Railroad

Artist: Brett Van Donsel

Source: Soundcloud

License: Creative Commons

Promoted by Music Library: http://bit.ly/MusicLibraryYouTube

Background Music Credits:

Music provided by Lofi Geek

Check them out here: Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3dTH2FN and on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCyD59CI7beJDU493glZpxgA